AIBU about his kidd xmas day?

[MyWitzEnd]

DH has two kids aged 21 and 18. This year they are coming to is supposedly for xmas. DH has just told me that his DD wants them to come on the 23rd and go home on the 25th. This would mean i would be in my own for nearly three hours xmas day as he does the round trip. I had bo choice other than to agree and now feel mean at feeling cross.

Unless you're about to tell us you'll have 3 day old triplets, a puppy, and his 97 year old grandma to look after for those 3 hours, YABVU.

Sorry- it wouldn't bother me.
Think of enjoying some quality quiet time! Or drink!

They're both adults and you should have been involved in the discussion. Presumably she has somewhere she'd sooner be the rest of the 25th? It's not on.

Op it's hard to read that, what do you mean?. They were coming to you and now they are not and he will do a 3 hours drive?

It's hard to judge without more information but if he went in the morning would that be so awful? And came back for the rest of the day!

It wouldn't bother me. But, can't you fit in the car?

Yabu, what do you do when he's a work for more than 3 hours ?

God I’d love 3 hours to myself

Is there any particular reason you can't be on your own for 3 hours? Its hardly a long time.

Go with him? Read a book? Watch some telly? Eat trifle? Can't really see the problem

I wouldn't like it. Why do 2 adults get to dictate exactly when they are taken home? Surely it needs to be convenient for your DH and yourself as well.

Yabu, 3 hours is nothing.

Are they going to see their mum for the rest of Christmas Day?

@Fudgsicles

I wouldn't like it. Why do 2 adults get to dictate exactly when they are taken home? Surely it needs to be convenient for your DH and yourself as well.

Yep. Who made them the boss? Is he doing the catering or is it all being left to you?

@Fudgsicles

I wouldn't like it. Why do 2 adults get to dictate exactly when they are taken home? Surely it needs to be convenient for your DH and yourself as well.

Where did they "dictate". They expressed what they wanted, presumably with reasons attached and their Dad, as an adult, has capacity to agree or not.

My kids will be at their dads for a few hours on xmas day and I will be on my own for that time. I plan to tidy up the mess, have a nice drink and watch a film. It's not exactly a major problem. This Christmas will be one where many people are spending time without loved ones and where plans have to change. We all need to be a bit less uptight about xmas this year.

Do neither of them drive?

Maybe the OP wants to spend Christmas Day with her husband?!

I wouldn’t be over the moon about DH being away for 3 hours on Xmas day either OP. One day of the year not to take people places, to spend time together as a family, go for a walk, watch tv, play a game etc. If it was an 1hr round trip I could understand but 3hors on Xmas day? Who wants to do that. Surely his DC should travel on Boxing Day or make their own arrangements.

3 hours on your own for one day? Unless you have significant additional needs, I suspect you will cope!

Do neither of his kids drive though?

I'd give my right arm for 3 hours of peace on Xmas evening. I'm usually on full human chaos overload by 5pm and just want to have a bath and lock the door.

Three hours to myself on Christmas Day sounds heavenly to me. I'd be straight on the sofa with a bottle of baileys, chocolate and a Xmas film! Unless they are going home in the middle of dinner time or majorly disrupting your existing plans?

Buy one a car...

Seriously ?

It’s irrelevant that other people would want 3 hours to themselves. And it’s a bit shitty to sneer at the OP for not coping.

She’d rather have the whole of Christmas Day with husband. No suggestions she’ll fall apart without him.

If someone said their DH was going somewhere for 3 hours on Christmas Day - to see the MIL, to play golf or cycle - he’d be called selfish and OP would no doubt quickly be told to LTB. But no, OP is a step mum so has no right to any emotions at all and is being ripped apart as if she’s suggested slaughtering a puppy instead of not wanting her DH to play taxi for hours.

What time of day? I wouldn't love it if it was, say 12-3pm but I wouldn't mind too much if it was late afternoon/evening. Do you have any friends or family you can schedule a Zoom call with?

I'd love 3 hours to myself xmas day!