What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

• People talking with their mouth full. To the point its mumbled and food falls out!!!
• Not saying thankyou when you allow others to pass, or you've waited back to keep distant, yet no acknowledgement
• When you are choosing something in a supermarket, and someone comes up very close and snatches something in front of you off the shelf

@ConstantlySeekingHappiness - but that's in the context of a restaurant. Obviously you shouldn't sit watching your food get cold just because the chef fucked up, it'd be weird. What's rude is when you serve guests first (because, obviously), and the instead of waiting a very tiny amount of time for you, they tuck straight in. Assuming you don't live in the tundra, food won't get cold in the time it takes for the hosts to serve themselves, so someone starting to eat before everyone is served is being rude.

(I am clearly invested in this.)

Parents allowing their children to play loud games/videos on trains

@SnowySheep

Oh email, I'm sure I upset people, I honestly don't know what's correct.

You can't say Dear ..... in an email can you? Hi is all wrong in business communication.

I usually go for Good Morning, but admit for a short, just need to impart some information email, often don't use a salutation at all.

Yes, you say 'Dear ...' in a email.

People persistently calling you by the wrong name.

People who are always late.

People who let others do all the work but who like to share the glory.

People who constantly check their phone when you are talking to them, particularly in a social setting like a catch up meal. I stopped seeing a friend because of this.

People who make assumptions on who or what you are without any foundations. A colleague in her 40s who had given up having a child due to fertility issues, suddenly got pregnant. I said congratulations when I found out. She said she worried about mentioning it to me, she knew I was desperate for a child. I have never been desperate for a child, I had no urge to have kids at all and had never expressed a desire to have them to her or any colleague. She was projecting her desires onto me. She looked unconvinced when I said she had got me wrong.

People who only let you get a couple of words out before they speak again, they want all the airtime. Or speak over you loudly.

BasaliskStare - I completely agree with you!!!!

I find wedding lists rude and ditto the 'suggested donation' wedding invites... Present lists in general tbh.

I think expecting gifts at any occasion goes against everything I was brought up to believe in - and it puts so much unnecessary pressure on people that can't afford it, and can then slightly taint everything.

If people want to give something then fine, write a card and pop something in there but I don't think there should ever be the expectation I hate it!

@Whererainfalls

When you go to visit someone and they don't offer you a drink within the first five or ten minutes of you being there.

I'm Irish, it's the done thing.

i find offering doesn't come into it. tea appears with cake, scones, sandwiches etc etc, almost as soon as you sit down.

I have quite a long first name which all but a handful of people use. I introduce myself to a new person with said long name and get seriously annoyed when they immediately shorten it without asking me. Gets me EVERY SINGLE TIME.

I also hate being out with a friend (there's one in particular though another is quite guilty of this) who then bumps into somebody she knows without saying to me "Oh this is xxxx" or "Let me introduce you to xxxx". I then have to stand there like a lemon. I've actually started saying "So who've we got here then" to try and jolt her into some basic etiquette but she's never taken the hint so far.

My other pet hate is going into a coffee shop, ordering my drink and then they ask "Regular or large?" What's wrong with normal or large? Regular is a horrid Americanism which has filtered through into our daily speech. I really hate it.

People who interrupt. A member of my team talks over the top of me all the time. I tell him to stop every time. 🤬

Something that gets on my nerves is when people text and ask for something, can they borrow something, can they pop round, have you got some information they need, could be anything. But then, if you reply and say sorry, you can't help, they don't bother to text back and say 'thanks anyway' or 'no worries'. I can forgive it once but I know a couple of people who always do this. You just know, if you haven't got what they want, they're not interested. I just find it quite rude and impolite.

Getting my name wrong. Or spelling it wrong when you're sending me an email, the address of which is the correct spelling of my name!
Add to that addressing me by my surname because you're a fucking idiot and think that's my first name.

Also

Children speaking to adults they don't know and being rude/ cheeky to them. This is a real bugbear of mine. As a child I was told you didn't address an adult, if they spoke to you then of course you responded. But kids round here heckling and shouting Oi at you and then when you don't respond calling you a rude bitch (all under 10 btw) is not acceptable to me.

@LagneyandCasey

Not taking your shoes off in other people's houses. I find it utterly rude!

but this was unheard of when i was brought up, unless one was wearing wellingtons in snowy winter. i think this came from abroad, and has gradually spread to some people here, mostly younger or people with overseas connections. i don't think it is the norm in older traditional type houses/ families, is it. also it could seem pretentious, as if the visitor is behaving like they live there, are making themselves too relaxed. it's different of course if it is requested on entry.

