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Just got banned from Hampstead Mums

282 replies

FestertheJester · 22/12/2020 09:29

Kind of laughing. Kind of annoyed. Figured out why the virus is spreading though...

Pointed out that visiting multiple shops for non essential items was poor form in Tier 4. Also said if people actually needed food and couldn't access it I could help with referrals.

I mean are we all going to multiple shops looking for stollen bites, cocoa nibs and gingerbread houses?

Is anyone actually taking Tier 4 seriously?

YANBU - Taking it seriously
YABU - Not taking it seriously, visiting five shops for non essential items is fine.

(Daily Mail Journos - feel free to join the group for your scoop - it's like overheard in waitrose on steroids)

OP posts:
ReadySteadyBed · 22/12/2020 13:13

@FestertheJester

Agreed - if you only go to one or the other.

Not five freaking shops in a day because you cannot find a non-essential item?

It’s very liberating not making opinions on trivial stuff like this.

You have no idea what’s going on with them, this is tough on all of us. It might seem trivial on the outside and what they say about it openly but to them it’s important and after how long this shitshow is dragging on, they might need to go to five shops in a day to get through the day.

I fucking hate threads like this, one of the worst things about covid is the snooty judgement of other people.

alphabetsoup1980 · 22/12/2020 13:13

😂😂😂😂😂 'It doesn't make fuck all difference' You might want to Google what a double negative is!

trulydelicious · 22/12/2020 13:16

@yomommasmomma

There was a breakaway group "real Hampstead mums" created by a bitter ex HM group member called Kimberley, who also got banned from the original group

Epic! Grin

Topseyt · 22/12/2020 13:16

[quote FestertheJester]@Topseyt if you read the thread you will see my main issue was gingerbread houses.[/quote]
I read the thread. If you had read my first post you would have seen that.

I still need to know if I should be putting cheese in my coffee rather than milk.

PrincessBuggerPants · 22/12/2020 13:17

There was a breakaway group "real Hampstead mums" created by a bitter ex HM group member called Kimberley, who also got banned from the original group

Like the Real IRA Shock

TheClitterati · 22/12/2020 13:22

No one like the self appointed covid police. Grin

TheClitterati · 22/12/2020 13:23

I took the dc to the Range yesterday so they could do their Christmas shopping. shoot me.

TurquoiseDress · 22/12/2020 13:26

This thread!

Overheard in Waitrose on steroids...love it!

Grin
randomer · 22/12/2020 13:53

What is a cocoa nib?

Nowaynothappening · 22/12/2020 13:58

Non essential shops are closed in tier 4 so if they’re in a shop, it’s considered essential. They aren’t waltzing around primark to find some slippers for their kids, they’re most likely trying to get carrots for their Christmas dinner. If they need to go to 4/5 shops to achieve this (possible due to border situation) then whatever.

Really can’t get worked up about this at all. Lots of people are still in work, my DH is and that’s far more risk than him going to 3 different shops to get some honey roasted peanuts and sprouts.

Chanjer · 22/12/2020 14:00

What is a cocoa nib?

Cocoa they didn't grind properly, normally spelled cacao, more costly despite requiring less processing, pronounced badly and bought by someone quite earnest

oneglassandpuzzled · 22/12/2020 14:03

This is like Easter eggs was.

Plsv87 · 22/12/2020 14:04

YABU

justasking111 · 22/12/2020 14:09

well you would be squashed like a bug in Wales @FestertheJester but here the welsh government made it crystal clear not to womble from shop to shop. Not sure how it works in England but I would not have had a go at someone who flitted like a butterfly.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 22/12/2020 14:10

I still need to know if I should be putting cheese in my coffee rather than milk.

Coffee? You're drinking coffee during a pandemic? Surely you should be drinking tap water and liking it!

Posturesorposes · 22/12/2020 14:11

Nothing is essential.

I myself survive on a balanced diet of doornails, chipped paint and.... dust.

I have taught my children to survive on dried rusk and lashings of criticism.

We are FINE.

Those bloody people going shopping for such things as gingerbread. Shoot them.

rollinggreenhills · 22/12/2020 14:18

The only shops I've been in over the last couple of days haven't been busy anyway (and I only went in two because the first one hadn't got any potatoes). I really can't see what all the fuss is about.

