What would you do? Teachers advise 🙏 please

[Whatwouldyoydo]

My 16 yr old dd has just called me in tears.
Currently in 6th form and has been having issues with a male teacher, quite young tries to be funny but often misses the mark.
Several time he’s made wtf comments etc
Today he announced loudly that ‘ Claire wears short skirts to attract the boys” and when no one responded as they were quite shocked he said it again louder.
Dd was so upset she left the room for the toilet and her friend brought her the bag as class was ending.
Dd feels shamed. Fwiw dd dresses totally appropriately. (Dds name is not really Claire)

Dd said she’s complained to another teacher at school about it. Apparently the teacher in question was very anxious when dd didn’t return to class and probably realised he’s overstepped and was asking the girls to txt dd.
What would you do? Leave it for dd to manage the follow up or step up and intervene.

@Maireas

Please report the conversation. There should not be emotional exchanges about "hurt". He broke professional standards and safeguarding. It's quite different.

Not only that, but the school broke their word to the OP about her DD not being in this guy's class until the matter was completely resolved.

The school should be protecting both the OP's DD from making bad decisions (because she's 16) and the teacher from making bad decision (because he sounds like an idiot as well as a creep) and are failing them both miserably.

They've also failed the OP and her DH by not keeping their DD safely away from this man.

i think we should lay off from this as OP has stated she needs a break.

Really glad you’ve still written to the head and board of governors and I hope you’ll still be contacting the LADO re. the horrendous safeguarding procedures at this school. I agree about being hugely impressed with your daughter for recognising the weakness of the original apology and that he needed to see his actions were the problem (not her feelings) but that is a bizarre exchange and I also can’t believe the teachers agreed to it, and that again it seems to have to have been your daughter to insist on a witness, I hope your daughter is feeling much better than she was and safe at school and well done for raising such a strong and articulate young woman. This college is surreal (and very worrying) top to bottom though!

What a totally inappropriate conversation. An apology from the teacher should have been quite enough.

@Viviennemary

What a totally inappropriate conversation. An apology from the teacher should have been quite enough.

An apology is enough for the absolutely massive safeguarding breach he committed?! I don't think so!

DD shouldn’t have been in his lesson until fully resolved.

DD shouldn’t have initiated such a meeting without safeguarding lead being there or a member of SLT, it should have been planned in advanced with all parties agreeing to attending and who would be present.

Teacher shouldn’t have agreed to such a meeting.

The conversation was totally inappropriate and shouldn’t have happened.

Don’t get me wrong; the teacher is totally at fault here and his behaviour is a disgrace but it shouldn’t be dealt with by a 16 year old.

I would write my letter, make a formal complaint to the school Governors and tell my DD not to initiate any other meeting/discussion about said event.

his behaviour is a disgrace but it shouldn’t be dealt with by a 16 year old.

No, it shouldn't have been left for her to deal with.

As it was, she stepped up very well and probably can now move on.

Hope your dd is ok.

Complain. Do not leave it for your DD to manage. She’s a child, and the teacher is inappropriate.

Call and write to the Head to complain. If it’s not dealt with write to the Chair of Governors.

@VestaTilley. If you read the full thread, or even just the ops posts you will find that things have moved on a long way.

Was thinking about you and your daughter today. Was taking with a teacher friend whose colleague did something shockingly similar.

Hope all is ok?