To think this is really cheeky?

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Ordered a takeaway this evening as I'm home late from work. Delivery driver turns up and the bill was £36.50, I hand her £40 and she's asks "do you want the change?" I was a bit stunned and felt like a bit of an idiot when I said yes please. Dd said that is really cheeky and I should call the takeaway to complain what do you all think?

A lot of people aren’t taking cash right now so maybe she meant that but even if she was trying for a tip I can’t understand the outrage.

I know lots of people who won’t handle coins at all at the moment - and spray any cash they have to touch with sanitiser - so they may not even have been asking in the way you think. Definitely not worth complaining about.

@lucieinthesky she had the change in her hand ready.

She should have said, "Just a minute, I'll get your change" and that would've given you the chance to say "No, that's OK" - as it was, she was expecting a tip and that's not the way to do it!

@xoxogossipgirl2020 so if you was expect £9 back you'd tell them to keep it?

Expecting

Op you've changed your story! OP says you handed her the money and THEN she asked about the change. Then in your latest post, you say she asked BEFORE you could get the money out of your purse. Which is it?

So you would have had her faff about to get the change just to hand it back to her?

Ahh ok! I didn’t read the whole thread!

You are really overthinking this - she asked if you wanted the change which seems a completely reasonable question

No-one has to tip for a service they've paid for, not even 10 per cent if they choose not to.
It was a cheek to ask!

“I was prepared to tell her to keep the change” sure you were.

@HollowTalk that's it, she had the change in her hand and the Chinese in the other. I took the bag, confirmed what I owed her and before I could get my money out she was asking if I wanted the change and opened her hand up so I could see the money. Anyone else would of said thanks and handed over the change and wait for them to either accept it or say keep the change.

Ooooh! Well chosen username

Shy bairns get nowt. You said you were going to give the change, so she just preempted your “keep the change” sentence. Couldn’t imagine being worked up over this like.

Don’t complain, OP. you might end up getting someone fired who really needs the money, and for what? to teach them some manners? bit of a harsh lesson, especially with Christmas coming up.

As you hadn't got the money out she was obviously asking if you needed change so she could get it ready not asking for a tip!!

I think you're being a bit of a cheap ratbag to be honest. Haven't you something better to get offended over?

@UndertheCedartree read the thread.

And I'm not offended just stunned at the rudeness.

I have never tipped a delivery person in my life. Why would I tip them and not say the person on the checkout in Asda? Or a better comparison, the many delivery people who deliver my parcels each day. It makes no sense to me.

I tip when I had excellent service. And a delivery driver handing me my food which is the bare minimum of what they are paid to do isn't that.

Decide in advance how much you want to tip the driver and then say how much change you want. Better still, have the correct money plus tip.

All deliveries are paid for by card around here, you're lucky to have someone who will take cash.

I think the driver was a bit presumptuous to expect £3.50 but I certainly wouldn't report her, that would be mean.

Where is the rule/law when ordering food that says you must tip? Everyone saying you should tip no you shouldn't if you don't want to you shouldn't have to feel awkward when they ask if you want your change you tip because you want to no other reason! They might be on minimum wage but so are most of us.

And it's also crazy to suggest the OP who has said she receives minimum wage (and doesn't get tips), should tip someone else on minimum wage on the basis that the person is paid minimum wage. That's just ridiculous.

I tip.
I definitely wouldn't complain.
I'd be grateful they'd delivered me food on a busy day for me and recognise they are probably very busy delivery wise and don't need their time taken up by one moaning about a comment over £3.50.
But maybe that's just me.

Maybe she didn't want to hand you the change without your permission, given she could pass covid onto you that way. I can imagine she deals with a variety of members of the public, many of whom may give her hostile anti-germ reactions.

Whether its that or not, you're a bit stingy.

Futher to that, she asked, you said no. That's the end of the story. If you complain about her, that makes you stingy AND mean. Well done you.