Topseyt · 22/12/2020 14:19

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

I still need to know if I should be putting cheese in my coffee rather than milk.

Coffee? You're drinking coffee during a pandemic? Surely you should be drinking tap water and liking it!

Ah, maybe you're right. Maybe that is where I have been going wrong all year. WinkGrin

My morning coffee is the cause of the spread of this new variant of Covid 19. ShockShock

Who knew? Grin

Miseryl · 22/12/2020 14:19

You're doing what a lot of people do which is make up your own rules and then judge other people's behaviour against your own rules. That's unreasonable and also irrelevant because you are not other people.

dontgobaconmyheart · 22/12/2020 14:19

I actually don't think you're BU OP, but then my DP works in retail management (food) and it's fascinating that nobody gives a shit about exposing the poor workers tens of times more a day than is actually essential, just because they fancied something like one chocolate bar or fancied baking to 'get into the spirit' of lockdown and needed some icing sugar.

Very sad and selfish behaviour to not at least try and plan your lives and shop in aa few trips as possible, accept you can't always have exactly what you want 24/7 and think about what counts as essential goods.

They have people off work having had mental health breakdowns worrying about this, in case nobody was aware. The amount of people coming in daily for no real reason, or a trivial reason, worrying about who they have at home in the shielding category and whether they are exposing them because they still have to work. DP has staff members in various areas on anti anxiety meds since the pandemic began. Especially after the abuse they endured last lockdown trying to suggest to a bunch of selfish pricks that we all may want to do our bit by limiting our movements (aka not coming in 5 times a day for Mars bars, a can of coke and chewing gum). They were threatened, cars vandalised, spat at. They're working xmas day.

What is there to act contrary about here if you actually are capable of empathy and decency really.

LolaSmiles · 22/12/2020 14:22

No one like the self appointed covid police.
I dont like the covid police and have no time for people reporting neighbours for having a family member doing a doorstep delivery (yes that happened near me, wankers), but equally i do think it's fair to ask questions over whether it's really wise to be going out perusing the shops because you absolutely need to have the right gingerbread.

I'd be willing to bet that these Hampstead Mummies are a bunch of walking hypocrites who blame restrictions on poor people going to Tesco twice in a week, whilst they wander around searching for the right type of suitably artisan stollen.

The hypocrisy of the group admin is laughable. They were all too happy for the yummy mummy covid police to be uploading videos of people, including children, when in Tier 2, but then are so fragile when someone queries whether zillions of trips hunting for gingerbread is wise when you're in tier 4 with a new covid strain.

It sounds like an overgrown bitchy faction of the PTA. Some of them are probably pushy class reps as well.

ithinkyouareveryrude · 22/12/2020 14:31

It is not up to you to deem what is essential.

During the first lockdown my nephew was walking round in shoes too small for about three weeks because she COULD NOT get shoes anywhere in his size.

The local supermarkets weren't being restocked with clothing, all the online stores were either sold out or temporarily shut down.

Since when was clothing not essential?

I have a friend whose DH is an alcoholic. He was on his knees through lockdown and baking was one of the only ways he found took the edge off and passed the time - he would go to the supermarket for ingredients because if he didn't he would have been picking up a bottle.

I know a woman whose sister and her teenage daughters moved in with her to escape violence at home. The police were called on them for 'having a party'.

You're right to an extent, some people take the piss. Others don't. Maybe it's someone's first Christmas without a loved one and Stollen bites are a hugely important family tradition. To you that may mean nothing, getting hold of them may for just an hour or two push back their tide of grief.

Some people will be celebrating their last Christmas with loved ones this year, regardless of COVID.

Stop policing other people's behaviour, silently seethe if you must but we need to stop electing ourselves as judge, jury and executioner. We have no clue what others are going through.

Original poster
FestertheJester · 22/12/2020 14:38

@ithinkyouareveryrude so you think a gingerbead house is essential?

WOW.

OP posts:
justasking111 · 22/12/2020 14:38

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

I still need to know if I should be putting cheese in my coffee rather than milk.

Coffee? You're drinking coffee during a pandemic? Surely you should be drinking tap water and liking it!

You`ve got coffee!!! we are grinding acorns here Grin