To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?

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E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

This is the beauty of London (and other similar places). You can wear what the heck you want, and no one bats an eyelid. There might be the old grump judging, but no one notice.

I'm married with toddlers and to be honest, the idea of a nice dress and heels, a bit of make up and bothering with my hair is all about me feeling nice, not enticing men.
I'm usually in leggings and shirts and wellies or converse, with a mum bun and various toddler bodily fluids smeared on me.
Particularly since lockdowns and being in Tier 3, I literally go to the park or my garden or nursery/playgroup. I would happily dress up to watch the food channel. In fact I am home alone tomorrow,so I may well shove on a posh frock and some stilettos while I write Christmas cards and make a roast

. In fact I am home alone tomorrow,so I may well shove on a posh frock and some stilettos while I write Christmas cards and make a roast

Do it!

And you will look fabulous doing it, @Mamamamycorona

It's not about dressing for men. I think you should give women more credit than that.

You praise young women for being able to wear flats or trainers but a large percentage of younger people will follow whatever trend is in fashion at the time...it's later on in adulthood that I think women really start dressing for themselves!!

Also I do certain hobbies like burlesque/chair dance and that kind of thing.....in my experience women dress sexy because they want to! it makes them feel sexy, it's not for men! Men don't even see it the vast majority of the time!

Can women not just wear whatever the feck they like

• without being compared against each other, being told they are too young or old for something, are dressing for men, are old fashioned or too glam?

Northern women dress up more than southern women

oh pffft, as a Northern woman, not always true lol, is this another stereotype
I take about 10 minutes to get ready, half an hour if I decide I want to wear make up.
Also curious as to where you mean when you say "Northern?"
We're a big area!

I see this thread akin to the ones where people slag off clean/organised and well presented homes as they aren't "lived in" or "proper family homes" I.e. people trying to find excuses for being a slob

I feel most comfortable when I look my best

Spend a lot of time of money on hair and make up

I hate wearing jeans and trainers

I'm more judgemental of people who don't make an effort with their appearance to be honest.

I'm a 90s tween & teen & a Londoner so will always lean casual. However I love dressing up particularly for my girlfriends. I don't think dressy necessarily = overtly sexy though.
I love Claudia's style & think Tess is more old fashioned, classic but I wouldn't say it's sexy. It's safe.

I'm more judgemental of people who don't make an effort with their appearance to be honest

Why? What does it matter to you?
If people are happy in themselves what does it matter if they've brushed their hair, put on make up, wearing the "right" clothes or whatever

Wear what you’re happy & comfortable in, chose your own look.

I’m imagining posters sitting in their stained onesies, having gained five stone over lockdown, posting to these threads in order to bash other women who dare to make an effort and look attractive.

What's your version of making an effort then? Surely there a lots of different ways women can look attractive?

Just stop putting on make up and nice clothes and making us feel bad about ourselves!

I like make up & adore clothes & fashion doesn't mean that's restricted to heels & tailoring.

Heels will be back in fashion soon, along with tailoring. I’m getting bored of wearing casual stuff every day.

Nah, people are more casual then then have ever been. Workplaces are more relaxed with dress codes (pre covid). Trainers are more popular then ever.

Agreeing with all of those who hate this thread (and, actually, think you're all salvaging it!).

But to answer the OP and those agreeing about dressing "sexy" looking outdated and old fashioned. I assume none of you have watched Love Island, and all of that ilk (not on this year because of covid, but hugely popular) or read the Daily Mail where practically every female e"celeb" from Z list up has "side boob" or "under boob" showing? They're all old fashioned and outdated? Someone needs to let them know that.

Horrible, horrible out dated and old fashioned and woman hating thread!

I'm more judgemental of people who don't make an effort with their appearance to be honest

But what constitutes effort?

It's just fashion at the mo isn't it. I am now in the privileged position 😳🤣 of being able to point out that this is the second time this particular look has been part of the fashion cycle. And that the one thing that is certain, is that ultimately fashion is cyclical, and ultimately someone somewhere is telling everyone what it's currently 'ok' to wear. The 'power dressing' will come back, I'm pretty sure...

To be honest, I love power-dressing @ethelredonagoodday!
Anything with shoulder pads I'm a sucker for!

(Though I imagine the woman in this photo may be considered "desperate" or "trans", as well as solely wearing it for the benefit of men given that she made an effort )

I like make up & adore clothes & fashion doesn't mean that's restricted to heels & tailoring.

Who said that you had to be? It’s the posters whining about how other women dress, and insulting those who like glamorous clothes and shoes, who are seeking to direct what other women wear or shame them into making different choices (“you’re dressing for men!”, “you’re like a trans woman!”, “you’re desperate!” etc)

Who said that you had to be?

You are the one who said posters here must have put on weight if they don't like a particular style & they can't simultaneously dislike look & care about looking nice or make an effort.

insulting those who like glamorous clothes and shoes
What's your definition of glamorous clothes & shoes? I like looking glamorous but I bet your idea of glamour is different to mine.

Personally I like people dressing differently & encourage self expression. if we all liked the same then fashion would be boring. Plus you can't have good taste without bad!

You are the one who said posters here must have put on weight if they don't like a particular style & they can't simultaneously dislike look & care about looking nice or make an effort.

No, I didn’t. Stop projecting. I said that I imagined the people seeking to dissuade other women from dressing in an, I quote, ‘overtly sexy’ way, which appears to be synonymous with ‘wearing heels and fitted dresses and skirts that show off your figure’, posting whilst wearing stained onesies to disguise a five stone weight gain and hoping to prevent other women looking objectively better.

Nothing to do with ‘not liking a particular style’ and everything to do with sniping at other women dressing in a way they don’t approve of. To which I say, mind your own business. I’ll wear what I like.

Chaps, I'm actually finding a nice dress and some shoes. I flipping miss heels, but you look a bit daft in the playground in 5 inch heels 😂 my 3yo said to me, before my last trip out with no kids - "Mum why are you being pretty??" Because I had a dress on. Cheers love! I'm going to canter around the Christmas tree with clean hair and no wee or snot on me. Hurrah!

No, I didn’t. Stop projecting. I said that I imagined the people seeking to dissuade other women from dressing in an, I quote, ‘overtly sexy’ way, which appears to be synonymous with ‘wearing heels and fitted dresses and skirts that show off your figure’, posting whilst wearing stained onesies to disguise a five stone weight gain and hoping to prevent other women looking objectively better.

You're accusing me of projection?

and hoping to prevent other women looking objectively better.

So you do think dressing overtly sexy makes women look better?