To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?

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E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

@Zilla1
To be fair I’ve always thought Ed Sheeran looks like he needs to be de-fleaed.

I've not seen but will wade in anyway - who cares what a woman dresses like?!
Bollocks to that nonsense lol

I am very pleased that high heels are getting to be so dated.

I'm always shocked when I see businesswomen in high heels. Wtf is that all about?

Wear them out if you like them but crippling yourself at WORK seems more unprofessional than appropriate.

I don’t understand the ‘dressing for men’ bit!?

I think that wearing a nice dress and heels is a pleasure, and can make you feel very powerful. I'd rather be overdressed than underdressed, as a rule.

I’m imagining posters sitting in their stained onesies, having gained five stone over lockdown, posting to these threads in order to bash other women who dare to make an effort and look attractive.

You’re old fashioned! You look like a trans woman! You look like you fell out of the eighties! Etc etc. Just stop putting on make up and nice clothes and making us feel bad about ourselves!

Heels will be back in fashion soon, along with tailoring. I’m getting bored of wearing casual stuff every day. Can’t wait for an excuse to get the posh frocks and Jimmy Choos out again.

How do you know dressing that way isn’t the perceived way of attracting a younger male?

Yes, I'd just like to add as a touch of positivity - if you're a woman who enjoys making yourself look nice and dressing in heels / pencil skirts etc, I as a young person think you look fab (and it doesn't make you old fashioned), and I'm not sure why there are so many bees in bonnets about other women's choices.

They look completely different, size, hair, everything. I see no point in comparing two different people. Tess looks great in evening wear, she doesn't go all out to look overtly sexy, she looks great. So does Claudia in a different way.

@Iamthewombat

I’m imagining posters sitting in their stained onesies, having gained five stone over lockdown, posting to these threads in order to bash other women who dare to make an effort and look attractive.

You’re old fashioned! You look like a trans woman! You look like you fell out of the eighties! Etc etc. Just stop putting on make up and nice clothes and making us feel bad about ourselves!

Heels will be back in fashion soon, along with tailoring. I’m getting bored of wearing casual stuff every day. Can’t wait for an excuse to get the posh frocks and Jimmy Choos out again.

Absolutely to all of the above!

@Pollypocket89

Do you often laugh at people who do/like something different to you? Because that's all it boils down to. This is a horrible read

Agreed, what a nasty thread.this is.

I think fashion and throw away clothing and the concept of buying something new every few weeks will be outdated soon.

It has to, for the sake of the planet and to slow down climate change. Like foreign holidays and out of season food.

I've always hated fake tans, lip fillers, false anything really. Why can't we see beauty in the way we really are without having to alter ourselves?

This thread is horrid. Honestly, I couldn't care less what other women wear - whatever makes them feel confident and comfortable.

I've always hated fake tans, lip fillers, false anything really. Why can't we see beauty in the way we really are without having to alter ourselves?

You can find yourself beautiful and still want to tan, get lip fillers etc. I think I look perfectly nice when I have no makeup on, but I'll still fake tan and put on quite a bit of makeup when I want to. It's more about feeling glamorous than "beautiful" in most cases for me personally.

I've always hated fake tans, lip fillers, false anything really. Why can't we see beauty in the way we really are without having to alter ourselves?

Are you saying that women who like wearing glamorous clothes, heels and make up all have lip fillers and ‘false things’ (false what? Teeth? Legs? Glass eyes?)?

Otherwise I don’t see the relevance of this post, unless it’s a new angle on bashing other women.

Honestly, I couldn't care less what other women wear - whatever makes them feel confident and comfortable

This - I'm probably perceived as a bag lady lol whatever that is but I don't give a shit, I'm happy being me.

Wearing trainers doesn't make you look younger 😂

It's true that make-up makes a younger face look older - why do you think teens are obsessed with it.

I don't know where you got that heels are old fashion, just look at any shop, they sell as well as ever.

Offices are becoming more casual: less men wear tie, less women were uber corporate outfits. It doesn't mean it's "old fashion".

It's also possible to walk in heels.. where do people live or work that they only see women being "crippled" by them?

Dated and a bit naff, yes.

I've always hated fake tans, lip fillers, false anything really. Why can't we see beauty in the way we really are without having to alter ourselves?

because we are lucky that we have cheap and easy access to little help here and there.

I look better with longer eyelashes, with a different hair colour, with teeth unnaturally maintained and would no doubt look even better with a bit of botox and fillers. Why would I be a martyr and not jump at the chance to look the best I can?

Why on earth would I chose clothes that I find comfy but also flattering?

I do like the trend for flattish footwear and how many people feel comfortable to wear sports leggings.

SBTLove Why don't you take your own advice? You say women can dress how they like without criticism and yet you criticise other women on here by calling them frumpy...

where do people live or work that they only see women being "crippled" by them?

(Heels, that is)

I wondered this, too. I am speculating about that village where they filmed the old Hovis advert. Or somewhere with giant cobbles.

The people who snipe about women being ‘crippled’ by heels or ‘walking funny’ are the same people who would say things like, “why do you put all that muck on your face?”.

I think it’s easy to fall into the trap of assuming your personal preference is the default.

If you only dress up for men, and don’t like how mini dresses etc look, that’s very much a personal preference. It’s not the default. Other women will disagree. It doesn’t mean they’re wrong.

Personally I really enjoy getting dressed up. I have a bit of fun choosing an outfit and doing my make up. I’m not doing it so some bloke I haven’t met likes it.

Just wear what you like and extend the same courtesy to other women.

@FoxyTheFox

I feel judged no matter what I wear. There would be an equal amount of people saying if I dressed modestly, "that looks very old fashioned". Can't win

Exactly this.

Perhaps we should just let people dress themselves in whatever they want to wear without the need to pass judgemental opinions on it.

Totally. People should be able to express themselves via how they dress without being judged.