What would you love to say to your ex?

[Ostryga]

I’ll start - I’m kind of grateful.

I’d never experienced emotional abuse before you, and now I know exactly what it can do to me in such a short space of time. And I’ll never allow myself to ever feel like that again.

Thanks for making me fight for myself. I know how fucking immensely strong I actually am.

I'd tell him that I wish I could go back and leave him sooner as I am able to do it by myself.

I'd also say thank you because he's shown me how strong I actually am.

What a waste of time you were.

M-you almost broke me
It’s thanks to you I had my breakdown-if you hadn’t been there I wouldn’t have had it-you tipped me over the edge
You set me up to be raped-and we both know it
You may not have done the deed but your just as guilty as E
I lost our baby-all I wanted/needed was support-you couldn’t even do that-and yes-she was yours
Then,you had the nerve to shag about behind my back and when caught you played the victim so well people believed you!
I’m not a ‘nutter’ I’m not ‘unstable’ im not ‘evil’ nor am I ‘a whore who’s well up for it mate’
I’m human
I also didn’t ‘lock you in the house’
You know as well as I do that as soon as you shut the door it locked as that is the style of the lock-some bodyguard you claimed to be-still driving for shit wages and long hours?
I’m happy now-I have my kids,I qualified (even tho you ruined that for me) and I met an amazing bloke who puts me first-he loves me,understands my batty ways,admires any new clothes I buy (doesn’t make snide comments) and just rolls his eyes at me when I act daft
I also adore his parents-unlike yours they understand we all have faults-not ‘it’s not you,it’s her fault-you’ve done nothing wrong’ even tho you couldn’t be more in the wrong
You missed out on a diamond while you where out picking up rocks
How is life after me?
Lovebombing women and finding they have more self worth and your the only one that can’t understand why nothing sticks-mummy still kissing your arse and telling you what a ‘big brave boy you are’? (Mate,your pushing 40-grow up)
Best of luck mate-I have it all-you have nothing but fluff and clouds while telling yourself you love them and what an amazing life you have
Your nothing but a grown up man baby who will end up a very lonely man
Me?I have everything you don’t
And don’t you know it

I wasn’t the crazy one, it was you. You are a controlling, gaslighting, manipulative, abusive, cheating waste of space. That’s why I didn’t want to sleep with you, I felt worlds away from you, you made my skin crawl. Inside you’re deeply unhappy. Your narcissistic self-entitled behaviour is trying to make up for what you missed as a child, your abusive parents showing preference to the older and younger brothers, you’ve always competed since then but expensive cars and watches won’t fill your void. You shouldn’t have taken it out on me.
Telling you that you’d receive divorce papers from me in the next day was one of my happiest conversations in our marriage.
When you now collect the children, I look at you with wonder as I find it hard to believe I once loved you, that love left when you cheated on me when pregnant with our second child.
But now I’m free and you’re still sad....with a saggy little paunch, a balding head and a huge heap of discontent on your shoulders.
Oh and please tell your parents that I detest them sooooo much. Your Father should get off his arse occasionally and your Mother can shove all her housekeeping advice where the sun doesn’t shine.

Arghhhhh that’s better. Thanks for starting this post OP. Congratulations to all you wonderful women who have escaped and improved their lives.

Your bother is a better shag than you

Thanks for the memories. I’m sorry we couldn’t stay friends. You were a huge part of my youth, and I miss you. I’m glad you’re happy.

Thanks for showing me how amazing sex can be.

He was an arrogant bully, but touched like a god. ( Which is why I stayed so long with him)

Dear XH,

I heard recently that you're miserable and it made me sad.

A few years ago I would have loved to hear that. I guess it just shows that our lives do not run parallel, rather they are utterly inverted.

I am having the best year of my life. Thank you for fucking off and leaving me in the shit. It did me the power of good, it really did.

I wish you all the best - although preferably far away from me. Thanks.

WWK

That I wish there was some way of telling your now girlfriend that you are active on Fab Swingers and are cheating on her. Poor woman.

I really hope you grow up soon and realise there’s more to life than friends and drinking every weekend. I hope when you meet the love of your life, you don’t screw it up again with your controlling and emotionally abusive ways. I hope you never make her feel like you made me feel and I hope she has the confidence to put you in your place if you ever do.

I hope everything I had the courage to say when I ended it, finally resonates with you so you can truly be happy and make someone else happy.

But most of all, thank you for helping me realise I’m worth so much more than feeling second best to everything else in my partners life. I deserve to be the number one thing in someone else’s life.

It the words of Jesse J
“Thank you for the pain, it made me raise my game, and just look at me now. Who’s laughing now?’

we are very strong! you just have to believe in yourself! you are well done!

What did I do to make you hate me so much?

Bet you're feeling sorry for yourself now.
Walking out on me after 20 years when I was ill making me lose my home I've worked all my life for.
Now you've been dumped by OW.
Have no job due to covid.
Are living in a shitty rental.
I've got a beautiful new home a well paid job and I'm very comfortable thank you very much.
You're just a late middle aged loser with nothing to offer anyone.

Why dont you just sign ds2 over? It's quite obvious your only playing daddy to impress your new girlfriend. PLEASE dont get this one pregnant ds2 has enough siblings he will never meet thank you.

I am no longer bitter, it has taken so many years for me to feel this way. This year I have suggested our 2 adult sons who still live with me cone to your house for evening desserts on Xmas day as they can't come on Boxing day. I could not have suggested this to sons in previous years. Merry Xmas.

I don't think I could say anything dignified to my ex. if he was ever in front of me, I'd probably end up swinging for him. I hate him that much.

@strawberrypip, it took me almost 15 years and ex very nearly died of Covid 19 for me to forgive him. I saw how upset our adult children were.

@caringcarer we have no children and honestly, I wouldnt piss on him if he was on fire.

the stuff he did to me was evil. sorry but the thread did ask what you would say to your ex.

Please stop writing to the dcs long letter about all the fun you are having with your new step children. You are not allowed to see your dcs because of the emotional abuse you put them through. And I know that you are worse with your step children, putting an hysterical 5 year old in a cold shower to shut her up is never OK. We don't show your dcs the letters, neither of them (teens) want anything to do with you. We only keep them in case we need evidence if you try to see them again

Fuck you, you misogynistic, mendacious, unreliable, fucked-up, time-wasting twat. (That goes for several of them.)

XB, I'm sorry you've lost your family. You were a wonderful man and boyfriend and was a safe place for me when my home life was so messed up. I just wish you'd had more faith in me and hadn't listened to your dad as much as you did as I would have gotten there in the end and think we could have had a good life.

XH, how's it feel still being alone because you promised me that that would be my future not yours. Do you still find happiness at the bottom of a pint glass? Will you ever realise that the mess your life ended up being is solely down to the bad decisions you made and not me leaving you (when you physically threw me out of our house after trying to strangle me in front of our toddler)?

Some really sad stories on here

For DH ex-wife. Thanks for cheating on him. He's wonderful and I'm forever grateful you're a complete fuck wit

I’d want to say ‘Fuck off’ again.