To think this is really cheeky?

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Ordered a takeaway this evening as I'm home late from work. Delivery driver turns up and the bill was £36.50, I hand her £40 and she's asks "do you want the change?" I was a bit stunned and felt like a bit of an idiot when I said yes please. Dd said that is really cheeky and I should call the takeaway to complain what do you all think?

Totally of the question, but I can't believe how much you spent on a takeaway 🤪

takeaway 🤪

@tallduckandhandsome nope I don't think I've ever put in a complaint about anything and I didn't this lady, just wanted people's opinion on the matter. Just no one has ever asked me that before and I was stumped. And like I said they ask so they can give the driver the exact change surely that's not that rare.

It really is rare.

I’m not sure why you were stumped if you are someone who has never complained. Which again is the other extremity of how you come across in the first half of the thread.

@MiddleClassProblem a quick post on mn does not define the person of the kind of nature they have I was simply asking if anyone thought it was cheeky. Ok so it's rare where you live but it's not here.

And I was stumped because no one has ever in my 36 years asked if I want my change.

I’ve not lived in one place all my life. I’ve lived in various parts of the U.K. and traveled about for work (so would sometimes have a take away in my hotel room). I’ve never come across it.

And of course it doesn’t define your personality. It’s just one aspect of it which seemed to change its tone once you realised people didn’t think you should complain even if it was cheeky. And you may not even be like all the time but you certainly were earlier. I would have a bit more respect if you stood by it but now feigning to the extreme of never complaining just doesn’t add up as this wouldn’t even be a question.

@MiddleClassProblem believe what you want. I'm not a complainer.

@StillCoughingandLaughing

Wholly irrelevant. It’s not up to the customer to top up the driver’s wages.

Exactly. The kind of people who feel obliged to tip are an absolute gift to the kind of restaurants and takeaway services who pay the tiniest amount possible. They can not only carry on doing that, but also charge a separate delivery fee on top, because they know there will be people who pay that AND a tip because they somehow think it is up to them, not the restaurant, to pay their staff.

Some of us prefer to deal in reality rather than how we idealistically think things "should" be.

I tip low-wage people rather than take spite toward their industry structure out on the lowest-ranking people in said industry.

Some of us prefer to deal in reality rather than how we idealistically think things "should" be.

Well fine; if that’s how you choose to see it, that’s up to you. But you can’t really be surprised that, now the likes of Deliveroo and Uber Eats are becoming massive, there are a lot of people out there who don’t think they should be paying a second delivery fee on top of the one they’ve already been charged AND a service fee.

Despite a rather asinine comment upthread suggesting that you can’t afford a takeaway if you can’t afford to just give away the change, for many people a takeaway is an occasional treat, not a regular event. A delivery fee, a service fee AND a tip could easily add £10 or £12 to the price of the food - that’s a lot for some people.

@StillCoughingandLaughing

Some of us prefer to deal in reality rather than how we idealistically think things "should" be.

Well fine; if that’s how you choose to see it, that’s up to you. But you can’t really be surprised that, now the likes of Deliveroo and Uber Eats are becoming massive, there are a lot of people out there who don’t think they should be paying a second delivery fee on top of the one they’ve already been charged AND a service fee.

Despite a rather asinine comment upthread suggesting that you can’t afford a takeaway if you can’t afford to just give away the change, for many people a takeaway is an occasional treat, not a regular event. A delivery fee, a service fee AND a tip could easily add £10 or £12 to the price of the food - that’s a lot for some people.

I totally agree that if you can't afford the tip, you can't afford the meal. You're enjoying it on the back of a poorly paid service worker who at present is risking life/health to bring your food.

I cannot imagine being so utterly stingy and entitled.

You're enjoying it on the back of a poorly paid service worker who at present is risking life/health to bring your food.

Shops are open, gyms are open... are you tipping the checkout girl and the pool attendant because they’re ‘risking their lives’?

I tip low-wage people rather than take spite toward their industry structure out on the lowest-ranking people in said industry.

Out of cuiriosity, which occupations do you actually tip?

This thread has made me think, as never even considered tipping delivery drivers. But I do tip taxi drivers, hairdressers and waiter/waitresses. I do not tip in bars (as every bar I have worked in, the tips were just taken by management, or we were sacked for accepting them in one!). I leave tips for the cleaners in hotel rooms too. But shop assistants, carehome staff, bus drivers, loo cleaners, mcdonalds staff, the list is surely endless of low paid people? I just wonder how people who tip those lower paid, actually do this?

I have no idea really why I tip the ones I do and not others, come to think of it. Except for bars. But of course, some bars might not have greedy managers who swipe the tips meant for the staff on shift..s I could be doing over some bar staff too!