DH can’t be arsed to sit at table for Christmas dinner

[Brawsome]

Too much to expect? Five of us this year so fewer than usual. I’ve done all the shopping and will do the cooking. But he just wants his usual tray in front of the tv and has little interest in joining the family at the table and contributing to the chat. I’m beyond frustrated and just can’t face another argument. It seems very rude to me, but are my expectations too high? Ironically, if he does join us the convo will mostly be about why all the governments (UK) are wrong about Covid, so perhaps we are better off pulling our crackers without him. Anyone else dealing with similar?

YANBU. Christmas dinner is the one meal of the year where we all sit down to eat at the table, at the same time.

It extreme rarely happens at any other time due to shift work, adult DC coming & going etc etc but I really don’t think it’s too much t ask once a year!

No but then again I wouldn't have been doing all the shopping or cooking.

Why do you put up with it?

That would be a dealbreaker for me I have to say. No way in God's earth would I shop, prepare and cook food for someone who can't be arsed joining his family for lunch on Christmas Day.

Tell him if he wants a TV dinner to order a takeaway.

Sounds like Jim Royle

He sounds boring. Why isn't he helping? Why doesn't he care?

Why are you you putting up with his shit the other 364 days of the year?

The rule in our house, for all main meals, is you sit at the table or you go hungry. Kids and adults alike.

He can be a hungry arsehole on the sofa.

Ugh, what a miserable sod.

If he were my husband, if he's not at the table he doesn't eat.

I would say he is a rude arse and it wouldn't happen in our house in Christmas Day

He'll be hungry then won't he?

Well we are a sit at the table every night type of family apart from the odd pizza in front of the tv night, so it seems very odd and antisocial to me! Plus I wouldn’t want to eat a roast dinner on my lap!

YANBU, but frankly him sitting in the other room sounds preferable.

What does he bring to your life?

I hate sitting at the table for food . But am single n no one to please but me ( and the dc but sit with them while they eat n I eat later infront of the tv ) anyway by the by would I sit at the table if I had guests / special occasions / someone had been decent enough to cook for me / someone I’m meant to care about wanted me to / because it’s a socially normal thing to do in company - you bet your ass I would

He sounds rude as fuck

My dc HATE sitting at the table. It's the one day of the year that I insist on it. One of my DC is autistic so it will involve bizarre food combinations.
I give them 364 days. They give me 1.

Hell would freeze over before I dealt with even remotely similar

My husband wouldn't dare suggest that. We always sit at the table every night to eat together and xmas is even more important. Suggest he sits in the garden then with his tray on his lap the arsehole. He sounds like a miserable bastard.

That’s generally btw me sitting with them while they eat stuff like Xmas day I would sit with them n all eat together

Very rude. If he doesn't want to sit at the table then he doesn't get the dinner you cook. He can have a pot noodle in front of the TV or a chrismtas dinner with his family.
How lazy and antisocial.

He sounds completely boorish and rude. Your standards are way too low!
Some effort and willingness and bloody love are what makes the world go round. He can just sit it all out if he wants but you don’t have to sit with him, the miserable bastard.

Well if he was in my house and refused to sit at the table for the Christmas meal we were eating as a family, I would seriously be thinking whether I wanted him as family, never mind at the family meal.

Bloody hell that's awful.

My dad brings a book when we eat out. Tunes us all out, reads while he's eating.

But even he manages to sit at xmas table.

Easily fixed.., don’t invite him. Cook for everyone else and he can make toast

What a rude, arrogant git your DH is!!

If he cannot make the effort to eat with others at the table I would tell him to stay out of my site all day 😡

Op.... Do you have children that will see what a bellend he is ?

@WorraLiberty

Hell would freeze over before I dealt with even remotely similar

Yup Agreed Frankly the idea of being married to such a rude bore masked me fell ill OP!

@PastMyBestBeforeDate

My dc HATE sitting at the table. It's the one day of the year that I insist on it. One of my DC is autistic so it will involve bizarre food combinations. I give them 364 days. They give me 1.

Snap!!

DS1 really struggles eating in front of people but only yesterday he said that he will do as it's Christmas day