To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?

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E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

I generally dress like a man in actual mens clothes and id like to tell you just to please enjoy the variation in women's dressing, because the choice of clothes men have are crap. We dont all want to end up like that.

I have never heard of Isla Fisher but she looks great.

Maybe women dress a certain way simply because that's what they like and want to wear. I know that's absolutely shocking. I don't know why people are so outraged over a bit of boob.

a disproportionate number of young women today seem to be excessively anxious about their appearance and obsess about it is a thoroughly unwholesome way.

Because they are constantly seeing stuff like this thread online, probably!

I’m 57. I’ve never worn a spike heel in my life. Or dressed ‘sexy’

I grew up in the era of Levi 501’s and Dr Martens. I hate the ‘sexy’ look.

Anyway I’d say the most old fashioned thing is bitching about what other women wear.

High five @riotlady

None of the choices women make about dress, make-up, shoes, accessories exist in a vacuum. Therefore it is difficult to know (honestly, truly) if they are doing to for themselves, for their friends, for men or because of the patriarchy

We should not criticise any woman for the choices they make about how they look.

We should lift each other up.

I used to love wearing high heels (I had a comfortable pair that I could even run in) now as I've aged and body has been changed by pregnancy you'll find me in flats or wedges. I have to feel comfortable and able to run.

Now in my 40s I can finally say I dress for me. I would have claimed that in my 20s but it wouldn't have been true!

I grew up in the era of Levi 501’s and Dr Martens. I hate the ‘sexy’ look.

Which is your prerogative. The difference between you and some of the other posters on this thread is that you haven’t felt the need to insult women who do like the ‘sexy’ look!

But the person was saying it was old fashioned and young people don’t dress like that.

I’m old, I’ve never dressed like that, nor have my friends. Jeans and flat shoes all the way.

I dont think you know very many young people if you think the sexy look is out of fashion tbh. There are plenty of young people in very short skirts, short dresses, miniscule crop tops, that look is just as fashionable as the trainers and puffer jacket look.

I also dont particularly find heels uncomfortable. I wear trainers every single day of my life, I dont want to wear them to a bar as well.

I dont particularly care how other women dress, however I do care about people who judge other women for how they look. You cant praise young people for wearing trainers and simulataneously judge tess for looking sexy.

I watch a lot of say yes to the dress and I do think that when the women ask for 'sexy' dresses, they don't actually look as sexy as they do when they pick something less overt. To me, subtle is more sexy. But women should be able to wear what they like without judgement. Many women still love heels and can walk in them easily - if I still could, I would wear them because they made my legs look lovely. I love the comfort of trainers but I wouldn't say they make me look better.
In the end fashion dates, so we always think that what was fashionable in the past, looks old fashioned now. But these things are cyclical, aren't they.

Is it not more about dressing appropriately for the occasion?

So jeans and trainers fine for weekends, glitzy low cut dress and heels more appropriate for a night or evening date in a restaurant?

Workwear tends to be smart/casual in most places so if you’ve had to wear tailored trousers and blouses all week then it’s natural to wear jogging pants and a sweater at the weekend?

I’ve also noticed many young women going OTT to look ‘sexy’ eg micro skirts, fishnet tights with big deliberate holes in, cropped jumpers and full make up, false lashes, heavily styled hair and lots of jewellery in the daytime. So I don’t think the ‘sexy’ look is going out of fashion, just changing!

In the photo of Isla Fisher she looks elegant & lovely. That's not overtly sexual dressing surely?

insult women who do like the ‘sexy’ look!

Can someone tell me what is the sexy look is? I has tend to find sexiness is a quality so someone is often sexy regardless what they are wearing.

I think Jenifer Lopez is very sexy. I don't think this is a sexy look for her.

I’m inclined not to believe women who claim to be “dressing for themselves” when they totter out in heels, overly tight clothing etc etc. They are hoping they catch the male gaze, clearly!

Interestingly, men have indicated in surveys when asked about preferences, that they like women to look natural and not to be caked in makeup. Of course we all know they don’t mean “natural natural” but makeup skilfully applied to look as if you are not wearing any! Lol

I’m inclined not to believe women who claim to be “dressing for themselves” when they totter out in heels, overly tight clothing etc etc. They are hoping they catch the male gaze, clearly!

Do you not see that's entirely you're own issue though? I dress myself in what I like. I don't dress in fear of what twatty judgey men or women think to my outfit

@iswhois

I see this thread akin to the ones where people slag off clean/organised and well presented homes as they aren't "lived in" or "proper family homes" I.e. people trying to find excuses for being a slob

I feel most comfortable when I look my best

Spend a lot of time of money on hair and make up

I hate wearing jeans and trainers

I'm more judgemental of people who don't make an effort with their appearance to be honest.

It is possible to wear a more less “obvious” look and appear very charming indeed. Subtlety is key.

*...a less “obvious” look...

Interestingly, men have indicated in surveys when asked about preferences, that they like women to look natural and not to be caked in makeup

Are these the same men who profess to love women with a healthy appetite? Provided that they never go above a size ten, of course.

Also, what does ‘caked in make up’ actually mean? We talk about, eg, our trainers being ‘caked in mud’ after a trail run, and that means thick visible lumps of the substance in question on the surface of the thing it is ‘caking’.

Nobody applies make up like that. Describing a liberal application as ‘caking’ the face in make up is just another way of sneering at and belittling women, surely?

@Pollypocket89

I’m inclined not to believe women who claim to be “dressing for themselves” when they totter out in heels, overly tight clothing etc etc. They are hoping they catch the male gaze, clearly! ---

Do you not see that's entirely you're own issue though? I dress myself in what I like. I don't dress in fear of what twatty judgey men or women think to my outfit

I think it painfully obvious what women like that are trying to do.

...it’s painfully...

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'trying to do'... Wow. Lure innocent men away to their layer of debauchery? Ruin women who dress 'sensibly's' lives? Jesus Christ

when they totter out in heels, overly tight clothing etc etc. They are hoping they catch the male gaze, clearly!

Young women on a night out hoping to look attractive, have a laugh and meet a boyfriend SHOCK.

Not all women wearing heels ‘totter’. Not all fitted dresses are ‘overly tight’. No wonder so many women are worried about their appearance when there is an endless supply of critics amongst their own gender.