What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

People who start their meal before everyone else's food has arrived. It gives me the rage (even though I'm not sure why!).

My lovely inlaws all do this and I quietly seethe

@Milkshake7489 agreed - I’d never start my food unless it was going cold (and the other diners had insisted!)

texting or going on the Internet
expecting you to visit even though the last time they visited you was 2003
not dying off when they become annoying like an American soap character

@Milkshake7489

People who start their meal before everyone else's food has arrived. It gives me the rage (even though I'm not sure why!).

My lovely inlaws all do this and I quietly seethe

But, presumably, wouldn't their food would be getting cold?

whoops
I mean texting or going on the Internet when they are supposed to be seeing you for a coffee or something.

Using their phone at the dinner table.

I am guilty of being an autocondimenter but then I always cook the food so I am entitled to.

People starting an email with just my name when:
A) they don't know me;
B) they are being generally knobbish in the email; and
C) I work in what is generally considered to be quite a formal job.

It gives me the rage. I don't mind if we've spoken before and they are being pleasant but I'd never go straight in with a first name on a professional email.

Also - totally agree with seasoning food before eating it. Especially if I made it!

Eating on the phone.

Dear god, I'm on the phone a lot for work and I HATE IT when I get a call and someone's leisurely eating their way through their lunch on the other end of the phone. It sets my teeth on edge. YOU called ME ffs!!! Finish your lunch first!!!

None of these are controversial in the slightest. I do actually have a controversial one:

Introverts who don't make an effort. I know I'll get slaughtered for saying it, but I do find it rude in social situations when people take a backseat and let others do the conversational heavylifting consistently.

I'm tired too. I think its inane too. You arent somehow more emotionally intelligent for remaining basically dumb throughout the entire evening, but you are rude because you're relying on other people putting in the effort to give the evening some semblance of meaning. Because if we all just sat there quietly well.... That would be awkward.

Agree with the seasonings of food before tasting. Dh does this alot and I used to always say Taste it first!! Given up now...

I know alot of people hate it when others talk about money but in particular for me its when friends of mine say "dh earsn x amount...oh dh earns too much to be consideree for xyz" really sets my teeth on edge!!

Not sending a 'thank you' for a gift when you haven't received it in person.

I don't mind how I am thanked - phone call, text, email, WhatsApp or letter but to just not say anything is rude. I know it's hard work to make your DC say 'thank you', I still remind my 19 year old DS . And the ridiculous excuses 'life just got in the way' .

@CountryLadyLane my DM has a friend who is constantly talking about money, drives everyone mad.

She used to tell people how much her daughter earns and try to find out what everyone else’s children are paid

Thankfully my DM hasn’t got a clue what my salary is, nor would she remember if I told her 😂

People can be very odd when it comes to money.

Persistently late (a 'one of' can happen to anyone)

Cancelling or trying to change plans at last minute

Swearing

Being constantly on phone when you've met up to see one another

@TheRaccoon

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

None of these are controversial.

Lateness.

People who are consistently late and laugh that annoying tinkly head tilt laugh when you point it out like their time is sooo more valuable than mine. You have a bloody Rolex watch that you love showing off so use it to read the time!
Can you tell I'm looking a my not-DSIL.
And breathe...

cut that's a really good point, I get so fed up with people saying they have 'social anxiety' or can't cope with social situations and small talk ... but unless there is a real, genuine issue I do think most people just can't be bothered to make the effort. Often they've managed to meet a partner and have DC ... so why is it so hard to exchange a few pleasantries?

Omg @CutToChase I completely agree with you! My in laws are so guilty of this.

I Give everyone the chance they are decent people, like most of us do.
If they step outside of that and are genuinely, obnoxious, rude arrogant
Game over. You are not the one who has a problem, they are.

Swearing at work. I love a good swear, but I think it's inappropriate at work.

Shortening people's names if you don't know them well. If Deborah wanted to be called Debbie or Debs, she would have introduced herself to you as such.

When people (secretaries or office managers etc) call you and put you on hold to speak to a Manager/MD/CEO etc. You called me!! I'm hanging up.

Funnily enough they don't call back

@Ragwort @hazandduck
Either cant be bothered or it's actually a skill that's dying out?

What gets me is very often having unspokenly doubled up with one or two other extroverts in the group to get the conversation/evening off the ground, by the end you feel absolutely shattered because you've spent 4 or 5 hours essentially working, and you can see very clearly that the introverts are actually much more energised and buoyed than when they arrived.

Then you have to read articles about how extroverts get energy in social situations and introverts are left depleted. I don't think so!!!

Whoops! I usually season my food before tasting it. I do understand how others find this annoying, however in my defence I usually find food is under-seasoned for my palate. I particularly need more salt on potatoes and other carbs.
It drives my DH mad - he does most of the cooking. Although he likes more pepper than I do.
Surely the level of seasoning depends on the individual.
It irrationally annoys me that higher quality restaurants don’t have condiments on the table.

i don't care if you earn £150k a year for working a 3 day week, or that you drive a huge car or any number of things. don't tell me because i'm not impressed with any of it.
buti will give it all barrels if you are rude, arrogant a twat or late without a good reason.
worst of all don't mess with your phone if we are having a meal or have met up for a catch up.

OK here's a random one - when you step aside to let someone or a couple or a family walk past you on a narrow pavement ( which I think is good manners - or the right thing to do - especially if more of them than you ) and they don't even look at you let alone say thank you .

It doesn't spoil my life but I do think it is rude not to acknowledge small acts of politeness.