Would doing this make my dd a bit spoilt?

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Last night dd was out and her phone must have fallen out of her pocket. She arrived back absolutely distraught. We managed to track it on the find my I phone thing and her dad collected it from the street! It was smashed in 1 corner but now doesn't work. I haven't yet inspected it but the extra annoying thing is we were going to surprise her for Christmas with an upgrade.
So my dilemma now, do we pay for a repair or upgrade the phone now earlier than planned?
Her current phone until it smashed last night is an i phone 11 and I wanted to sell it to recoup some costs back from upgrading. So it would need fixing if I did that. But I have no idea the cost of fixing it versus what I'd get for selling it.
But if we just upgrade immediately, not only does it completely ruin the surprise on Christmas day (and her sibling would get a surprise too when she'd already had hers) It would also seem like the wrong message to send to her as she was obviously careless. Like showing her don't worry sweetie, you've smashed your phone here's a better one to replace it with! Wwyd?

Assuming this whole thread isn't a wind-up, it's certainly a bit above my pay grade! I'm out.

I would make her wait... she needs a lesson in looking after her stuff and it complicates your other Christmas plans.

Cancel the cheque.

The phone is now fixed.
It wasn’t an iPhone 11 after all.
OPs daughter is 16.

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Get her a cheaper phone.

She’s already spoilt if she’s got an iPhone 11 if she’s a child

@Skyla2005 spoiled is much more a sense of entitlement then the value of them items you posses

You're already wayyyy past the spoilt part considering she's a child with an iPhone 11.. what child who doesn't earn her own money needs a phone that costs that amount??

I got a phone upgrade yesterday and the phone I got doesn't even equal an iPhone 11

As pp suggested make her use a phone you have lying around til Christmas then give her new phone as planned then

Sorry didn't read full thread

@africanantelope if the family can afford it there is nothing wrong with it and the cost of a item does not make a child spoiled it's a attitude.

For example I would say a 8 year old that needs to be pacified with a 10 pound gift on their siblings birthday just so that they don't feel left out or is entitled to a small toy every time they enter a toy shop is far more spoiled then a child that just happens to be lucky that their parents can afford to get them an iPhone

Just get her a £10 burner from Tesco or car phone warehouse for a few weeks if it’s too much to repair. Can’t always be repaired anyway if it’s not only the screen and depends if front or back damaged.

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If you don’t have an old phone for her to use before Christmas. Then discuss with DD about giving her the new phone now .
I would have thought that by her being distraught proves she isn’t spoilt , just careless. Haven’t we all sometime or another .
Don’t leave her without a phone just to make a point .
Unfortunately I would think the repair on the old phone won’t be cheap. My daughter paid £120 for a replacement screen

Hmmm fully grown adult here and all I can afford is an iPhone 7, yes she’s spoilt whatever happens

@Justbrutallyhonest so any child that has anything that you can't afford is spoiled? that is rather childish don't you think? 'i can't have it so no one else should either and certainly no child should be gifted an item like this'

I have a cousin (15) who wouldn’t give a shit if she lost her iPhone 12 as mummy would just buy her a new one. That is spoilt.
The fact that the OP’s daughter was distraught suggests she’s probably not spoilt (being spoilt is an attitude, not how much stuff someone has).

Tell her she will have to wait til it's fixed and surprise her with a new one at Christmas. In the mean time give her an old one for emergency.

I have had this with my DS, personally i would get it fixed and keep it as a backup rather than selling it. Ensure that you get a case for the new iphone 12 or iphone SE (which is what i have just gone for given the cost difference and it has exactly the same things). If it is a one off these things happen just as long as it doesn't become a regular thing.

[quote lovepickledlimes]@Skyla2005 spoiled is much more a sense of entitlement then the value of them items you posses[/quote]
This to everyone saying she is spoilt!!!

Wait until Christmas. The wait without a phone will be a good lesson for her to take better care of her phone in future and the Christmas present will be better appreciated by her after she's gone a few weeks without a phone.

I would make her wait until Christmas. Children need to learn responsibility for their actions. Its a good life lesson and will be even more of a surprise at Christmas.
I wouldn't repair the phone but I would sell it as it is.