To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?

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E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

Women dress up becauze they like to feel sexy. Or to outdress other women. Or to feel better about themselves or to feel more empowered OR to impress a man. (And about another 15 reasons) but None of those reasons are wrong .

(It is only wrong if they only value themselves on how much they are liked by men by the way they are dressed.)

God the judgement here, have we still not moved past women judging other women,

Women can wear what they want, when they want and for whatever reason they choose.

I wonder if it's an age/location thing. I'm in my 30s & as I said was a 90s tween/teen Londoner. Fashion has always been about looking cool for me. Not saying my friends & I achieve that but it's certainly the aim.

These threads never get anywhere as there's such a range of opinions on why people 'dress up'.
It ranges from those who say that someone's appearance is purely about pleasing themselves & other people should not have any reaction or views on how they look & is absolutely nothing to do with display or any kind of non-verbal communication, to those who say that anyone shows a bit of cleavage is on the pull.

I suspect the truth lies somewhere between them.

If I could fit into a pencil skirt like I could when I was younger, I absolutely would. I'm not not wearing one because I'm not dressing for men, I'm not wearing one because I'm older and fatter! If I could wear one, it would absolutely be for me, to make me proud of my shape.

When I was younger, TBH, I dressed more for women than I did for men. I never really felt pressured to look a certain way around male company, but if all the women had full-on makeup and glam clothes, I felt pressure to try to match their unattainable levels of glam.

Although I agree with PP who said that dressing up doesn't necessarily equate dressing for men, I agree with OP that the skin-tight, Herve Leger, Roland Mouret Galaxy dress look does seem old fashioned.

Instead you seem to see more people in high waisted jeans and clumpy shoes and baggy t shirts. Or floaty dresses and boots. So I do think that fashions have changed in the way OP describes.

When I used to go out a lot up to my mid twenties I never really wore heels - much harder to dance and to stay out til the early hours in big heels. I often wear heels if I go out now because I live my life in casual clothes and flats and I love the (very rare) chance to dress up.

At no age or stage have I dressed for anyone except myself and what I enjoy / thinks looks good.

In fact that's not true, I dressed very overly sexy when I worked as a shot girl because I sold more shots that way. I would dress in the tiniest shorts ever, skyscraper heels and a crop top and flirt with all the students so I came home with 80-100 quid for a 5 hour shift, then change into my scruffs and trainers and go clubbing until 6am. Loved that job (although I dont think I'd be quite as successful now!)

Wow this shit has been done to death. Can we drop it please? As a pp said no one cares and discusses men’s attire so why are we constantly scrutinising women’s choices?! Let us all wear what we want and jog on with these bitchy, judgemental comments.

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Wow this shit has been done to death. Can we drop it please? As a pp said no one cares and discusses men’s attire so why are we constantly scrutinising women’s choices?! Let us all wear what we want and jog on with these bitchy, judgemental comments.

I know, right? There is nothing harder on a woman, or more judgemental than another woman.

Seriously women can dress as they please. I mean it’s bad enough to be judgey in your head, but to be so driven you want to start a thread about it, is just not ok.

DH prefers me in practical, outdoor clothing like salopettes, mountain bike shorts or hiking boots.

When I wear heels (which is incredibly infrequently these days) I wear them for me because I think I look nice. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look nice. Everyone has their own interpretation of what ‘nice’ is. Other people’s clothing doesn’t affect your day, so live and let live.

To echo, women are so judgemental of other women on matters that do not harm nor should it concern them. It’s depressing.

Dressing for men? Certainly not. I wear the same for a girlie night out as l do for a night out with a man or a mixed gender group meet.

Obviously if I’m out for a country walk, l dress differently again. It’s dressing for the occasion.

@Teddy1970 If you also look at @Iamthewombat comment, these snide nasty remarks are likely from pp unhappy with their looks and jealous of better turned out ppl, if you’re going to criticise others have a look at yourself first eh?

‘Sexy’ dressing looks very old-fashioned ‘Carry on Camping ‘ etc.
Saw a picture today of Isla Fisher looking ‘sexy’ at an awards ceremony-just grotesque.

Yes, the ‘glam’ look does look a bit dated to me.

Grotesque? Jesus

Yes, here is grotesque old Isla Fisher:

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-5489019/Isla-Fisher-dazzles-sequined-mini-dress-iHeartRadio-Awards.html

FFS

If I could be that grotesque, I'd be a very lucky woman! @Iamthewombat

www.sophisticatedallure.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/isla-fisher-20180607-wardrobe.jpg

Here she is again, looking grotesque.

@fairyliz, I agree. Am struggling to imagine the equivalent woman singer who could be successful and look similar.

Would you do it for a girly night out with women only friends?

I find this such a bizarre question. Of course some women do. Some don't. Both are fine.

It always astounds me when posters really genuinely can't fathom why anyone would do something/wear something/think something different to them.

@Iamthewombat

Yes, here is grotesque old Isla Fisher:

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-5489019/Isla-Fisher-dazzles-sequined-mini-dress-iHeartRadio-Awards.html

FFS

Arrrrgh, my eyes! The HORROR

Anyway I’d say the most old fashioned thing is bitching about what other women wear.

Would you do it for a girly night out with women only friends?

Most definitely. So would my women only friends.

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E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

I’m in my 60s and have dressed like this all my life. We were all young once. However a disproportionate number of young women today seem to be excessively anxious about their appearance and obsess about it is a thoroughly unwholesome way.

Finding a style that works for you is the key. Tess is a classic blonde bombshell presenting a ballroom dancing competition, of course she is going to look a bit retro. She clearly pulls it off. Claudia's style has always been slightly alternative, she wouldn't look half as good as Tess in the classic slinky evening dress, blonde hair and high heels, so why compete? She pulls of her own style well and it makes her look great.

I don't think there is anything wrong with dressing so that you maximise your attractiveness as long as that is what you are actively choosing to do rather than feeling pressurised to do it.