To cancel our date because of his hair?

[Datedrama]

Please tell me if I'm an awful person, because I certainly feel like one tonight.

I have been talking to a man who I met on OLD around 3 weeks ago. He is lovely, kind, funny and a really interesting person to talk to and we get on very well. We text a bit during the day but always have a chat on the phone in the evening. I was instantly attracted to him after seeing his photos online, he told me they were recent ones.

Anyway, we got chatting tonight and he mentioned that his hair had grown a lot recently and he decided to send me a pic. I feel absolutely horrible for saying this, but it looks awful (to me) and I don't find him attractive one bit I don't like long hair on men anyway. I'm not sure whether I should cancel our date tomorrow or still go ahead with it and see how I feel afterwards? Or would it be better to let him down before we actually meet?

I know I sound extremely shallow, but in my defence he did tell me that his pics (with short hair) were recent ones! It's a shame because I think he has a fab personality but surely attraction is important to?

Thoughts?

@Mamanyt
A very poignant comment. Thanks for sharing.

My bf has got long hair, down to chin length. I like it, but his personality is so infectious that it overrides everything else. He was originally clean shaven before we met, and I asked him to grow a beard, which he did. He didn't take offence. Go and meet him and see how you get on.

@Mamanyt

I'd go anyway. Look, a first date is not a commitment. It is a "let's see if we get along." Same with the second and third, actually. When I dated, I was always willing to commit to three dates...unless the first raised some MASSIVE red flags, and physical appearance (other than dirty, etc) was not even on the menu. Three because the first date is almost always somewhat awkward. You actually get to know someone by the third date, or at least have a good sense of who they are. The Great Love of my Life wasn't a man I would ordinarily have found attractive. But by the third date I liked him a LOT, and by the end of three months, I thought him handsome from the inside out. He was killed not long after he proposed, but that has nothing to do with this. IF I had refused the first date, I'd never have known just what a beautiful man he was.

@Datedrama
Did you go and if so how did you get on ?

Did you go in the end @Datedrama?

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Ah OP - come back!

I reckon she has eloped and run off into the sunset with their glossy long hair swishing in the wind