What things do you find rude that others don’t seem to?

[TheRaccoon]

I’ll go first:

• People who season food before they’ve tried it
• People who take ages to text back (or don’t at all)
• People who are late for no reason

People who don't say please and thank you. I know you're thinking "but most people find that rude" - well judging by the woeful lack of manners in today's society, I'd say not. I'm a teacher of 14-18 yo's and it seriously bugs me how often I have to remind them of their manners

People who spend ages washing and throughly drying their hands , when it's one in one out for toilets. My mum does it. Drives me nuts.

@Milkshake7489

People who start their meal before everyone else's food has arrived. It gives me the rage (even though I'm not sure why!).

My lovely inlaws all do this and I quietly seethe

Ooh I hate that too. No one outside my family seems to wait!

People who are late for no reason

Op surely everyone thinks that’s rude, op?

@CutToChase so many of you feel like this!

Just to present the introvert perspective, well mine at least, I don't always speak because I am crap in groups and can't work out when to interject, how to join in. The social awkwardness means I miss the gap in conversation and start to panic inside. I start to feel like I can't enjoy the conversation properly as I am concentrating so hard to listen while panicking and also trying to figure out how to join in. This usually ends in me frozen and wishing I wasn't there. I also feel more comfortable with people who don't talk so much so the gaps are bigger for me to attempt to speak in. Introverts a lot of the time don't know how to do small talk but I bet, get into a meaty honest conversation and you won't shut us up

Eating in shops. Followed a child round Poundland yesterday. She was eating a sausage roll, so fingers right in mouth, then touching everything. Bleurgh

While it's rude to interrupt, I hate when someone hogs the conversation whether in a meeting or a social occasion.

I have a neighbour who does this. You think he's at last pausing to let someone else get a word in, but he's just drawing breath and tells you to let him finish.

Needless to say I avoid conversations with him now. A quick 'hello' and walk on works best.

People who ‘don’t mind’

No matter what you ask them, they don’t mind. Meaning I always have to pick or think up ideas or places to go or what to do. It’s draining. For the love of FPS, please just suggest something!

when you step aside to let someone or a couple or a family walk past you on a narrow pavement ( which I think is good manners - or the right thing to do - especially if more of them than you ) and they don't even look at you let alone say thank you .

This always amuses me when it's a family and only the children say thank you. They can't have learned their good manners from their parents!

@LagneyandCasey ah the good ol shoes off debate. You see I find it rude to ask people to remove their shoes (I'm not talking muddy wellies here) at their house. Incredibly rude. And it's almost always always a when I've got a mismatched pair of socks with a toe poking out of a hole. Making your guests uncomfortable is very rude. I don't know how it's infiltrated here (UK) but certainly wasn't the norm when I was growing up.

Starting your meal before the hostess has picked up her knife and fork is very rude, unless invited to. My DMs partner's children do this. They often Wolfed down their entire course before DM had even sat down. And of course they don't offer to help clear the dishes.

Speaking of which clearing the dishes by stacking them at the table. Hideous!

Any phone usage apart from an emergency when in company is awfully rude.

Being early. God that's awful. Being hideously late nearly as bad.

There are so many. I'll stop now.

People playing around on their mobiles in social situations.

Put it away and talk to people.

People who don't cover their mouth when they yawn. This seems to be very common these days, one of my colleagues often does it. It drives me mad. The same as constant sniffing, use a tissue!
People who are constantly playing in their phone when they're with you, but who get grumpy if you Google one thing on yours (DSIS, I'm thinking of you!)

@CutToChase I am 100% with you in introverts. It changes the dynamic to have a silent person in the party, who is clearly not enjoying themselves, and unless someone has a gun to your head you chose to be there so contribute or stay at home

People who plug their devices into the sockets without asking in cafes and pubs. I get ridiculously annoyed on the behalf of the staff. They’re usually the ones who hog a table and nurse a small coffee for three hours straight while they work on said device.

@BakedTattie

People who ‘don’t mind’

No matter what you ask them, they don’t mind. Meaning I always have to pick or think up ideas or places to go or what to do. It’s draining. For the love of FPS, please just suggest something!

And even worse, when you say "OK then let's go to the snail and lettuce restaurant (or some other place that caters for everyone)" the answer is "oh no I don't like it there" if you're gonna be a fussy arse then you make the suggestion

[quote PandemicPalava]@CutToChase so many of you feel like this!

