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Accidently found my present and it's all wrong.

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kirktonhouse · 14/12/2020 11:47

I've just discovered what DH has bought and it is so wrong. I wear crocs in the house (judge away) - the last pair I bought was a new style with no holes in and they're making my feet stuffy and sweaty. I mentioned that I might get the original type but fur lined for winter. DH has taken this as a hint and ordered some for me for christmas, which is nice, but he's chosen some fur lined with no holes so will probably be more sweaty than those I moan about. They're not a colour I would have chosen - although I could live with it, and they're a cheaper knock off brand so wouldn't last as well, but more importantly they're size 3/4 and I'm 7/8.

And so to the AIBU - they're arriving today while he's at work (I got the delivery notification, that's how I found out) - do I send them straight back and 'helpfully' choose something that will at least fit and that I would want to wear? Or do I leave it to him to sort out after christmas? (he'll probably grab the box and quickly wrap without realizing). He's a great husband, but is shit at gifts.

YABU - leave it for him at christmas
YANBU - sort it now yourself

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kirktonhouse · 14/12/2020 13:18

Well the tiny shoes arrived in the 5 minutes that I wasn't in! They're not in a box, just one of those plastic packing bags so I'm just going to leave them and see what happens. I think he'll realise as soon as he picks them up, will have to wait and see.

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FrankskinnerscRoc · 14/12/2020 13:19

Why are your kids looking through your emails?

Another MN thing, they all appear take size 7-8 🤔. 3-4-5 here depending, they're not for me OP.

Guga · 14/12/2020 13:22

But what would be the point in having a fur lining in crocs with holes? It doesn't compute Xmas Wink

Trumplosttheelection · 14/12/2020 13:22

I'm most amused at all the posts implying he's bought fur lined crocs for his mistress. Come on people - it would be a much nicer world if that was actually likely!

Piratedoor · 14/12/2020 13:23

Could you let us know please? I'm completely invested in this thread now 😄

CodenameVillanelle · 14/12/2020 13:24

If they are clearly visible in the package then I'd tell him when he gets home that you're pleased with the present but they are too small and don't have holes, so you'd be very grateful if he would return them for the right ones!

SleepingStandingUp · 14/12/2020 13:25

Def leave them out, then I'd ask who he's brought them for as no one is that size in your house

Joinedjustforthispost · 14/12/2020 13:25

Hi op I was originally going to say Yabu until I read that he’s not even got you the correct size right ! He should know your shoe size . Maybe casually mention that you have been looking at the deals on your favourite crocs but sadly the offers are out of stock on your actual shoe size 7 and sadly anything smaller won’t fit Wink

Yeahnahmum · 14/12/2020 13:26

I got a 50 aud bill once from dh at Christmas 😂😂😂
Girl speak up . Tell him what you are telling us. Sure he is gonna be fine with that right 😊

Covert19 · 14/12/2020 13:29

I'd do a surreptitious swap. Hand him the second delivery to wrap but don't tell him. See if he notices on the day that they are not the ones he ordered.
I've also accidentally found out my gift this year (its a bespoke thing and the creator emailed photographs of progress, but DH forgot we have photosharing enabled on our computers and phones). I'm so excited! It arrived the other day and I pretended not to notice that there was a parcel on the front step, so he thinks he's surprising me.
Last year he bought me disastrous presents (chopping boards that I'd only put on my Amazon Wishlist to remind myself to think about getting them in the new year, but he weirdly thought it was my dream gift), so he's made a huge effort this year and I want him to think he's nailed it in every way.
It would be a terrible Love Actually moment if it were not under the tree on Xmas morning!

OhCaptain · 14/12/2020 13:29

This is the universe punishing you for wearing crocs. You don't deserve presents until you've repented.

madcatladyforever · 14/12/2020 13:32

Message him and ask who they are for, they can’t be for you since they’re four sizes too small.

Yes this. Also I'd be really annoyed that someone hadn't at least checked my other shoes to get the size right or asked!! What kind of a person just guesses a shoe size that randomly?

LouiseTrees · 14/12/2020 13:37

@VeryQuaintIrene

I have no clear idea of my partner's shoe size (both women). But IMO you need to wait til Xmas. I (personally) am not a fan of this really transactional approach to presence.
Yeh but you’d go and check a pair of her shoes before you ordered anything right?
2020nymph · 14/12/2020 13:39

@OhCaptain

This is the universe punishing you for wearing crocs. You don't deserve presents until you've repented.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

CodenameVillanelle · 14/12/2020 13:43

@madcatladyforever

Message him and ask who they are for, they can’t be for you since they’re four sizes too small.

Yes this. Also I'd be really annoyed that someone hadn't at least checked my other shoes to get the size right or asked!! What kind of a person just guesses a shoe size that randomly?

He didn't, OP explained it was a mistake while ordering
Redwinestillfine · 14/12/2020 13:46

Open the parcel and message him to say the crocs you ordered arrived, who are they for?/ Are they for x (insert name of child/ someone with tiny feet)..

buzz91 · 14/12/2020 13:47

If they hadn’t arrived in obvious packaging I would have just advised you buy the ones you want, then he’d have to send the ones he got back

TatianaBis · 14/12/2020 13:48

If it were me I’d order myself some furry crocs. (Well I wouldn’t as they’re vile but you get the point). He can settle up with you and send the crap ones back after Christmas. That’s the least hassle. I have low tolerance for fuckwittage.

Whoateallthestuffingballs · 14/12/2020 14:12

OP, my DH has the furry winter Crocs (not rip off) with holes in black. He got them from me one Christmas. They are even, shock horror, in the correct size.

To his face, I say that Crocs are a crime against humanity. When he's not around, I wear them myself, like a heat-loving, unashamed clown.

If it was me, I'd let him dig right down into the hole he's dug and then take him for a lifetime's supply of furry Crocs ...

Pebbledashery · 14/12/2020 14:14

Lol Ioved reading (judge away) that made me chuckle.
I would accept the present then sort it out after Xmas. I think your DH might be a bit hurt otherwise.

VeryQuaintIrene · 14/12/2020 14:15

@LouiseTrees. Good point. I would!

liveitwell · 14/12/2020 14:16

Neither.

Tell him you saw the delivery note and notice they're the wrong size if they're for you. Ask him if you can order the ones you're after instead.

LadyHedgehog · 14/12/2020 14:22

I would definitely tell him! Give him the get out that Amazon got it wrong though. Just tell him Amazon spoilt his surprise, but it's good they did, as they seem to have sent the wrong thing anyway!

museumum · 14/12/2020 14:22

I can't believe how many people are suggesting returning them without telling him - it's incredibly presumptuous to send somebody else's shopping back just assuming it's a present for you! Shock

Just ask him when he gets home or by text message 'who are these tiny little crocs for?'

museumum · 14/12/2020 14:23

Or actually 'who are these tiny like FAKE crocs for?'