URGENT - school gate crisis, ive got an hour!

[SlipperTripper]

This is complicated, I'll try to be brief.

DSD15 is a shit at school, and has been locked in an ongoing fight with a similar twat of a child for months.

Both girls were excluded for a fortnight following a physical fight three weeks ago, and have been back a week.

Other girl has been very vocal towards DSD (who is no angel, I 100% believe she's been giving back as good as she gets) but no more physical incidents.

Today I have been asked to pick her up 10mins early as the other girl has assembled some adult male relatives to meet DSD outside school, and beat her up. Cousins, I believe.

According to DSD, these people actually turned up in the school reception earlier.

Whilst I am disgusted with DSDs behaviour, and that of the other girl on an ongoing basis, I feel that this has crossed a line into something totally different. Moving from a school spat to a planned, well, attack.

What the hell should my next move be?!?

Do I turn up at school prepared to collect and whizz home ignoring the potential issue, do I notify the police, or do I approach them myself and say 'for Christ's sake, what ARE you doing?'

The pissed off side of me wants to just March up and say wtf is wrong with you all, but my sensible head says if they're prepared to walk into a school to smack a child, I'm likely to end up with a thump?!?

Honestly, I have never known of anything so bloody ridiculous in all my life, and must stress how absolutely disgusted I am at everyone involved. But right now, I have an hour to work out how to manage this! HELP!

(I am at the end of my tether with this, it been a long line of issues this year, and I just want some fucking respite. But that's another thread)

[SquirtleSquad]

How did they get into reception?

[Smallgoon]

Police, and I'd be notifying their form tutor and headteacher too.

[FatCatThinCat]

Is this even real? A gang of men have turned up at school intending to assault a girl at the school and neither the school nor the parents have rung the police? I clearly live in a parallel universe.

[canigooutyet]

Who has asked you to pick her up?

It's incorrect the school and police avoid each other, many secondary schools have direct contact with local community police and are often onsite for parts of the day.

I was based near a local rough school and police cars were a regular occurence, as was seeing students walking out in cuffs.

[slashlover]

Today I have been asked to pick her up 10mins early as the other girl has assembled some adult male relatives to meet DSD outside school, and beat her up. Cousins, I believe.

According to DSD, these people actually turned up in the school reception earlier.

It depends on who asked you and how DSD knows they were there. It's very easy for things like this to start as a rumour and escalate in a school. If DSD was the one who contacted you then contact the school. Did DSD actually see these men or who told her they were there?

[VikingVolva]

It's very relevant to what happens right now. The parents with PR really need to know ASAP about this level of threat to their DC and be fully involved with the management of it.

Which needs to begin with a call to the school - by OP as she's the one who has been informed so far - to ascertain what they know of events, and if they have already informed the parents and the police. OP's role is to do the actual collection if she is the adult most available, and to make sure that school, police and parents are all communicating with each other this afternoon to form a proper plan

[Thickhead]

Police.

[from2metersthrowmeasweet]

I'd be there immediately to ask school what their going to do about it!

[tvsnacking]

Where is her parents?

[rainbowstardrops]

I think it depends who's told you that the men turned up in reception and are intending to come back at the end of the day.
If the school told you this then presumably they're taking advice from the police.
If your DSD told you all of this then maybe it's not quite as reliable.

[Meraas]

I clearly live in a parallel universe.

Same.

[HamishDent]

Call the school to work out the situation and then the police. Don't wait, go and get her now.

Who the hell are these ‘men’ who would try and beat up a child! What kind of person even thinks of doing such a thing, never mind to a girl. Disgusting pigs.

Police all the way OP and if the school hasn’t already involved them, I would be asking some serious questions as to why. Whatever you do don’t approach them. If they would beat up a girl, God knows what they would do to you.

[TragedyHands]

The Police aren't interested if you say your child id being groomed, they aren't going to listen to the school.
They have to be invited in by the head apparently.

[CoffeeRunner]

You call the school to verify if these “men” did actually turn up at school earlier.

You call the Police.

You fetch DSD straightaway & make damn sure school are aware she will not be returning until the matter has been dealt with properly.

[slashlover]

Something like this happened in our school, apparently someone's brother was coming to "do him in". The rumours were spread and grew to a gang was coming and someone knew someone who had a gun, it was like mass hysteria. The boy was terrified and phoned his parents who contacted the school only to find it was a load of nonsense, the other boy involved didn't even have a brother.

[OverTheRainbow88]

I would call the police

Does the school have a PCSO, I would call school and ask your DSD to wait with the PCSO.

[HollowTalk]

Hmmm. They were allowed into reception? The school didn't call the police to warn them?

[Denthelp]

Hope everyone is OK and you get this sorted OP. How frightening.

[Littlemissnutcracker]

This is awful. Just wondering could your daughter change schools for a fresh start also

[unmarkedbythat]

Obviously police.

[helloxhristmas]

Police and I'm amazed school haven't.

[MissEliza]

Ffs the school should have called the police. I'd be up at the school right away and demanding that.

[rach2713]

I would say ring the police and make them aware of the situation and its gone further than just school stuff older people are now getting involved and you daughter doesn't feel safe anymore..

[WitchesBritchesPumpkinPants]

More questions than answers running through my head.

If this is true & frankly even if it's not, DSD needs to change schools.

I don't know if she's just a bloody nightmare *or if she's a bullied kid screaming out for help, but it's all been handled badly and she needs a fresh start.

*A poster explained yesterday what an absolute fucking nightmare she's been to get SM 'just because', even though the SM was the best adult in her life sometimes kids are just vile, but mostly they need help of one kind or another.

Love bombing & a change of school is where I'd start. Well after the police!!!!

I'd have called the school first to learn what I could, then called the police.

Hope you're both ok

[MissEliza]

@TragedyHands

The Police aren't interested if you say your child id being groomed, they aren't going to listen to the school.
They have to be invited in by the head apparently.

Not true. If you make a complaint, the police can and will get involved if they see necessary. There's nothing special about a school that they get to decide if the police can come in.