Am I allowed to be upset by this

[allgoodinthehood]

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

Honestly? This is the most pathetic, ‘problem’ I’ve ever read on here. He is all those wonderful things that you list and yet you are upset that he hasn’t bought you a Christmas card? And he went to three different shops looking for the ‘right’ card (whilst risking his health!)? I think that speaks volumes about how difficult to please you are. I don’t think you deserve him. Get a life.

Having said that. My dp couldnt get me a proper birthday card this year, but he got my girls to make one for him (dds brilliant at drawing) so had that instead

I have not sent one Christmas card this year and to me a card is for somebody I don't get a gift for anyway,

Oh for the love of god, get over it. Jesus!

I get it! Me and my partner are big on cards to us it's just as important as a present. I think it's completely ok to feel upset and to voice your feelings just like anything else that might annoy you. If you don't voice it then it builds up. But don't let those feelings completely take over. It's happened now and not much you can do about it. We've tried to get each other cards but the endless crowd gatherings around the card section in the supermarket has been stressful. So we've decided to write each other a little letter instead.

Grow up

We're in a pandemic and your whining about a pissing card

Oh blimey I’m sorry but this is ridiculous! Maybe you’re stressed with xmas/COVID 🤷‍♀️

I think it’s ok to be upset because you would like a card and it would mean something to you. If he knows that and says ‘I don’t do cards’ then he is dismissing your feelings. It would be nice he if did something relatively easy like writing you a card. However it’s not worth having a tiff about. Maybe as he does other things, try and be very appreciative of anything he does that you like and then say how much you’d love a card from him too. Also ask him if there’s anything he would like you to do that you haven’t or don’t do.

Yabu.
Giving your partner a Christmas card is ridiculous. You live together. You send Christmas cards to people you don't see generally. Please don't feed into this stupid commercial happy Christmas to my son-in-law, great-auntie, stepsister crap.

Your DP is right to be annoyed with you. He can wish you a happy Christmas from midnight tomorrow, an expensive naff piece of card doesn't do it any better

I disagree with the previous comment, I don’t do cards and tell my family (large extended) every year and they still feel the need to send them and have me explain I’m not doing it. Waste of time and money and pressure that is hugely unreasonable.
If he doesn’t do cards respect it it’s his choice and by your own admission he does loads throughout the year.

YABU

No. You are wasting trees and other resources. It’s consumerism, we need to stop .

Me and DH never exchange Christmas cards. Waste of money.

I haven’t been traipsing around the shops in the middle of a pandemic and I wouldn’t expect DH to either.

I gave up with anniversaries Valentines and Christmas cards as it caused more arguments than enough.
I understand where you are coming from I liked the thought of a card but he just wouldn’t take part and I felt let down so now I don’t bother.

Poor guy. He sounds lovely.

YABU

YABVU OP poor man.

How can you be that arsed about a card, when he's a nice bloke all year round?

It's time to think about your priorities, perhaps.

I feel sorry for him.

@allgoodinthehood

Relevant My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous. He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas. I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny. He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck. He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card. He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card. So tell me strait AIBU When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way. Oh and he has got me a present.

So you're sulking because you didn't get a Christmas card?

You'll be accused of emotional abuse any minute

Weird. Didn’t realise anyone even did cards any more.

Yeah sorry but I think you’re being a bit ott. But then I didn’t realise people bought their partners Christmas cards to be honest!!

YABVVVVU! He went to THREE shops! For your silly mission to get a card

Jezus you are a handful
Careful you dont scare this beautiful man away with your crazy attitude...over a fucking card...