To report this even though my dd could get in trouble?

[DannyOD]

I live in London. Very high rates of Covid and rising. It is DD’s best friend’s 21st birthday and she is having a party. We are not happy about her attending and have told her so but she is insisting on going. Her cousins were 18 and 21 this year and have managed without celebrating!! I am friends with her best friends Mum and have told her of my worries but she is all breezy about it saying they have a marquee so they can go in the garden (still not allowed). So WIBU to anonymously report the party even though it could get them all in trouble? Or should I just cross my fingers and hope for the best?

I’m guessing none of the posters who are telling the OP that it’s just a bit of fun and to mind her own business have never been on a ventilator? Or on oxygen? Or had to ring an ambulance because they couldn’t breathe? I have been through all three, not because of COVID but for other reasons, and I can say with absolute certainty that none of those are experiences I wish to repeat.

I’m also guessing that none of the “mind your own business” lot have ever had to visit someone on a ventilator?

This is why it's spreading. It's not your dd spending time with her friend (which I would turn a blind eye to), it's a full on party, and because their garden is big enough for a marquee they think the rules don't apply to them.

@Echobelly

Please stop using Nazi Germany anaologies, everyone. It is really distasteful.

My grandfather's family being dragged to their deaths by people who hated them for merely existing is not comparable to opening people to the risk of nothing worse than getting fined for selfishly gathering together during a pandemic, whether you agree reporting that or not.

I should not be having to say this to people.

Well said Echobelly

@queenofknives
You've said what I think perfectly. Slightly different analogy, when I watched Handmaids Tale I thought how could the people let this happen and accept the new authority....well this is-it when Mother's report on their own children.

Op please do not report, your daughter will never forgive you!

So tell your daughter she's welcome to go but she'll have to isolate at said friends house for 2 weeks after the party which will presumably be over Xmas.

If she doesn't want to do that she'll have to pay for a private covid test before she steps foot in the house. She is 21, an adult, and old enough for their to be consequences to her selfish actions

@Echobelly

Agreed. Sick of seeing it.

Are you telling me that if your family member was a serial killer or abusing children you wouldn't report them?

Obviously not. That bears literally no relation to what I said. (Btw, do you ever pause when you do this kind of dishonest misrepresentation of others' words, and ask yourself if this is who you really want to be? Is 'winning' really worth the price of dishonesty and manipulation? Do you ever reflect on what it says about your character, or your soul?)

Please don’t report it. Don’t be that person

I’d make it clear she’d have to isolate elsewhere afterwards. If she wants to breach the rules, that’s one thing but she doesn’t get to decide to expose you or other family members to the increased risk afterwards.

Mind your own business it has nothing to do with you

I hate what this pandemic has turned into.
No, I wouldn't be happy with the party either, it's not allowed and it's not fair on everyone else.
I wouldn't curtain twitch and report either though.
YABU

Spot on @queenofknives & @towers14!

@HeyBaby2020

Please don’t report it. Don’t be that person

Yes don’t be the person who is responsible and tries to act to stop the spread of a deadly virus.

Has turned us into that should read

@HeyBaby2020

Mind your own business it has nothing to do with you

Except that it does, because it’s exposing her to covid.

@Quaagars

I hate what this pandemic has turned into. No, I wouldn't be happy with the party either, it's not allowed and it's not fair on everyone else. I wouldn't curtain twitch and report either though. YABU

Aw hello, old buddy old pal

I'd report it.

When are people going to understand, we ALL have to take responsibility for public health.

@Echobelly absolutely agree.

Are you telling me that if your family member was a serial killer or abusing children you wouldn't report them?

Oh for crying out loud lol
Yeah, because THAT'S comparable to what's being discussed

Briefing on now. Major restrictions expected, even speculation now that Christmas mixing is going to be cancelled, but in the very least talk of tier4 i.e. hard lockdown for London at the very least.

Until a couple of weeks ago, I’d have said YABU, but cousin died on Wednesday. She was 32, had no underlying health issues and caught COVID, we think, in the shopping centre, although it could have been anywhere.
We’re not going to beat this virus and get back to ’normal’ if people don’t follow the rules.
So yes, I’d report them, it’s incredibly selfish to host a party for that number, outside marquee or not.

@HeyBaby2020

Please don’t report it. Don’t be that person

Baby, try being an adult person.

Proof positive that the politicians are talking out their backsides when they say they can rely on people's common sense- how anyone can think that having a party in the current situation ( and if I understand correctly in an English area about to go into tier 4 ) is even remotely sensible .

northernbird sorry to hear about your cousin.

You can’t ‘grass’ on your own child.

We really need to stop hunting down people with pitch forks, your own health is your responsibility. Take precautions to not catch it and you won’t catch it. Everybody else isn’t responsible for your health.

When people die of the flu/other virus, people don’t go getting sour about who that person came into contact with.