People who put salt and pepper on food before tasting it.

@CutToChase

None of these are controversial in the slightest. I do actually have a controversial one:

Introverts who don't make an effort. I know I'll get slaughtered for saying it, but I do find it rude in social situations when people take a backseat and let others do the conversational heavylifting consistently.

I'm tired too. I think its inane too. You arent somehow more emotionally intelligent for remaining basically dumb throughout the entire evening, but you are rude because you're relying on other people putting in the effort to give the evening some semblance of meaning. Because if we all just sat there quietly well.... That would be awkward.

Interesting. I think I find this rude too and would never admit it. I sometimes feel I talk way too much and am far to open, but it's not fair to judge me on that when I am just trying to make sure we aren't having the shittiest time ever.

@Melange99

People persistently calling you by the wrong name.

People who are always late.

People who let others do all the work but who like to share the glory.

People who constantly check their phone when you are talking to them, particularly in a social setting like a catch up meal. I stopped seeing a friend because of this.

People who make assumptions on who or what you are without any foundations. A colleague in her 40s who had given up having a child due to fertility issues, suddenly got pregnant. I said congratulations when I found out. She said she worried about mentioning it to me, she knew I was desperate for a child. I have never been desperate for a child, I had no urge to have kids at all and had never expressed a desire to have them to her or any colleague. She was projecting her desires onto me. She looked unconvinced when I said she had got me wrong.

People who only let you get a couple of words out before they speak again, they want all the airtime. Or speak over you loudly.

These are clearly rude thought and I think most people would agree.

1. People who put their bags on the table
2. People who put their phones on the table
3. People who tuck into their food before everyone else has received theirs. Either wait until the host says "please start" or ask "may I start?"
4. People who put their elbows on the table. It is so antisocial.

My pet hate is people who say 'are you alight?' Or just 'alright there?' in a customer service setting ... I work in customer services, the correct expression is 'may I help you' .... but so few people seem able to say that. And why can't people reply when I greet them with a 'good morning' when they come into my (small) shop ... is it that hard? Of course lots of people do reply 'good morning/afternoon' but it is mainly, older people, so many younger people are glued to their phones or have ear plugs in and just seem incapable of a polite greeting.
And I am equally annoyed when sales assistants don't offer me help in a shop - I choose to use 'real' shops not shop on line and I like personal service. .

@Ideasplease322

People who interrupt. A member of my team talks over the top of me all the time. I tell him to stop every time. 🤬

Oh this with knobs on.

@CutToChase
OMG I agree with this!!

People who say what instead of pardon. I know what is "proper" but it sounds so rude to me, like you're being barked at. My boss does it all the time, makes me want to scream

Money. My mother always said ‘people who talk about money, don’t have money.’ She’s right. The richest people I know never ever discuss their finances. Whereas the designer wearing, Dubai breaks, Audi financed drivers and grey crushed velvet owners always let you know ‘they have money’.

During the first lockdown, walking the dog, the amount of people who would simply stroll in the middle of the pavement, forcing me to walk on the grass. So rude. Just yesterday a group of oldies stood chatting away, not budging as my son and I approached. We ended up on the grass and for once I snapped loudly
“Well that was awkward!” If I had the balls, I would have pushed DS towards them and ordered him to cough. Dickheads.

People who telephone me and have the television blaring beside them, such that they have to virtually shout over the top of it. Please choose one or the other.

People who cut me off and finish my sentences. This is especially annoying when they are right (DD). It makes me feel boring and predictable.

@Asthenia

I HATE when I’m sitting in the aisle seat on public transport and the person next to me needs to get off so just stands up without making any eye contact with me and expects me to move. I find it so rude but no one else ever seems to be bothered by it! If I’m in the window seat and need to get past, I always say “excuse me please” or even just “sorry” and a smile. I don’t know why it bothers me so much.

When I used to commute I hated this. I would deliberately ignore them and not move until they asked, and then smile and say, "Of course" and immediately let them past. Obviously if the train/bus was on fire or they were in clear distress then I wouldn't make such a P-A gesture.

When you are choosing something in a supermarket, and someone comes up very close and snatches something in front of you off the shelf

Nope. Taking ages staring at packets in the supermarket is rude! If you need to study the back of the packet like it's the bloody Dead Sea Scrolls take a step back and do it somewhere quiet. I find it so rude when people block off a busy section staring at the butter for a revelation. It's the same bloody butter every week pick up your brand and move on.