DH regularly tells me to 'shut up' when I baby talk DS

[Millano]

Just that really- AIB overly sensitive when DH mutters or says 'shut up' when I'm baby talking to our 5 month old DS. I realise it's probably quite insane to listen to because (this just happened) I use a baby voice when undressing him for bath and say 'it's bare butt time! It's bare butt time!' and DS is pissing himself laughing. But I just heard DH say shut up, and I just said 'I hear that from you a lot, it's just so upsetting'. I'm sat sulking now. I'm being pathetic right??

Imagine a teacher saying ‘butts on seats please children!’
I'd be a bit surprised they were using an American term but it's no cruder than saying bums on seats.

You said “bare butt time” at least three times in this thread alone, I can see how it would get irritating.

I wouldn't say butt because I'm not American but I'm really surprised people find it offensive.

Butt isn’t akin to swearing. Arse might be surprising but a butt is a butt is a butt.

Fuck me once again Mumsnet has moved into a parallel universe, A 2020s pearl clutching Downton Abbey perhaps.

Butt isn't swearing, baby talk is normal, your husband is a bell end, some posters on here are bloody weird.

Carry on OP.

Butt is a pretty vulgar term though it’s not offensive.

That's it in a nutshell @Meatshake. I think any further comment is now redundant.

@Meatshake

Fuck me once again Mumsnet has moved into a parallel universe, A 2020s pearl clutching Downton Abbey perhaps.

Butt isn't swearing, baby talk is normal, your husband is a bell end, some posters on here are bloody weird.

Carry on OP.

Ha brilliant, thank you.

Shall we all just assume, for the sake of the thread, that 'butt' isn't offensive in the bit of the world occupied by OP, and that some people from other areas do find it offensive..?

This is the thing, I speak normally to babies, but I sing nursery rhymes (without turning them into nappy change time songs), I read in animated way with voices for characters. I think the most important thing is to show love, kindness and a little interest.

If you redoing that you are obviously engaging with them. And I'll bet you're smiling at them - that's incredibly important and engaging.

It’s like talking about bare arse, booty, bumhole on repeat etc. At best it’s vulgar at worst it’s swearing

It is NOTHING like *rse, or even bumhole (and I can't see anyone saying "bumhole" to a baby).

Have to admit, I'm in the North and you wouldn't hear it much here (only from "yoof" who watch too much American television). You might hear bum, bot, botty, bottom, or backside in ordinary conversation. Anything with *rse would be considered a bit rude, but not the others.

People with pretensions of grandeur, or a sense of humour, might say"derriere".

This thread is cracking me up at all the pearl clutching over "butt". Here in south Wales it's used all the time the way "mate" would be used elsewhere.

@Juniperandrage

This thread is cracking me up at all the pearl clutching over "butt". Here in south Wales it's used all the time the way "mate" would be used elsewhere.

Me too, laughing over all the gasping and horror at the word butt. BUTT BUTT BUTT!!

[quote RosesAndHellebores]@eckhart absolutely. Possibly that's why my dc are both Oxbridge. I thank my hv for telling me it was her job to make sure I spoke to my DS enough for him to develop speech. So I read him the Iliad and the Odyssey and nurtured a live of classics. He took a first in Classics from Oxford in 2017. Currently doing a PhD.

High standards beget high standards and don't include "butts".[/quote]
😂 I don't know if this was supposed to be funny, but
It happens your children are intelligent , I read and spoke to my daughter from birth , but no amount of the classics would have stopped her from having special needs.

@3rdNamechange if I have offended you please accept my apologies. I did not intend to be offensive to any parent of a child with sen or indeed to any child with sen or any other disabilities. If you interpreted it so or felt it a passive aggressive criticism I am truly sorry.

People who find the word 'butt' offensive even when said in a jokey way to a tiny baby are the same type of people who leave those plastic covers on their sofas, won't have a loo brush or a bin in the bathroom and tut at people who put out the recycling in their dressing gown. Im sure of it.

@Unicant

People who find the word 'butt' offensive even when said in a jokey way to a tiny baby are the same type of people who leave those plastic covers on their sofas, won't have a loo brush or a bin in the bathroom and tut at people who put out the recycling in their dressing gown. Im sure of it.

That's so true. I have all these things. 'bare butt time' = common as muck. I can't help it. It's a visceral reaction. Otherwise OP you're doing a fine job.

*Butt isn't swearing, baby talk is normal, your husband is a bell end, some posters on here are bloody weird."

10/10!

@PinkiOcelot

I personally hate baby talk. I talked to my babies obviously, but not in baby talk. It’s not necessary.

You couldn’t be more wrong! It’s very necessary!!!

Unicant
“People who find the word 'butt' offensive even when said in a jokey way to a tiny baby are the same type of people who leave those plastic covers on their sofas, won't have a loo brush or a bin in the bathroom and tut at people who put out the recycling in their dressing gown. Im sure of it.”
derxa
That's so true. I have all these things.
'bare butt time' = common as muck. I can't help it. It's a visceral reaction.
Otherwise OP you're doing a fine job.

I mean, the real question for me then, derxa, is do you ever get tired of insisting that it’s pronounced the Bouquet residence every time you pick up the telephone?

What part of "babies like it and it's good for them" is hard to understand here? Of course adults might find baby talk tedious, along with lots of other stuff that babies like that adults don't, but most of us are capable of understanding that we aren't the target and putting up with it.

Regardless of how irritating it is to listen to, he cannot be saying that to you, especially in front of a child. How rude and hurtful and what an awfully poor example.

I have a friend who found himself on his own with his baby son. Your partner should be thankful his child has a loving mother.

I would have a firm chat about expectations.

@RightYesButNo

Unicant “People who find the word 'butt' offensive even when said in a jokey way to a tiny baby are the same type of people who leave those plastic covers on their sofas, won't have a loo brush or a bin in the bathroom and tut at people who put out the recycling in their dressing gown. Im sure of it.” derxa That's so true. I have all these things. 'bare butt time' = common as muck. I can't help it. It's a visceral reaction. Otherwise OP you're doing a fine job.

I mean, the real question for me then, derxa, is do you ever get tired of insisting that it’s pronounced the Bouquet residence every time you pick up the telephone?

Brilliant!

No problem , thank you