Just to present the introvert perspective, well mine at least, I don't always speak because I am crap in groups and can't work out when to interject, how to join in. The social awkwardness means I miss the gap in conversation and start to panic inside. I start to feel like I can't enjoy the conversation properly as I am concentrating so hard to listen while panicking and also trying to figure out how to join in. This usually ends in me frozen and wishing I wasn't there. I also feel more comfortable with people who don't talk so much so the gaps are bigger for me to attempt to speak in. Introverts a lot of the time don't know how to do small talk but I bet, get into a meaty honest conversation and you won't shut us up [/quote]
This is exactly why I struggle in large groups

@Andante57 I’ve seen quite a few threads on here from people who give all these inadequate reasons for always being late (“I just underestimate how long it takes me to get ready/to get to xyz”) and they seem to think it’s completely reasonable!

Turning up without asking if its convenient.

People who get another drink/ tea/ round for themselves without asking anyone.

People who don't say thank you for a gift.

People who delegate decision making. In addition to the ‘I don’t mind’ crowd, I’m thinking of a few colleagues who forward on every thing which touches their desk to large groups asking for ‘initial thoughts’ or worse hold meetings to do so. They pass it off as inclusivity but it takes up so much of my time and is so unproductive. Do the analysis and then send it around so we have something to review.

Addressing me on the phone by my first name when I don't know them. So many people think that's old fashioned but I really do take umbrage at that!

When somebody explains something and then asks: 'Do you understand what I mean?'
I find it so rude.

Nope. Taking ages staring at packets in the supermarket is rude! If you need to study the back of the packet like it's the bloody Dead Sea Scrolls take a step back and do it somewhere quiet. I find it so rude when people block off a busy section staring at the butter for a revelation. It's the same bloody butter every week pick up your brand and move on

😂😂 completely agree @DimidDavilby

Also people who probably couldn't even work an old Nokia 3210 taking up time at the self serve checkout, constantly asking the assistant what they're suppose to do (meaning everyone else has to wait too and queues get longer) and the routine usually goes like this:

• stares at self service machine
• stares at basket
• picks product out of basket
• stares at product
• stares at machine
• stares at product again
• spends forever looking for the barcode
• finally finds barcode
• stares at machine
• stares back at bar code
• slowly but surely, at the speed of a drunk snail, loses product to the scanner
• waves product about
• product scans
• stares at machine
• stares at products
• stares at machine
• exclaims "did that go through?"
• peers at scanned list on machine
• stares at product
• realises it's gone through (for every 4 products the shopper will check with an assistant)
• back to the drunk snail lace of putting the product onto the scales
• "unexpected item in bagging area"
• picks product up
• puts product down
• assistant comes to sort it all out
• repeat for next 17 items in the basket

At the end

• stares at machine
• stares in the empty basket
• stares at machine again
• spends 2 minutes finding wallet
• stares at wallet
• opens wallet
• stares at bank cards
• stares at cash
• either deposit cash or uses bank card, the drunk snail comes out again
• machine says goodbye
• stares at machine
• "is that it done?"
• stares at machine
• stares at shopping
• drunk snail picks shopping away
• fucker realises he forgot piccalilli
• several people in the queue due of starvation

@CutToChase

None of these are controversial in the slightest. I do actually have a controversial one:

Introverts who don't make an effort. I know I'll get slaughtered for saying it, but I do find it rude in social situations when people take a backseat and let others do the conversational heavylifting consistently.

I'm tired too. I think its inane too. You arent somehow more emotionally intelligent for remaining basically dumb throughout the entire evening, but you are rude because you're relying on other people putting in the effort to give the evening some semblance of meaning. Because if we all just sat there quietly well.... That would be awkward.

You're obviously not an introvert! So you won't understand how an introvert feels in a social situation dominated by extroverts, it's so irritating when everyone else is almost SHOUTING for attention and if you do make a comment it feels like it goes by with little interest. As an introvert, it feels awkward, embarrassing and very, very difficult to get a word in edgewise. It's not a question of feeling more superior or emotionally intelligent! If you want an introvert to talk, talk TO them, draw them out - you might even find they are interesting?

@mena51 my pet hate is, when something extremely simple has been explained: "does that make sense?"