WEIRD text message

[guacamole7]

I hate to but i've NC'd due to this being so obvious as I'm including an exact text.

SO:

On Saturday night around 9pm DH's work colleague (younger, female) sent him a whatsapp saying "I bet you get bored having sex ;)"
Conveniently (or not) I was actually on his phone at the time as me and DD were playing a game on the phone (DD is 4 and didn't read this FYI).

I obviously immediately asked DH wtf this was, and he claimed to have no idea. There was no previous message thread with them so nothing incriminating. I stupidly messaged her myself to ask what this was, which she replied about an hour later to say that she was really sorry and she and her friends were drunk and she hadn't meant to send the text. She followed this up the next morning with another message saying she was sorry and really embarrassed about it and it meant nothing.

The whole time, DH has claimed to be absolutely clueless about why she would send this and also said she must be drunk and she has a bit of a reputation for going out and drinking etc.

Anyway, cut to now and for whatever reason I just feel very paranoid about this and feel unable to accept this means nothing. I don't know why but I just feel it is so bizarre for her to send him with absolutely no context. I have actually asked friends I have made from DH's work what they are like together at work. Nothing incriminating has come out of it apart from that they are friends but nothing more. I personally feel that DH has acted slightly shifty about it but nothing I could put my finger on, more just gets annoyed at me for keep bringing it up and asks what I want him to do about it.

AIBU here?

If I'd received a drunk text of a male colleague saying that, and DH subsequently kept going on about it and how it upset them whilst I had nothing to do with it, I would get pretty defensive and annoyed as well. This seems like an insane overreaction. If you are in a WhatsApp work group, which a lot of us are, you then have access to the numbers of everyone in that group. That's how I have the numbers of my colleagues and bosses, whether I speak to them or not.

I could easily send one of them a text that way, even if I've never spoken to them before. That kind of reaction to something so innocuous would make me think twice about telling my OH things in case I offend them next time, which is probably more damaging to a rela than the drunk texting of an adult tween.

Yeah fair enough tempuraprawn. I always think AIBU is so useful, getting the range of opinions.

Just remember communication, trust and honesty and all this will be is a wee learning experience x

All those saying to report to HR - if the guy gets on well with her usually, do you honestly think he would be reporting her?

He could be secretly thrilled if he thinks she has a crush, or there could be something going on between them, or at most he may not want the awkwardness that it could cause at work.

I don't believe they didn't discuss this incident in more detail with this woman. I mean really he should know more than he is letting on.

If I was having or hoping for an affair I sure as heck wouldn't let my partner near my phone for any reason, that would be crazy!

All goes for he is 100% innocent. People do some strange things when drunk.