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AIBU?

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To think more MC women should try dating WC men

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CrotchBurn · 20/12/2020 05:46

Just realised the two happiest relationships I've had have been with working class guys. This shows my prejudice but: both were actually way less misogynistic than the MC men I went out with.

I've been with my partner who is WC for five years now. Sometimes its uncomfortable as we clash on things that we hadnt realised were pretty basic for both of us but by and large I find him much more interesting, insightful and crucially less bigoted than some of the sanctimonious pricks I've dated before, who would have a lot of "theory" but actually in practice lived in quite tight bubbles that made them prejudiced without realising it.

I feel freer with my current partner, and although he can do some "alright alright" style stuff like slapping my ass 😂 I think he is much more of an actual feminist in his actions than some of the self proclaimed "feminist" men I know who are also selfish, manipulative, and gaslighting.

Also he is very house proud (I see that as quite a working class thing) and does all the cleaning - and he takes it seriously. Meanwhile I am the higher earner and do all the cooking as I was brought up to experiment with food whereas he wasnt.

Plus - its sexy going out with a man who can build and fix stuff and repair cars and does boxing. He is a non violent person but I know if there was an apocalypse or we were attacked in the street he would sort it out.

Oh and another thing which I consider to be quite a WC thing: he always knows someone who knows someone who can get us what we need/do what we need doing as a favour.

Basically: I know it's kind of "taboo" to tall about it but AIBU to think that maybe a lot of middle class women would be happier with working class men?

OP posts:
Irisheyesrsmiling · 24/12/2020 20:07

I hate the class system but I will say there's lots of evidence that higher education means later marriage and more likely to accomplish several key goals before having dc - saving for deposit, buying house etc. Obvs there are people for whom this isn't true but studies have shown a difference. WC more likely to be married in 20's than 30's etc.

I have 3 friends who not only have degrees but also masters, who have married men who didn't go to Uni and have more traditionally working class jobs. All admit they wouldn't have looked at them on a dating site (awful really) but are so glad they met in a setting where they could clearly see their great traits and not prejudge based on education level etc. All very involved and loving fathers, who do significantly more child care and are nothing but supportive of partners careers.

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