URGENT - school gate crisis, ive got an hour!

[SlipperTripper]

This is complicated, I'll try to be brief.

DSD15 is a shit at school, and has been locked in an ongoing fight with a similar twat of a child for months.

Both girls were excluded for a fortnight following a physical fight three weeks ago, and have been back a week.

Other girl has been very vocal towards DSD (who is no angel, I 100% believe she's been giving back as good as she gets) but no more physical incidents.

Today I have been asked to pick her up 10mins early as the other girl has assembled some adult male relatives to meet DSD outside school, and beat her up. Cousins, I believe.

According to DSD, these people actually turned up in the school reception earlier.

Whilst I am disgusted with DSDs behaviour, and that of the other girl on an ongoing basis, I feel that this has crossed a line into something totally different. Moving from a school spat to a planned, well, attack.

What the hell should my next move be?!?

Do I turn up at school prepared to collect and whizz home ignoring the potential issue, do I notify the police, or do I approach them myself and say 'for Christ's sake, what ARE you doing?'

The pissed off side of me wants to just March up and say wtf is wrong with you all, but my sensible head says if they're prepared to walk into a school to smack a child, I'm likely to end up with a thump?!?

Honestly, I have never known of anything so bloody ridiculous in all my life, and must stress how absolutely disgusted I am at everyone involved. But right now, I have an hour to work out how to manage this! HELP!

(I am at the end of my tether with this, it been a long line of issues this year, and I just want some fucking respite. But that's another thread)

@CovidStoleTheRainbow

I was a 'shit at school' always getting into fights and a totally nightmare.

I was having the fuck bullied out of me, was being started on, beaten up and I dared to fight back so my parents thought I could 'give as good as I got' as well.

I was having a fucking horrible time of it, and my mum spoke of me just like you are speaking of DSD.

I very much feel for your DSD. Poor bloody kid.

No wonder she plays up.

You really can’t project your situation into this. OP accepts that her DSD is part of the problem. How do you know she’s not like the ones that were picking on you?

The cops need to be alerted. What if these attackers have weapons?

If anything she should be staying later rather than getting collected earlier so anyone hanging around is more obvious. Definitely call the school and come up with a plan of action which may include police if the story is accurate.

@Aquamarine1029

Why isn't your husband, or her mother, dealing with this shit? His daughter, his problem.

And most unhelpful post goes to.....

I am sure a lot of us are thinking that, but the poster has to deal with it atm so what is the point in asking that?

Police. It’s harassment, which is a crime.

As if any school would have let them in to Reception in the first place and not contacted the police themselves. 😬

Definitely police. Your poor DSD.

Haven't the school called the police ? This is whole other level

Head and Police straight away and she doesn't leave school

School and police stay very much out each other's way. And they do anything to avoid stepping on each other's toes....

Not true in my experience of many years working in schools.

You have male adults looking for your dsd to possibly hurt her an your asking if you should call the police yes 100% you should i like to think the school have already notified the police aswell.

I'd speak to the school again. And I'd go to collect as soon as possible. I think it would be appropriate to ring the police and ask for the school to support with this. How did they find out about this plan?

Speak to the school now and then if they haven’t spoken to the police you should.

Even if this is just a threat that has been made to her it’s escalated beyond the schools control now.

I’d be collecting her earlier than 10 minutes

Well, if this is actually going to happen, call the bloody school and ask them too!

Police, NOW!

Police definitely collect early. A 14 year old was admitted to my hospital a few days ago after being stabbed by a 16 year old. In a very similar scenario.

Have the police go with you to the school to collect her.

And change her school.

I'd speak to school now, and hopefully they are calling the police. If they aren't, tell them you are. This might encourage them to do it. The police should definitely be involved if groups of adults are threatening children but I've known schools reluctant to involve tgem.

I’d call the school first and find out what the hell is going on - if this came from your stepdaughter.

I would pick her up immediately.

I would speak to the police.

And I’d love to know why it seems to be your decision here, and you asking MN - and not one of her parents.

10 minutes doesn't seem enough. Frankly I would be getting my child now and I wouldn't be letting them back until I felt confident that they'd be safe at school. I don't want to frighten you but this sounds like it has escalated beyond belief. Kids carry knives these days and the mentality of grown men who would turn up at a school to beat up a teenage girl is fucking terrifying!

Phone the police for advice and keep that poor girl safe. Whatever childish drama has gone out she sounds like she could be in real danger from these people.

@Aquamarine1029

Why isn't your husband, or her mother, dealing with this shit? His daughter, his problem.

What even is the point in that comment?

The OP is in a situation that needs dealt with now and she’s the adult dealing with it.

Call the police, tell school you have called them and still be there early to collect.

Omg, police!!

*nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

Contact police and ask for them to attend when you collect her as you are concerned for your safety.

I know this is very serious but this comment 😂 some people really have no clue what the police do. Or how many police officers we actually have*

You dont think the police would take the threat of violence against a teenage girl seriously? Are you for real?