To not invite my DDs friends.

[Julz1622]

I have booked a socially distanced visit from Santa and Anna and Elsa on Christmas Eve for my daughter (8) and the baby (10 months) I live in a block of flats, and I was telling one of the mum's of one of daughter's friends about it. She said oh let me know what time they are coming and I'll send 'name' across. She has also told a few of the other mums on the block. Now I know some people will think I am being selfish, but I've paid £50 for them to come visit my daughter, I don't want all the kids congregating and ruining it for my daughters.

I can’t believe how bananas some posters have gone on this thread because one person disagreed with them

@upsidedownwavylegs

I can’t believe how bananas some posters have gone on this thread because one person disagreed with them

It's crazy. People triumphantly insisting that's she's contradicting herself and 'doubling-down' (an incredibly annoying phrase) 🙄 I think Flavia is maybe a bit strident but she's perfectly correct that you can think the neighbour is a CF and that the OP was perhaps a bit shortsighted. I do, myself. I wouldn't send my kids round unasked - that's crackers - but it might have occurred to the OP that this sort of treat would have attracted attention at the best of times, and particularly now. And kept it a bit quiet.

And weirdly conflating the fact the she's said she would let the neighbour's kids have a shufti at the Disney princesses, with asking her if she'd throw open her doors for the homeless and indigent to share her Christmas dinner. Because that's completely the same thing.

Yep. Personally if I’d arranged a treat of this nature for my children based in the close I’d have invited the child over the close in the first place. I think the other mother was really cheeky saying she’d send her daughter uninvited and especially telling other parents in the building, but I still think OP should include the child, even though I recognise that she doesn’t HAVE to. I don’t think that’s inconsistent with my policy of not inviting the whole town for Christmas dinner or whatever.

@upsidedownwavylegs

Yep. Personally if I’d arranged a treat of this nature for my children based in the close I’d have invited the child over the close in the first place. I think the other mother was really cheeky saying she’d send her daughter uninvited and especially telling other parents in the building, but I still think OP should include the child, even though I recognise that she doesn’t HAVE to. I don’t think that’s inconsistent with my policy of not inviting the whole town for Christmas dinner or whatever.

the children are recieving gift bags which means this is a set amount and extras cost extra... why the hell should she have to pay for other peoples children?

Did you miss the bit where I said she doesn’t have to? I had put it in capital letters.

Hi Julzs,

Not sure you'll read this as seems some right miseries have have made comments that only would come from CF's looking for freebies.. anyway

I think this is a wonderful idea. And completely with you and your position. In fact I think it's more a normal response than not.

It's a special unique experience for your child and will only be something else with who know how many other kids trying to barge forward as we all know they do and will distracting the performance for your child.

On a side note, have you considered calling the performers to ask their thoughts, based on the current situation and confined space I doubt they will want to expose themselves to catching the virus with potentially a crowd of kids who will inevitably get to close and potentially give these adults cause for concern for their health.

If a larger space and social distancing could be guaranteed and no impact to your child's experience then no harm no foul. But it seems that's not the case here and I believe this would be the performers take.

So anyone who asks, including the woman who is IMO beyond CF.. ery decided to hi jack your daughters special Xmas experience can go do one.

I think what you're doing for your child is great and anyone who's trying to blatantly guilt you otherwise by bullying you to their opinion.. well they can do one..

Hope it's a great day, and take lots of video with them and your kids only .. not the urchins that gatecrash
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For all the folk saying OP should invite half the street , has anyone considered the performers may not want this? They might not want a measly 50 for what has now become a bloody public performance.

@inappropriateraspberry

I stand by what I said. I do feel sorry for your children, why begrudge them a few years of fun? Life is crappy enough, what's wrong with encouraging belief in Father Christmas? I understand you do other nice things with your children, but it's so matter of fact, and I hope your children don't ruin it for others.

Feeling sorry for someone's children is a vile thing to say and to say it twice is unspeakable.

Upsidedown & PoorMan’sPaulaRadcliffe

Thank you so much for bringing those notes of sanity!

@inappropriateraspberry

I stand by what I said. I do feel sorry for your children, why begrudge them a few years of fun? Life is crappy enough, what's wrong with encouraging belief in Father Christmas? I understand you do other nice things with your children, but it's so matter of fact, and I hope your children don't ruin it for others.

Inappropriateraspberry, I am seventy years old! I no longer have young children :-). Life was far from 'crappy' for mine forty years ago, we all had a great time. I just could not pretend Santa Claus was real, that's all. It isn't a crime. I didn't care if other people felt differently, it was up to them. Why so vehement? It doesn't affect you.

@flaviaritt

Upsidedown & PoorMan’sPaulaRadcliffe

Thank you so much for bringing those notes of sanity!

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