To be fed up of people without a baby/child parking in the baby/child bays

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It drives me nuts.

Totally selfish.

He could have parked in a disabled bay in that case?

Not every disabled person qualifies for a blue badge, no blue badge = no parking in the disabled bays.

Infants can go in pushchairs if you buy a pushchair that lies flat, most travel systems come with some sort of attachment (seat or carrycot) other than the carseat that a newborn can go in. Slings exist too. There are alternatives to removing the entire carseat and then schlepping it around the local shopping centre.

First off you would be handing over your baby to a complete stranger.

In non-covid times this is a non-issue. Stranger is highly unlikely to run off with your child especially if you choose your stranger wisely (e.g., elderly couple, parent with child of their own, carpark attendant, etc).

Just get the fuck on with it, park your car properly, pick up your baby and transport them around in the manner that best suits you. You are able bodied and need to pull yourself together

In the nicest possible way, pretty much this. At one time I had three DC under five then four under seven, I get that it can seem hard at times but there comes a point where you just need to get on with it because no one is going to do it for you. Instead of counting problems, look for solutions.

@Gancanny

He could have parked in a disabled bay in that case?

Not every disabled person qualifies for a blue badge, no blue badge = no parking in the disabled bays.

Infants can go in pushchairs if you buy a pushchair that lies flat, most travel systems come with some sort of attachment (seat or carrycot) other than the carseat that a newborn can go in. Slings exist too. There are alternatives to removing the entire carseat and then schlepping it around the local shopping centre.

First off you would be handing over your baby to a complete stranger.

In non-covid times this is a non-issue. Stranger is highly unlikely to run off with your child especially if you choose your stranger wisely (e.g., elderly couple, parent with child of their own, carpark attendant, etc).

Just get the fuck on with it, park your car properly, pick up your baby and transport them around in the manner that best suits you. You are able bodied and need to pull yourself together

In the nicest possible way, pretty much this. At one time I had three DC under five then four under seven, I get that it can seem hard at times but there comes a point where you just need to get on with it because no one is going to do it for you. Instead of counting problems, look for solutions.

This.

I had a lockdown baby, four weeks after the birth with my vagina still like mincemeat after my forceps delivery, I was still able to carry baby (but not baby in car seat) and wheel a small trolley. You often need to adjust your shopping expectations when you have a baby - for me it meant making weekly trips rather than one huge monthly one.

@GrumpyHoonMain In lockdown the supermarket is the only place I can and do go in my car!

If you're in delivery range then it can often be easier to shop online, no need to risk the supermarket then.

@GrumpyHoonMain I'd be very surprised if the majority of mums with young babies would hand over their baby to someone they didn't know!

Even in COVID times handing a car seat to a masked passer by is fine - if you are worried wipe the handle after

If COVID is a worry why take an infant to a supermarket at all?

@Gancanny It actually benefits my MH getting out somewhere, even if it is just to the supermarket. As I'm sure a lot of new mums in lockdown would totally understand.

[quote Nicknamegoeshere]@GrumpyHoonMain I'd be very surprised if the majority of mums with young babies would hand over their baby to someone they didn't know![/quote]
I didn’t hand my baby to anyone. I carried my baby in the crook of my arm and used my other arm to manoevre the trolley, taking breaks where needed. Necessity and all that. Thankfully I didn’t need to do it for more than 2-3 months because by then DH was working from home but I didn’t have the luxury of only going to places with P&C spaces.

@ghostyslovesheets Have you not heard of social distancing? And no, I am not going to hand my baby over to a complete stranger, Covid or no Covid!

Correct me if I’m wrong OP, but I think the gist is that the p&c spaces make it much easier/safer/convenient when shopping with a small human. When they are taken up by people who do not have a small child with them or are disabled, then it is at least annoying and at most very awkward.

I do find it ironic that the people who say the are using it without a good reason, are doing so because it’s easier/safer/convenient to not use a regular space. Then spouting that people with small humans should use it.

So based on the poll it seems the majority of mn’s would be happy parking in a patent and child space without a child.

If that’s what we find on a parenting forum then it’s no surprise anyone uses them without a worry

But you’ll happily push it round a supermarket? One of the best places to catch it?

@GrumpyHoonMain Sorry, that was meant for @ghosty.

When they are taken up by people who do not have a small child with them or are disabled, then it is at least annoying and at most very awkward.

I'm so sorry that disabled people are causing annoyance and awkwardness...

*are not disabled.

To be fair you shouldn’t be taking children into the supermarket at this time. I personally would judge the people in the supermarket with their children far more than the people without who’ve parked in the child and parent space without a child...

@ghostyslovesheets I don't need to hand her to a stranger when doing so.

What about single parents Claire?!

When they are taken up by people who do not have a small child with them or are disabled, then it is at least annoying and at most very awkward

How about a trade? I'll give you the P&C space I've just parked in if you can either take my rheumatoid arthritis or issue me a valid blue badge. Deal?

@Claire347 What do single parents do with their babies/children do you suggest?
Do you have children and, if they are school age, do you send them to school?

@viciousJackdaw see correction above.

Yeah you are right enough with single parents is what it is and needs must. However, I pass as many family’s/single parents in with a pal in the supermarket as I do people shopping on their own shopping

Oh frig, I missed your correction @Bogardicia sorry for being sarky

Oh this is great! There’s an “Inconsiderate dog owners” thread running now too. Just like the old days - take that COVID!

Someone just needs to start a “Shoes on or off in the house?” thread and a “How often do you wash your sheets/towels/self?” thread and a “Why are people with no children on MN?” thread and my day will be complete.

@Claire347 It's always just myself and my baby.