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To ask something you’d love that you can’t ever have

333 replies

GrinchnotHinch · 14/12/2020 21:26

Is there anything in this world you would love to do or have that just isn’t an achievable goal? You know when people say you can achieve anything if you set your mind to it? Well, the thing you can’t have either way.

Mine would be to adopt a child. I have all the love in my heart to give to adoptive children, I know I could love them just as my own and deal with the challenges unconditionally. Unfortunately I have a mental health diagnosis, two previous (malicious) reports to Social Services and a DP who doesn’t feel the same on the subject. I do have biological children but I will always dream of adopting.

Is there anything for you?

OP posts:
Ltdannygreen · 14/12/2020 23:10

A trip to New York.... far to expensive for me so unless I win the lottery or find out I have a big inheritance then I’ve got no chance.

Oneliner · 14/12/2020 23:10

A functioning government.

Janaih · 14/12/2020 23:11

Pass my driving test. Failed 5 times. I'm quite smart but have brain fog and made a different stupid mistake on each one. I dont think I can face any more tests.

HazelBite · 14/12/2020 23:11

To be a Grandma

MyopiaUtopia · 14/12/2020 23:12

To no longer be partially sighted and drive a car

To have one really really good friend

Whirlwind14 · 14/12/2020 23:17

A different career. I wish I’d done a law degree or even midwifery. After two pretty much back to maternity leaves I was forced to quit my job as no scope for flexibility. I want to do something that interests me now but at 39, two very young children and being out of the work game for the best part of 4 years it’s not really an option...

LookToTreblesGoingTreblesGone · 14/12/2020 23:18

For my husband's cancer to not be rare and incurable.

Thegreymethod · 14/12/2020 23:19

@Janaih

Pass my driving test. Failed 5 times. I'm quite smart but have brain fog and made a different stupid mistake on each one. I dont think I can face any more tests.
I honestly honestly thought I would never pass my test I even asked my instructor more than once has he ever had someone who is just completely incapable of passing the test. I used to spend so long wishing I could drive, finally passed on my 3rd try 5 years ago and I'm 43 now. I'd had lessons on and off for years and never made it to the test because I'd get so worried about it. When I finally did pass I burst into tears when the instructor said I'd passed. Good luck and Keep going it'll be so worth all the stress.
Truthlikeness · 14/12/2020 23:19

A couple of kids of my own and a partner. I'm too old for the former and not optimistic enough for the latter.

UndertheCedartree · 14/12/2020 23:21

I'd love for my DC to not have both parents with serious mental illness. I am racked with guilt about it Sad

MooseBreath · 14/12/2020 23:21

I would love to own my own dance studio. Not very likely at this point, as I chose to prioritize having a family and moving to the UK.

brunoc12 · 14/12/2020 23:22

What about a keyboard? They have them on amazon and for a pretty decent price. Easy to store away.

NotMiranda · 14/12/2020 23:22

I would like a new body. My current one is pretty unsatisfactory - I've had 2 knee replacements, 1 hip replacement, arthritis pretty much everywhere, plus when I had a recent torso scan they found an 8cm ovarian cyst - I already had 2 and some fibroids removed >10yrs ago. So just being able to feel a bit bouncy again would be wonderful.

I would also like to time travel and talk severely to my third-year undergraduate self about finding work that played to my talents, and help that self to understand what those talents actually were.

CarryOnFestiveNamechanging · 14/12/2020 23:22

To have a career and be someone people admire and respect

UndertheCedartree · 14/12/2020 23:22

@LookToTreblesGoingTreblesGone - I'm so sorry Flowers

Corner13 · 14/12/2020 23:23

To be confident

FatLassNumber1 · 14/12/2020 23:23

To play the drums again. I have a serious spinal condition needing fusion plus hip dysplasia which makes sitting uncomfortable, let alone using the pedals

Mumoftwoinprimary · 14/12/2020 23:24

Perfect eyesight. And to not have passed my crappy eye sight onto poor little ds.

To be able to eat one square of chocolate, think “ooh - how delicious” and then get on with my day. (Sugar is my drug of choice.)

To no longer be anxious.

Grellbunt · 14/12/2020 23:24

The ability to see without thick glasses. A tan and a job as a judge.

Grenlei · 14/12/2020 23:24

Ah Janaih please take your test again! I passed 6th time and am a pretty good driver (nearly 5 years on, no accidents and I drive 200 miles to see DP every couple of months, which I never thought I'd be able to do). You've come so far already.

One thing I'd love would be to have got back in touch with my best friend from my 20s before she died a few years ago. I hadn't spoken to her for many years and will always regret missing that opportunity.

Lucy830 · 14/12/2020 23:25

To not have shitting health anxiety and believe I am dying every day!

I’d also like to be told I will live to a minimum of 70.

Oh, and I’d like to be not fat without putting in any effort.

Janaih · 14/12/2020 23:26

Thanks @Thegreymethod that gives me hope! I am going to try again next year.

Holothane · 14/12/2020 23:27

Must admit I’d love my health back bad eyes I can live with I’ve always had them to have dhs health back he’s got drug induced Parkinson’s now.

Janaih · 14/12/2020 23:27

And thanks @Grenlei. Sorry about your friend, that is sad Flowers.

DoreensEatingHerSoreen · 14/12/2020 23:29

To not have stupid cancer -that would do for me