Dh's dancing face...how to get over this?

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When DH dances, he pulls this face which I find deeply unattractive.

There. I know you're all going to tell me I'm a cow...but the thing is, it's a face which is almost EXACTLY the same face an ex used to pull when HE danced!

It's so annoying and off-putting for that reason!

The ex was a complete dickhead so I have bad memories attached to it. DH doesn't look like the ex but there's a sort of passing resemblance and this face is SO similar to the one ex did that it's uncanny.

It's a sort of close mouthed smile with half shut eyes.

I HATE it.

He dances AT me with this face and I always shut him down which is awful of me...how can I get over the association? I really want to stop associating this with my ex...

Do you live in a musical? Perhaps you could segue into an interpretive dance to explain how it makes you feel. Or possibly a soap opera?

some inspiration

Teach him to dance Riverdance. It would be hard to do that with half closed eyes and a weird smile.

@Pieceofpurplesky

My ex fake chews when he dances. Kind of 80s style cool. I could never dance with him as he got offended by my laughing at his bogus mastication

Now I'm fake chewing!

My ex had this kind of face when dancing, so repulsive.
Haven't seen current bf dancing yet but he doesn't make funny faces when playing drums so hopefully that's a positive sign.

As long as it's not as bad as Caroline Quentin's in her cha-cha on Strictly (google it), consider yourself lucky

he got offended by my laughing at his bogus mastication

Oh my God that's it! I'm done for now! That's so funny

So glad I'm single

Intermittent My GOD just seen that! I think you've cured me! Caroline Quentin's dancing face is the worst I've ever seen and it's eradicated the cringe of DHs!

My dh literally turns into Louis Spence when we dance! His face is crazy! Like eyes wide open, mouth wide open and tongue hanging out to the side! I'm used to it, we also like a Saturday night boogie in the kitchen but I can never stop laughing. when we go to a wedding or something though I always have to look around and people are always like this he's 14 years older than me and very quiet normally until he has a couple of beers, then I can't keep up!

You definitely need to get one of those 'Dancing Face' solicitors, quite common I believe. Divorced within a couple of days and ex now in Strictly Rehab.

Or just tell him you are so lucky to have such a sexy husband but he would look even sexier if he had his eyes open as he was dancing towards you?

Does he have a singing face?

Would he look better, dancing with a Covid mask on, or maybe a big smile, like Anton Du Beck, or those odd pursed lips like the Trump man ?

You are being unreasonable for using the phrase “ boogying on down” though.

This thread is hilarious 😂 There are people up and down the country trying faces out 😂

It's made me think of my ex fiance and his singing face, he played the guitar and always did a special face when singing and it always irritated me! One of the many reasons why he never progressed past "fiancé" 😂 Thankfully DH has a funny face he does for dancing and singing, that's supposed to be funny and it does make me laugh!

Is it an "Uncle Overbite"? 🤣

Oh OP I feel so sorry for you

Braggy brag but my DH is such a good dancer, serious fanny flutter territory.
Every few weeks since lock down we have cocktail night and get drunk and dance in the kitchen, best thing to come out of Covid

@ladybee28

This - I'm picturing OP in a permanent trench coat and flashing her DP earnestly every time he makes the face 😂 - had me snorting coffee...

Trump with Epstein at a party, doing "the face", commenting on very young women. What a sleazebag. Video at 4:35 onwards.

www.towleroad.com/2019/07/trump-jeffrey-epstein/

You need to show him how Alan Rickman does it

m.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=X4-gNN8WRHo

Imagine if he said this to you. I'd be mortified. Maybe just chill, if he's dancing 24/7 then tell him otherwise does it matter in the grand scheme of things

@IEat

But, but.... such small things can be the death-knoll of lust etc. I mean, when a man 'dances AT you' making limp faces, the last thing you'd think is - can't wait to get my hands on you, you sexy beast, well, unless to end his misery, that is.

I cannot look at DH if he dances. I have to hide it by claiming I need to sit down, going to the toilet or to fetch something etc.

Uncoordinated arms and legs, dad dancer face and zero to do with the musical rythym of the moment.

It is like watching a strawberry blancmange getting repeatedly electrocuted by a cattle prod and about as sexually alluring as being slapped in the face with a wet kipper covered in dog shit.

OP, you're welcome

I'd suggest you try and get off on the cringe of it all. Embrace that awfulness and shitiness and just roll around in the shame and deep embarrassment of how unattractive you find him in that moment. Maybe it's the shame you feel of wanting someone more attractive and less goofy. We all have parts of that to ourselves too. Love yourself a bit more and you could maybe love him too a bit more? Are you projecting? Imagine if he criticised a part of you you'd never questioned before, let's say, the size of your earlobes. You'd always thought they were perfectly good earlobes but now you've found out your DH loathes them and can't stand to be near them, especially when you're smiling. It would wipe the smile right off of your face.

Are you focusing a deeper sense of disatisfaction with him onto the dancing smile face. Maybe you're just not that into him anymore? Don't think covid is helping any relationship right now! Just breathe through it and then remember something deeply sexy about why you went for him in the first place...