AIBU to still feel utterly defeated by it all this morning?

[Matchsticklady]

I was so upset yesterday - Tier 4, no mixing - it just felt like the icing on the cake of a really shit year. Christmas was the one little bright spark before Brexit and the further doom and gloom of January and now there is just...nothing.

I thought I'd wake up and feel a bit better this morning - see the reasoning, accept it, but I don't. If anything I feel worse. Everything seems so utterly pointless. It's not just about Christmas, it's the constant infringements on our liberty and choices, often last minute, that are hugely impacting on our mental health.

I'd remained upbeat, tried to see the positives, understood it was a strange time that we've not experienced before and tried to see the logic in what the government has been doing throughout all the previous lockdowns but I'm done. I'm at my limit I think.

Had DS at the very end of 2019, and it's his first birthday soon. I don't want to be in this fog for it, it's a day we'll never get back and I don't want to look back on it and remember it as feeling sad and lost and hopeless but I don't know how to get out of this numb fog I'm in.

Are things going to get better? I really truly believed they would but now I'm starting to lose faith a bit.Sorry, just needed to get it out.

I had DD in November last year. We were Scotland tier 4 during her birthday. We just tried to make the best of it, lots of amazon party decorations including cake topper, a M&S cake, loads of balloons. Just try to pretend for a second you are a young child revelling in playing with the box more than the toy. I mean yes it was rubbish not seeing anyone but we just made it a special family experience

Well the balloons I ordered have been lost in the backlog of post and the cake order has now been cancelled but I'm going to bake a victoria sponge and I'm pretty sure he will just be delighted with the boxes and wrapping paper. We've got loads of decs up for christmas anyway and I'm sure he will have a lovely day, even if it's not what I had in my mind. Next year hopefully things will be very different in a good way

@Matchsticklady

Well the balloons I ordered have been lost in the backlog of post and the cake order has now been cancelled but I'm going to bake a victoria sponge and I'm pretty sure he will just be delighted with the boxes and wrapping paper. We've got loads of decs up for christmas anyway and I'm sure he will have a lovely day, even if it's not what I had in my mind. Next year hopefully things will be very different in a good way

Balloons not that important and seriously buy a cake if you want, bake one if you want. You are sounding more positive though.

YANBU in the slightest OP. I hope you have a decent Christmas, things can only get better!

YANBU. The news today has been totally depressing and bleak.

I am feeling a bit more positive, although the news today sent me over the edge this morning. I keep telling myself it can’t get any worse then it bloody does!
Going to crack open the roses tonight, collecting our M&S Christmas order tomorrow and hoping I’ll feel much more festive by then

@Wheresmykimchi, no, not everyone is in the same boat. I know that.

But saying that everyone is having their childhood ruined is surely overkill.

If the childhood is being ruined, the parents job is to fix it.

Accountability and all.

[quote LovePoppy]@Wheresmykimchi, no, not everyone is in the same boat. I know that.

But saying that everyone is having their childhood ruined is surely overkill.

If the childhood is being ruined, the parents job is to fix it.

Accountability and all.[/quote]
Black and white thinking @LovePoppy.

Accountability for what ?

Accountability for their part in making their child’s childhood wonderful? Less bleak?

I find it funny you think i am the one with black and white thinking.

@LovePoppy

Accountability for their part in making their child’s childhood wonderful? Less bleak?

I find it funny you think i am the one with black and white thinking.

I'm glad you find it funny but I'm not sure what is black and white about seeing that not everyone is in the same boat...

Surely things have to improve a bit come April as many vulnerable people will have been jabbed by then? Less people going into hospital with covid means the NHS is under less strain which really is the bottom line.

It is shit OP and people saying "it could be worse" doesnt really help anyone. Imagine if your mum.or BF constantly said, it could be worse, you could be dead! All the time would you think "wow I never thought of that, I suddenly feel better" or would you think "wow you emotionally inept dick"

I think it's just a matter of finding a way to cope. I have booked a few things that I have looked forward too while expecting them to be cancelled. So when it all goes TU I was half expecting it. Then I imagine I will put that cash towards something much better next year.

The OP saying its stealing the DC childhoods I can relate too. It can feel like that some days

What are your coping strategies because I feel absolutely deflated and find it hard to accept (personally I want to just yell to everyone to suck it up and live with this virus). Is it "be thankful you are alive" and/or compare yourself to those more unfortunate to yourself?

It is shite. However thepolio epidemic actually did steal kids lives in a literal sense so at least they are fenerally asymptomatic now.

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