to be upset husband doesn't like my new coat?

[likeamillpond]

Apparently 'it's an lady coat and doesn't suit you'
' I had to say something because it's not doing you any favours'

Why am I upset? It's just a coat, but I've taken it personally. I feel he's insulted me

Probably because I thought it looked nice on and I thought I lioked good in it and I've worn it a lot in recent weeks.
Now I find out it looks horrible on me and makes .me look old?
Wtf?

I'm prepared to be told I'm being ridiculous.

@Ozgirl75

I came home from the hairdressers with what I thought was a sleek bob and my son (6 at the time) said I looked like “a lovely mushroom”.

On another occasion I went to an 80s night with my hair done in a crimper, loads of blue eyeshadow and frosted pink lipstick (and I don’t normally wear much in the way of make up at all) and my two sons were beside themselves with how “pretty you look mummy, just like Katy Perry”.

The moral of my story is, you cannot trust men with fashion.

😂😂😂

I really dont like some of the stuff my dh wears but I would never tell him, that would be mean

Disclaimer: lots of sweeping generalisations below. Men and women tend not to agree on fashion choices.

Many men would like us to wear block colour fitted dresses and high heels. You can see their point, it's flattering and classy. They stupidly think they are being helpful with this unhelpful advice as they believe incorrectly that all we care about is being attractive to men.

Many women (like myself) want to look nice but also love style & fashion - the fun you can have with different looks, the means of expressing yourself through your clothes.

Then there is the question of patterns.

Patterns interfere with a clear silhouette. Women love this as it camouflages what they deem to be problem areas. Men hate patterns as they interfere with them checking out your figure.

Pockets, zips and belts that are purely there for decorative reasons are very confusing to men. Don't engage with this topic, nobody comes out well.

Honestly, I think if something grates on you it's OK to say.

I really dont like some of the stuff my dh wears but I would never tell him, that would be mean
But the post wasn't just about him not liking the coat, it said that the Dh said she didn't suit it which is a different thing.
I remember seeing a dress that I loved when I was with DH in a small indy shop and he said he liked it. I tried it on and he just said ''absolutely no way!' Apparently the colour made my skin look weird. I bought another one which was nice.
I had a cardigan in the same colour and a few months later I remember my friend saying that the colour didn't do me any favours.
To be honest if I'm spending best part of 200 quid on a dress I want to look great in it. I know I would have convinced my self I would have looked all ethereal and dreamy when the truth was I would have looked ill!!
I'm not saying I ask dhs opinion about ever item of clothing, of course I don't but if he feels strongly enough to comment ill give him the curtesy of listening and weighing up what he has said to see if he has a point or not.

Notacooldad, ok, I'll rephrase, sometimes my dh wears things that I think don't suit him, but I wouldn't tell him

No response to the rest of my post? Your ignorance on the use of Nana? No?

I do not respond to someone like you directs words like “ignorance” at fellow posters. Your debating skills leave much to be desired.

Bet freeman's are wondering why it as so many views!! He he. They may think it is super popular and stock loads 😂

No response to the rest of my post? Your ignorance on the use of Nana? No?

*I do not respond to someone like you who directs words like “ignorance” at fellow posters. Your debating skills leave much to be desired.

what you've found out is that your husband is probably clueless about fashion, or at least has different fashion taste to you.

or his own taste is not influenced by the latest "trend". That's allowed too.

It's the fact that we like something because it's in fashion that should make us pause for a second...

I wouldn't wear clothes my DH specifically hates for a date with him, but apart from that, who cares.

I think those coats look nice in pics but in real life would look vile on me. That said I always wear stuff and then see old people wearing it...so I cant talk

@Janegrey333

No response to the rest of my post? Your ignorance on the use of Nana? No?

I do not respond to someone like you directs words like “ignorance” at fellow posters. Your debating skills leave much to be desired.

😂😂😂

But you did respond to me. You just ignored the part you didn’t want to answer. You broke your own rule 😂

Oh dear. As I said, your discussion skills are poor.

This is brilliant lady on Instagram, and reminded me when I saw this thread:

www.instagram.com/reel/CIVv7zbp8gu/?igshid=1fwv7znzg7rvf

I also like the coat (maybe different colour) but I can imagine DP saying it's not his favourite (only if I ask, mind you!)

@Janegrey333

Oh dear. As I said, your discussion skills are poor.

Says the woman who refuses to discuss when called on her comments.

Crikey if I got upset every time my partner criticised my clothes, I'd never go out.
If you like your coat, wear and enjoy it.
I've started telling my partner that I hate some of his attire... But I've always been too polite to tell him. I tell him he looks like his dad in the back to front baseball cap and his leather sandals are fucking hideous.
He's eased off a bit on releasing his unwanted opinions.

Oh no don't think like that! I'm sure you look great! And if you like it then that's all that matters! My H doesn't like a lot of my clothes but I just stick my tongue out and tell him too bad if he loves me he'll love my ugly clothes! Then act very smug when other people compliment me! I try to make some humour out of it, because I cant expect him to have great taste like me all the time, and he's not responsible for my confidence, he just contributes to it (occasionally!!) :P I do understand though, it can feel deflating when the opinion of someone you care about isn't what you hoped for. As long as there are times when he tells you you look great? Those times it's okay to get a confidence boost out of him. The other times when he doesn't like your fashion are times when you have to be self confident and wink at him and tell him he's bloody lucky to have you, ugly coat and all!

I once had a v pale blue eyelash jumper. OH told me I looked like a silver back gorilla

Notacooldad, ok, I'll rephrase, sometimes my dh wears things that I think don't suit him, but I wouldn't tell him
Why not? Why would you want him to look ludicrous.

I didnt say he looked ludicrous, he's just sometimes dressed a bit teenagery! He thinks he looks cool

Thanks @VinylDetective

I think it's quite a nice coat, just a fairly standard cut winter wool/wool-look coat isn't it, slightly teddy bear style, ish?

My 11 year old daughter has two teddy bear type coats which she wears out of school and chose herself. They are definitely not "old lady" coats!

One of my winter coats I walk the dog in is a long down coat rather like one of the other suggested in the top ribbon on the site. I call it my duvet coat as it is so thick and warm, but that is far more mumsy than the OP's coat. I think your DH has no idea about fashion or style, OP. Ignore him.

Why didn't he say when you bought it. Totally unhelpful several weeks down the line.

If you like it, keep wearing it, and tell him to stick his new coat where the sun don't shine.

My dh always laughs at my clothes, I don't care, I like them and he's 14 years older so definitely doesn't get it. Although my shearling coat makes me look a cross between del boy and John motson. I just laugh and say yeah...'nice fleece 😑' 😂