Am I allowed to be upset by this

[allgoodinthehood]

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

i think you are being unreasonable, if he is a loving husband in other ways then , really, does it matter

straight

Ridiculous
First world problems
Give your head a shake

Spoilt princess

YABU

YABU and a bit spoilt tbh!!

Forget his next year .... My ex would do this, everyone else and their granny would get a card and sometimes a gift but he didnt get me one out even on the month our daughter was born on the 7th and birthday was the 15th..yet first to complain if he didnt get one... same with the day our daughter was born came in with chocolates an dflowers for the nurses.. upset me that day as well.

I don’t understand why people get cards for the other halves at Christmas! Do you say ‘have a great day’ in it?? I just honestly don’t get it! I do love birthday cards and do gush in them because then it’s their day, Christmas no.

This is just stupid. So he is going around busy shops, risking catching covid to get you a card?!

WTHF

YABU. You sound very high maintenance and needy.

What an odd thing to be upset about. YABU

If you are genuinely sad, then it is not unreasonable, but I feel sorry for your husband. He sounds really lovely.

I think there are so many emotions that are high at the moment for so many reasons, and it is easy to be upset by small things, if he is a kind person then you are lucky. Think about what is important at the moment - hugs and smiles.

Nope im with you. Cards are important to me i keep my special cards so i get it. Id rather a lovely well chosen card than a present.I bought mine from thortful, the online shop this year as i couldnt get out to buy them.

Well I’m still with the man who gave me a Christmas card 26 years ago that I have to bring out every year 😂😂

Absolutely bonkers...

YABVU

Get over yourself

been married 47 years never had or given a birthday, valentines anniversay or Christmas card, did birthday cards for my daughters whlie they lived at home but northing since they moved out. Such a waste of time money effort for something you're going to throw out a couple of days later

Princess allgoodinthehood!

Yep YABVU- you sound like hard work to be honest!

Completely unreasonable. Sounds like a very box-ticking kind of relationship.

I don’t think my OH and I have ever exchanged Christmas cards. Birthday and Valentine’s yes, but not Christmas.

@SunshineCake

Good job I don't care what you think then, *@Iminaglasscaseofemotion*.

🤣 ok, calm down @Sunshinecake. I was genuinely wondering why on earth you would buy 2 cards for one person. Seems I've hit a nerve though.