Dh's dancing face...how to get over this?

[FortunesFave]

When DH dances, he pulls this face which I find deeply unattractive.

There. I know you're all going to tell me I'm a cow...but the thing is, it's a face which is almost EXACTLY the same face an ex used to pull when HE danced!

It's so annoying and off-putting for that reason!

The ex was a complete dickhead so I have bad memories attached to it. DH doesn't look like the ex but there's a sort of passing resemblance and this face is SO similar to the one ex did that it's uncanny.

It's a sort of close mouthed smile with half shut eyes.

I HATE it.

He dances AT me with this face and I always shut him down which is awful of me...how can I get over the association? I really want to stop associating this with my ex...

[SpringIsSprung1]

He's enjoying himself. Let him have fun and try to enjoy yourself too!

[Woolwichgirl]

Imagine a guy posted this on mumsnet.He would have been crucified..
If you dont like his dancing face,look somewere else..Jezz.

[Prokupatuscrakedatus]

I just imagined this to be serious.

If I were to dance privately in my own home and DP were to say how disgusting he found my face when I did this. I'd probably be too self conscious to ever dance in his (or anybody elses) presence again - the effort of creating an acceptable face would not be worth it.

[ImperfectTents]

Poke him in the eye

[Fuckityfucksake]

as a good dancer is a good lover
Say what?
This can not be true, a bit like feet and penis size (nose size is actually a better reflection but I digress)
Anyway, my Dh IS NOT a good dancer, but the other he's awesome

Ahh OP, I kind of feel sorry for your dh. I know you can't help feeling how you do so I think I'm with the tell him people.
You could maybe try....
I love your dancing dh but I'm assuming it's not a seduction technique because the face you're making doesn't quite tickle my pickle - insert some laughing/ guffawing so he knows it's not meant to be mean.
Or
Next time he does it, immediately turn to face him without looking at his face and grab him for a smoochy dance - win win, no hurt feelings and you won't have to look at him :) :)

[ADelicateFlower]

I ❤️❤️❤️this thread 😂

I come from a highly expressive family, always singing and dancing and having a laugh, but my god there were some cringey faces when I was growing up. I always thought of it as the fuck-me-face-for-wedding-dances. Didnt realise there were alternative names and subcategories. How accurate.

Particularly impressed by the CBT/neuronal plasticity intervention proposed upthread.

[MrsRogerLima]

Picturing this op. It's OK Melania, you can divorce him soon 😂

[roarfeckingroarr]

@FortunesFave

Skip I could...just ram a pair of shades on him when he starts...or say

"Here DH, put this mask on...I think it looks great when you dance in a mask."

😂😂😂 please say this

[ancientgran]

This is where mask wearing and social distancing could come in useful.

[BecomeStronger]

Oh you're lucky. If I had a daughter my main advice to her would be don't marry a man who won't dance. I'd love to have a husband who'd dance round the kitchen with me

[BecomeStronger]

I am slightly worried that I have a dancing face. Who knew that was a thing?

[MLMbotsgoaway]

I think I might have one. I also cannot help but mouth the words to a song when I dance as well.

[FortunesFave]

Prokus That's why I've asked for advice on how to get over the association! I also said I won't tell him how I feel...I'm looking for a way to move on from the memory!

BecomeStronger Oh it's a thing....my mate has one but it's funny...she's a funny dancer...she always makes me laugh when she dances and she puts this sort of pervy expression on her face.

[Sonofapizzaman]

Omg this is hilarious and reminds me of my ex who had the worst, most cringe dance moves ever. I’m tying to picture his dancing face now but unfortunately I think it’s been too long.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

[quote Crinkle77]Judge Rinder's dancing face is just the best m.youtube.com/watch?v=LYJC1_-zc8k[/quote]
Have to admit- when I read the opening post I thought "Think yourself lucky you're not married to Rinder."

[NC4Now]

I’m absolutely howling at this thread. I’m single atm but would love a man who danced at me 🤣

[SilverBirchWithout]

Brilliant thread, I too have tried out the face myself.

Seriously though - try mind techniques to reframe your association with the face. I’d try seeing it as your DHs pleasure at being with you rather than your ex. Or as a trigger for you to think about how lovely he is in comparison. Focus on thoughts about DH rather than ex.

[diddl]

@BecomeStronger

I am slightly worried that I have a dancing face. Who knew that was a thing?

I didn't.

I'm usually singing!

[diddl]

@NC4Now

I’m absolutely howling at this thread. I’m single atm but would love a man who danced at me 🤣

Might depend on the facial expression though?

I can't help associating being danced at with a closed smile & half closed eyes as a pick up in a 70s disco!

[SilverBirchWithout]

You’ll now be able to associate the Face with the smiles generated by this thread instead of ex’s gurning.
Job done!

[ilovesushi]

My DH has a dancing face. It sounds quite similar! Maybe all men do it. It does make him look a bit daft. Just makes me laugh though.

[Benjispruce2]

I wish my DH would dance!

[Dozer]

I’ve always felt very self conscious dancing, unless v drunk. Worried about others judging. Think lots of people are similar, and the discomfort shows on faces. And/or they try to mask it by silly dancing.

Other than that, really enjoy dancing and, despite the self consciousness, don’t want to stop.

One of my DC loves music and dancing but isn’t especially good, other DC sometimes make mean comments. It starts young!

[nosswith]

I think no dancing may be the only way to get over the association. A pity, as dancing is good exercise.

[Pieceofpurplesky]

My ex fake chews when he dances. Kind of 80s style cool. I could never dance with him as he got offended by my laughing at his bogus mastication