To think overtly sexy dressing looks very old fashioned?

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E.g Claudia's style looks far more modern than Tess'. I love the way young women will wear flats or even trainers and be comfortable rather than dressing for men.

I agree with all the important points re: not assuming that it’s ‘dressing up for men’ or whatever, and that it’s frustrating when women tear apart each other’s outfit choices, BUT at the same time I really recognise the very sudden shift away from ‘sexy’. Similarly I think high heels (especially in the office) have almost died a death, I miss them but I would feel a bit ‘old and missing an important point’ if I wore them at the moment. I think it coincided with the ‘me too’ thing.

I definitely noticed a bit of a shift with outfits for nights out. 10 years ago when I first started going out it was all about the highest heels, you’d feel weird and dwarfed if you went out in flats. Whereas over the past couple of years the majority of younger women out in my town wear trainers or vans with their dress, you still see a lot of heels but nowhere near as high.

It’s fashionable at the moment

We were wearing ballet pumps, loafers and trainers then doc martins became fashionable then heels came back in fashion

As they will again

I think women in high heels, body con, fake eyelashes etc are the same as men in tight jeans, low cut shirts, medallion etc. Just a bit naff.

Oh good, so there's "desperate", "dressing for men", and now equating women who dress up with "transwomen". For a predominantly feminist site, there sure is a lot of prejudice!

Tess Daly is an absolute stunner, if I looked like her i would dress as 'sexy' as I possibly could! However, if your a bit of a munter then dressing 'sexy' is a bit embarrassing, hence why so many women slag off how other women dress. Jealousy

I know what you mean. It's hard to put your finger on because there's no one particular style or look that you could pin it down to- someone mentioned high heels and pencil skirts but there's a 20 something in work who dresses exactly like that most days, and in no way looks old fashioned, she looks brilliant, but she doesn't style it the way I would've seen that look styled in the past, with a button up blouse etc.

Before lockdown I went for a night out at a hotel bar - my first in ages - and I felt overdressed in a skater dress, tights and low boots. But for years I've been the casual one of my circle. I've never worn heels and actually have had someone be really nasty and mocking about it on a night out.

Coats are another one. On fashion blogs and insta I see lots of pictures of women wearing the sort of smartish wool coat that I've always preferred but in RL it's all massive puffy casual things.

Excluding C&T it depends on the age of the wearer if they're young and attractive enough they can pull it off and should your only young once.
It can age an older woman even if they fit into it.

Some bitter comments here, women dressed
glam are naff, trans, doing it for men?
I’m glad I don’t know anyone who thinks like these nasty demeaning things about other women. I have 3DD between 15-25 and they can dress how they please and for
themselves, it’s very disappointing in 2020 we still have ppl with such outdated opinions.
I’m always amazed if my girls are glammed up, how skilled they are at hair and makeup and how great they look.
If you feel the need to comment like this maybe have a look at your frumpy self!!

I have yet to see a woman walking comfortably in stilettos. Makes me giggle.... bum sticks out, shoulders hunched , calves enlarged, walking cautiously.

Do you often laugh at people who do/like something different to you? Because that's all it boils down to. This is a horrible read

God, there are so many judgemental threads at the moment. Why are some women so determined to judge and tear down other women? If they’re comfortable and confident, who cares what they wear? So odd.

Indeed, @ShirleyShirleyShirley. I found when I was at school that all the slut-shaming and gossiping usually occurred around a stressful period (like exams) so maybe impending lockdown or Christmas stress has given people an "excuse" to be vicious. Truly disappointing.

@ShirleyShirleyShirley

God, there are so many judgemental threads at the moment. Why are some women so determined to judge and tear down other women? If they’re comfortable and confident, who cares what they wear? So odd.

Isn't that the point? When women have gone out of their way to be traditionally sexy, they rarely look comfortable or confident, quite the opposite. It's a shame they feel the need to do it to themselves, especially as most look better when they don't

It's a shame they feel the need to do it to themselves, especially as most look better when they don't

For the women who are uncomfortable dressing up, I imagine it comes down to pressure to look a certain type of way. Do you consider yourself to be helping, OP?

Horrible misogynist attitudes on here.

Another woman bashing thread. Why cant woman just wear what they want for their own reasons. Why do you have to judge?

@SBTLove I absolutely agree with your whole comment! You summed it up better than I could x

I don’t think I’d describe it as “sexy dressing” but I agree that the look you describe looks very dated.

I had a head of department who dressed like that, sky high heels every day, full obvious make up etc. That is fine. However, she once suggested I dress in more “professional” way, like her. I was and completely ignored the suggestion. (The way I dressed was smart and acceptable by the way, but with flat shoes and not looking like I’d fallen straight out of the 1980s)

If I’m going out with the girls yes we get done up, it’s for us,it’s fun, I like getting glam to go out
Most day I wear make up,heels,perfume and I have an understated look that I like

If you feel the need to comment like this maybe have a look at your frumpy self!!

That's very funny, to object to people commenting on how women present themselves by doing exactly the same

Nah I don't buy it. I wear heels and a pencil skirt at work some days. I don't have to but I like wearing them and I choose very carefully so they are comfortable enough. Nothing to do with dressing to attract men (wouldn't be much point as most of the men I work with are gay!) Other days I'll wear flats and trousers. Comfort is important but so is the fun of dressing up and expressing yourself through your clothes in whatever way you enjoy.

People who are less confident might be more likely to dress for others but that could easily be ensuring you have the 'right' trainers or latest fashion not just dressing sexily whatever that means.

To go back to the original example- I personally prefer Claudia's style to Tess' but does Tess dress for men or does she simply enjoy that look and that persona?

I'm straight but I when I go out, out, I dress up to impress the other women - nothing makes you feel better than a stranger telling you, you look fab or a have a great dress etc!

I'm taller than most of my friends and I spent my teenage years hating my height, not anymore i look being nearly 6ft when i stick my heels on, and yes I can dance all night in them!

If I want to dress provocatively, then I will!

Foxy, I do wonder when will be the time when Ed Sheeran wears skimpy clothes and worries about his six pack and is surrounded by lithe dancers while Taylor Swift wears a tracksuit or baggy cardigan and carries a few stone too many while sitting on a chair and playing guitar and it's Ed that gets judged on his appearance.