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To ask something you’d love that you can’t ever have

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GrinchnotHinch · 14/12/2020 21:26

Is there anything in this world you would love to do or have that just isn’t an achievable goal? You know when people say you can achieve anything if you set your mind to it? Well, the thing you can’t have either way.

Mine would be to adopt a child. I have all the love in my heart to give to adoptive children, I know I could love them just as my own and deal with the challenges unconditionally. Unfortunately I have a mental health diagnosis, two previous (malicious) reports to Social Services and a DP who doesn’t feel the same on the subject. I do have biological children but I will always dream of adopting.

Is there anything for you?

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Avonandice · 14/12/2020 22:53

@littlepinkwinky

Eyebrows.I would really love some eyebrows.
I have half an eyebrow as they fell out - found an amazing woman who tattoo'd me some. Have to get them topped up every couple of years but unless you are inches from my face you can't tell.
GinTonicOnIt · 14/12/2020 22:53

For my child to no longer have special needs, so he could join in with his peers, talk and be able to read and write

OppsUpsSide · 14/12/2020 22:53

Happy marriage

Gottalovesummer · 14/12/2020 22:54

To have my lovely nan back. She died over 20 years ago and I think about her every day.

Sn0tnose · 14/12/2020 22:54

For DH and a few other family members to be in great health

To have lungs that work properly and good mental health

And on a slightly more material basis, to win £148 million on Euro millions, (specific amount was from a lovely dream I had) so we can spend 100 on friends, families and lots of little charities, then 48 on land, design our own home and have a small holding with alpacas, pet pigs, chickens and a couple of people who will clear up their poo and who won’t accidentally kill all the carrots by forgetting to water them. And never have to even think about work again.

Thegreymethod · 14/12/2020 22:54

I wish I could have a beautiful big house that wasn't falling apart like mine is, every day it's something different and another thing to add to the list of things I can't afford to fix!! I am grateful we have a house and I do think it's nicely decorated I just wish I didn't feel embarrassed every time someone came round because it's obviously needs loads of work doing and it feels overwhelming, it's really weighing on my mind at the moment because I am quite house proud and like to keep it really tidy I suppose one day we'll look back and laugh at how we used to manage but it feels like a lifetime away.

Whammyyammy · 14/12/2020 22:54

No brexit or covid posts on mn for 2 weeks......

StCharlotte · 14/12/2020 22:55

Off street parking.

And a baby.

SheldonesqueIsUnwell · 14/12/2020 22:56

If I could take the pain away from everyone here I would.

So I would also like a magic wand. Flowers

For those who wish to sing, I will sing. You will sound like an angel compared to me. Then I will waggle my wand.

silver otter. Thank you. For you too Flowers

Bloodypunkrockers · 14/12/2020 22:57

@PomBearWithoutHerOFRS

To have a beautiful gown, and be slim and mobile, and dance a Viennese waltz with a gorgeous talk dark stranger, at 4a.m. in a ballroom lit by candles and chandeliers.... (I may put too much thought into this, it's one of my favourite daydreams and the man looks suspiciously like Sam Elliot )
That's lovely
susandelgado · 14/12/2020 22:59

I'd like to able to keep chickens again Sad

mistermagpie · 14/12/2020 22:59

I'd would love to have loving and supportive parents in my life. I haven't spoken to mine in years and years and won't see them again, they have never met my three children or anything. I don't miss 'them' but I feel the absence of parental love often.

Bloodypunkrockers · 14/12/2020 23:00

To not be fat

To not be single

opinionminion · 14/12/2020 23:01

I would like my husband back

farawayplanet · 14/12/2020 23:02

I'd like a dog, but I can't have one.

WoahBodyforrrm · 14/12/2020 23:03

To not have a brain tumour that won't leave me alone. Not much to ask really ☹️

doubleshotespresso · 14/12/2020 23:03

My career back and any independent money.... am now full time carer to my disabled daughter and whilst it's the right thing it's very hard to accept sometimes. I detest not being able to earn my own money anymore-it worries me deeply

ZoeTurtle · 14/12/2020 23:03

To be able to walk for miles again. I can manage a few hundred yards now (though still don't qualify for a blue badge). I used to go walking for miles several times a week.

Sertchgi123 · 14/12/2020 23:05

To have a house with fields and rescue some ponies.

Leflic · 14/12/2020 23:05

@GuiEtVin

Be sexy and have a gorgeous firm body. I'm Almost 37 and it feels too late to sort this shit out. I'm a size 16 and I hate myself
No this is totally possible. It’s just that want to eat, more than you want to be thin. It’s one or the other. ( obviously you can eat and be thin, but you need to stop eating to not be fat)
NeonBella · 14/12/2020 23:06

To not be lonely.

To be beautiful with lovely hair.

To own my own home and not live in a damp council flat

LethargicLumpOfLockdownLard · 14/12/2020 23:07

To buy a house, like PPs it's not looking likely and as a nurse my income has a low potential for increase, it is not as simple as getting a promotion/new job which is the general advice on MN. No chance of inheritance.

To be able to sing. Again, as PPs I love to sing but have no ability or sense of pitch etc. Made worse because my Mum could sing and play guitar well, as can my Dad and it has just skipped me completely. Several of my children are musical (DH can actually sing pretty well and finds my singing particularly upsetting!).

I would say time travel, as I find the concept fascinating, but I'd be too worried about messing things up.

To magically be slim and fit and able to do press-ups and pull ups and run away from zombies/post apocalyptic gang baddies.

DigOutThoseLemonHandWipes · 14/12/2020 23:09

I wish I'd had another child (I don't want one now - I'm too old) but I wish my crappy malfunctioning body hadn't taken eight years and lots of treatment to produce one then refuse to produce another. He is my pride and joy and I am so lucky to have him but he would have made such a wonderful brother that I'm sad for him.
I am also in the wish I could sing without sounding like a cat being strangled crew and I would love to be able to play an instrument.

Emeraldshamrock · 14/12/2020 23:09

I'd love my own home somewhere permanent.

DarkDarkNight · 14/12/2020 23:09

To be able to drive. I know it’s just not achievable for me, I panic even at the thought. I would love not to be reliant on other people.

To live without anxiety, to not have the constant inner nagging and obsessive thoughts, to be able to let things go and not dwell on them in a way that has ruined my life.