AIBU about his kidd xmas day?

[MyWitzEnd]

DH has two kids aged 21 and 18. This year they are coming to is supposedly for xmas. DH has just told me that his DD wants them to come on the 23rd and go home on the 25th. This would mean i would be in my own for nearly three hours xmas day as he does the round trip. I had bo choice other than to agree and now feel mean at feeling cross.

Eh? Have a bath, get a film on and chill 3 hrs gone!

Arrrghhh

< runs screaming from thread >

Oh dear, this has taken a direction I wasn’t expecting.

I'd get bladdered and sleep it off.

When did you get married OP? You were getting back with your XH in April

That aside, I cannot imagine being a grown woman who cannot cope with spending three hours alone (disabilities and other major traumatic issues notwithstanding)

Why are people laughing at OP about her husband's infidelity?

Especially those that have been arguing her husband's corner the whole thread. If the other thread was OP, it's hardly painting a picture of a kind and considerate husband who is in a good place to be ignoring his wife's feelings and ditching her on Christmas Day after a year of isolation and dealing with his infidelity...

hey OP, i’ve been on my own since March. i’ll be on my own apart from the cat for the whole of xmas. and then for weeks after that.

i’m fairly sure your impotent rage will make those 3 long, lonely hours fly by.

Why are people laughing at OP about her husband's infidelity?

@aSofaNearYou I think it is because this consisted of him coming back from Asda and OP noticing that the bottom button of his shirt was undone..........Not kidding.

@Clymene

How are they getting to your house *@MyWitzEnd* ?

We pick them up.

They want to spend part of Christmas Day with their mum.

Do you alternate years?

If my dd didn’t drive I would have to (and have done) the same - deliver her to her dad on Christmas Day on alternate years

Have your dinner late, around 5?

Will your children be there?

I don’t think Asda is open on Christmas Day? Can’t comment on ladies of the night - do they observe national bank holidays?

@Coriandersucks

God I’d love 3 hours to myself

This🙌

Sorry but I think YABU. You talk about the adult children only wanting presents and not calling during their dad having covid, well at 18 right until I was a parent myself (early 20s) I was very much like that and so were my friends.

I think if DH wants to go then you have to let him at least his DC want to spend time with him so they can't hate him that much. Some of my best memories from that age with my parents are car journeys; chatting and singing to music etc.

I think you're totally reasonable to be annoyed at this. They're adults and it'll totally disrupt your Christmas day.

Can't you agree that you husband takes her earlier in the morning perhaps so at least he can be home for lunch.

As they're adults I really don't think their needs should come first to be honest. They're not young children. Your needs are just as valid and important as the adult children.

I hope you get something sorted and ignore the unkind comments.

Being left on your own in the middle of the day sounds miserable. Can they be dropped off on xmas eve or go earlier on the morning? What does their dad think?

I tend to come home (we are at my mums) at some point during the day to check on the cats and it is nice to get some peace during a down part of the day. What time will you eat? Does DH help with the prep?

@Coffeepot72

I don’t think Asda is open on Christmas Day? Can’t comment on ladies of the night - do they observe national bank holidays?

I'm a part time employee - I don't solicit so not exactly the same but similar in that I work with people - and I have to take bank holidays out of my annual leave. Maybe that's the rule?

Have you actually voiced your annoyance with your DH? Can you have a rational conversation with him and try to meet in the middle? The kids are dropped off earlier/later perhaps? You've not really given the full picture here so you're not going to get much advice from people and from your responses you sound like you're ready to have an argument with anyone.

@upsidedownwavylegs

Ffs this isn’t the thread I signed up for

🤣

@ShowOfHands

Is he still seeing prostitutes? Are you still with that DH even or did you get back with your ex like you were considering in early lock down?

Maybe he's not taking his children anywhere on the 25th.

This makes so much more sense as to why you're so upset OP. It sounds like there is way more going on

Three hours on Christmas Day sounds like bliss. An undisturbed movie and a bath. It'd be a Christmas miracle in this house.

If your husband uses prostitutes whilst married to you, maybe he did the same with his ex and thats why his DC aren't that interested in him.
He sounds like a real catch.....

What a twist turned thread this turned out to be.
I gather DH is BF.

I wouldn't call it working 🤣