To think this is really cheeky?

[christmasmiserymary]

Ordered a takeaway this evening as I'm home late from work. Delivery driver turns up and the bill was £36.50, I hand her £40 and she's asks "do you want the change?" I was a bit stunned and felt like a bit of an idiot when I said yes please. Dd said that is really cheeky and I should call the takeaway to complain what do you all think?

I would tell dd to call and complain if she feels that strongly about it.

I would be too embarrassed to call and complain that the person who delivered my take away asked me if I would like my £3.50

@todayIdrankmilk

I would tell dd to call and complain if she feels that strongly about it.

I would be too embarrassed to call and complain that the person who delivered my take away asked me if I would like my £3.50

£3.50 change

you'd be grateful that a delivery driver delivered your takeaway?

Yes. I am grateful to all people who are doing their jobs well. Particularly now, to those who are working in jobs that require contact with others. I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't see anything odd/wrong with rewarding them a tiny bit extra, if I can afford a £36.50 take away, £3.50 one way or another is really insignificant. Considering complaining about the driver's question is on another lever.

Level*

I hope I wouldn’t be so mean as to bother to ring up to complain. You didn’t give her anything so why the fuss. She probably earns very little and you had your meal delivered without any bother. So why stir up trouble for her?

Not cheeky, perfectly acceptable to ask whether you’d like to tip or not. It was £3.50, not £10+.

I don't think it's up to anyone to decide what someone else can "afford" and what anyone should be "happy to pay". That's an individual choice entirely. Arguably, you may be abre to afford a tip, ie you won't go without if you give it. Still doesn't mean that you have to do it. Otherwise, where does it end?

@PurplePansy05

you'd be grateful that a delivery driver delivered your takeaway?

Yes. I am grateful to all people who are doing their jobs well. Particularly now, to those who are working in jobs that require contact with others. I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't see anything odd/wrong with rewarding them a tiny bit extra, if I can afford a £36.50 take away, £3.50 one way or another is really insignificant. Considering complaining about the driver's question is on another lever.

I feel exactly the same. I am extremely grateful for each and every delivery person who helps make my life easier, safer, and more comfortable. I always feel that way, but now during COVID and now that it is cold, dark early, and approaching Christmas, that feeling is compounded. I am deeply cognizant that while I get to be at home, warm and safe, they are out working in circumstances that vary from a regular day at work to extremely difficult (customers who are rude/drunk and belligerent/refuse to wear a mask/awful weather/navigating difficult road conditions/etc). Tips, thankfulness, and benefit of the doubt when there is a little hiccup or mistake is the least we can offer.

Wholly irrelevant. It’s not up to the customer to top up the driver’s wages.

Exactly. The kind of people who feel obliged to tip are an absolute gift to the kind of restaurants and takeaway services who pay the tiniest amount possible. They can not only carry on doing that, but also charge a separate delivery fee on top, because they know there will be people who pay that AND a tip because they somehow think it is up to them, not the restaurant, to pay their staff.

Don’t you tip your delivery people????

No. I don't get tips for doing my job.

@empiricallyyours

Op you've changed your story! OP says you handed her the money and THEN she asked about the change. Then in your latest post, you say she asked BEFORE you could get the money out of your purse. Which is it?

I noticed that. Smells like BS

She probably meant because of covid you might not want to handle loose coins that could be from a previous customer.
Don't look to see the bad in people.And please don't complain.

Oh good lord I hope you didn't complain.

It's Christmas and it's covid, no harm in asking, the extra could help. It didn't hurt, you didn't give her the money. She may have lost her job and working as a delivery driver to buy her kids Xmas presents. You never know the back story. Please do not complain and risk her job over something you found mildly cheeky.

I hope the op hasn’t complained either, the woman is out trying to make money, this question occured either because she neeeds the money, and we are in the lead up to Christmas, or because of Covid and a lot of peoooe don’t want to handle coins. Anything could be going on here, she could have lost her job and be desperately trying to pay her bills, or as said, customers won’t often want to handle the cash.

Complaining would be shameful behaviour. No harm was done, and there is no need to try to fuck her over for it.

And I’m really saddened that some folks her in here urging the op to get in there and do a bit of damage, whatever happened to empathy and kindness?

I wouldn't complain but it's definitely cheeky. For everyone saying she's on minimum wage trying to earn money etc that is so excuse. Up until 4 years ago I used to work in cafe for £5 an hour and I would never have assumed I was entire to anyone's change. Every tip is received gratefully even when it's 20p etc as it all adds up at the end of the shift.

*no excuse

*entitled not entire

I worked in a pub up north once in a posh town and I remember one old woman threw £1 into the tip jar. Looked at it and said 'oh it's a £1, I'm not giving you that' and put her hand in to take it out' she then put in 20p. cheap skate she was.

@JoeCalFuckingZaghe

Shy bairns get nowt.

I'm gutted this user name is taken!

I'm the total opposite of how you have judged me, I never complain. And how she knew what I was going to give her is they ask when you order so that they can give her the exact change instead of fumbling in the dark.

People who want to complain about a tiny little thing like this complain about EVERYTHING, so it's hilarious you saying you never complain.

And you had to tell the restaurant you would be giving the driver £40? Bizarre.

I always tip the delivery person, but only a quid or two. I think £3.50 would be a bit much, especially if it's expected every time

Not cheeky, don't complain about the poor woman ffs

I think it’s cheeky of her to ask.

@CherryPavlova

Cheeky of you not to tip

Yes

i dont think its about whether you tip or not, its the language used. it leans towards making you feel awkward enough to give it to the driver and thats not right. my DSis does this. when it comes to her share of a bill she says "do you need me to pay half?" no i dont NEED you to, its to cover what you fucking ate. or if in a group she will ask "Blue, do you need me to pay some?" regarding her own bill. like shes doing me a favour and paying mine.