To not invite my DDs friends.

[Julz1622]

I have booked a socially distanced visit from Santa and Anna and Elsa on Christmas Eve for my daughter (8) and the baby (10 months) I live in a block of flats, and I was telling one of the mum's of one of daughter's friends about it. She said oh let me know what time they are coming and I'll send 'name' across. She has also told a few of the other mums on the block. Now I know some people will think I am being selfish, but I've paid £50 for them to come visit my daughter, I don't want all the kids congregating and ruining it for my daughters.

flaviaritt has decided that all kids need to enjoy Christmas at all costs. She's argued on other threads that it's fair for everything to close down for 25 days because Christmas is so super special and that her kid doesn't need to wear a mask not many under 40s have died and the virus is only dangerous to the old and sick.

IGNORE HER.

@Julz1622

Ok, incase you have trouble reading, I did not say I don't want any other kids to see them, that is outwith my control. I do not want them coming to MY HOUSE or standing outside MY DOOR, one, because I have paid £50 for a special treat for my girls and I want Santa and Anna and Elsa to spend the time I've paid for speaking to them not half the block, and two because I suspect they will think I am taking the piss if they expect to see 2 kids and turn up to loads. Did you ever think that perhaps the neighborhood kids (who aren't expecting anything) might be thrilled to see Santa and Anna and Elsa even if it's just walking past their window? Or if they are standing in their homes watching them from the door? Because I do...

The rest of us get that , OP.

@slashlover

flaviaritt has decided that all kids need to enjoy Christmas at all costs. She's argued on other threads that it's fair for everything to close down for 25 days because Christmas is so super special and that her kid doesn't need to wear a mask not many under 40s have died and the virus is only dangerous to the old and sick.

IGNORE HER.

This

I’m not hounding the OP. I am replying to people who are asking me things.

Flaviaritt you’re just repeating the same points to try and get the last word in now, give it a rest now! There’s plenty of people who don’t think the OP is mean & unkind.

I don’t mind if people ignore me, talk to me, argue with me or not. But I will reply if I feel like it.

Apparently @flaviaritt thinks exceptions should be made because - CHRISTMAS! It's the same principles whatever time of year. The magic of Santa will not be lost because OP doesn't want a hoard of kids at her front door.

@Julz1622

But I'm NOT responsible for the neighbours kids having a nice Christmas though am I? At this point I don't even think you believe what you're saying you're arguing for argument's sake.

No, you're not. They can book the Santa themselves. Don't listen to these head cases who have written a bizarre set of rules for what is and isn't Grinchy - apparently it's the only Grinchy thing in the world but also everyone who doesn't share stuff they pay for is mean...except for flavia who doesn't share her stuff either but is a really generous person 🧐🤪 I mean how can you even begin to take that seriously!

flaviaritt has decided that all kids need to enjoy Christmas at all costs

Except that it's up to everyone else, and definitely not her, to make this happen 🤣🤣🤣

Anyway, I will leave it there. Enjoy your grinching, people.

Oh please yes, actually leave this time.

Grinching 😂 you are so dramatic, OP is letting her kids see Santa not nicking presents from under the tree - though for some reason you think that's the same thing. I just hope you're being trolly or obtuse, no one is like this IRL surely?

There are loads of times when children see other children having experiences that they don't get to have themselves or even join in with. It's just a part of life! If someone's little child sees a Santa and wants to go and see that Santa when they can't, it's the parent's job to soothe their child if that upsets them, just as it's the parent's job to soothe their child when something else has upset them. It's a part of life, and it's a part of life that children have to learn that sometimes they do not get what they want. It will seem terrible to them at the time, but ups and downs, the rough and the smooth - all part of the rich tapestry of life frankly, and people are all the better for experiencing small adversities and disappointments in manageable doses, it helps build their strength to manage and cope with the real traumas every person has to experience at some point!

I wouldn't bear any rancour to a neighbour who arranged for a treat for their children, even if it meant my child was temporarily upset by it. It makes a more balanced, resilient person in the end. It's not like a deliberate meanness to a particular child, which wouldn't be great; it's simply arranging something nice for OP's own children. It's not flaunting it, it's not rubbing other kids' noses in it, it's just having a do that you're not inviting others to. There's nothing wrong with that.

Well said @TheNoodlesIncident

This thread is really quite funny. I honestly didn't expect to wake this morning and find it still going.

Quite honestly, I doubt any kids or parents in the block in which the op lives will think anything much about seeing three people in fancy dress on Christmas eve. They will have seen similar in other places, even this year with the pandemic, and on television; if they are over the age of five, they'll remember previous years when they saw men with beards in red outfits at parties, in stores and garden centres, maybe even at school. This will just be another one.

How long are they going to stay for £50 (between three of them, less than £17 each)? Will they arrive in a car?

I fail to see the 'magic' and it strikes me it's the parents getting all keyed up and stressed about this non event whereas kids could not care less but have to play along to please mum.

@jessstan1 you seem really determined that the OP's DD hate this idea.

[quote GlummyMcGlummerson]@jessstan1 you seem really determined that the OP's DD hate this idea. [/quote]
I hope they enjoy it.

What I think will not affect any of them, they don't know me nor I them. I'm an unknown entity on a chat forum.

It just strikes me as a lot of fuss (24 pages long as well as the energy expended by those directly involved), for something that basically means nothing at all and actually sounds extremely tacky.

I am really surprised that there are not others who feel as I do; perhaps there are and they are scared of admitting it.

I think actually people realise that different people like different things. I'm sure it will mean something to the OP's kids - you still seem intent on the OP wasting her money. Are you jealous that people earn a living this way or something?

How about this - let's just trust the OP knows her DD and what she would enjoy?

And the reason it is 24 pages isn't because of the fuss it's because one particular poster was hell bent on making OP look like Ebeneezer Scrooge. Literally.

flaviaritt makes me laugh as sometimes I stand my ground and argue a point that feels right to me.
flaviaritt only point is if her children saw Santa and Elsa on Christmas Eve they would be upset to not be acknowledged.
In trying to get everyone to agree with her she is tying herself up in knots.
OP I doubt if anyone else will turn up, let your child enjoy her treat and get some nice pictures. if any children do see Santa so what, most children who still believe are so G'd up in Christmas Eve it will just make them believe even more....

@flaviaritt

Why? She has paid for it as a treat for her children not the whole bloody block

Because children believe in Father Christmas and it’s a precious, fragile thing. I can’t see the reasonableness in asking someone to come to your house dressed up as him with all the fanfare (a sleigh? reindeer? Elsa and Anna?) and expecting your neighbours to explain to their children why he is only interested in the children at number 66. It’s mean spirited and I find it shocking that anyone would consider it for a moment.

Does any child honestly believe the santa that sits in a mall or does local resteraunt dinners is the REAL santa?

I thought every child knew they where just 'helpers' because santa is busy.

Also my kids don't sit staring out of windows at neighbors houses all day, we honestly couldnt tell you who visits our neighbors or when... unless they are blasting music to draw attention who would notice unless you happened to be walking past at the exact point?

And then the disappointment is on the other parents for making a big deal out of it.

You fail to see the magic, my 8 year old will not. As I said to someone else, I think we all know our children, and I know my daughter will love this, hence why I paid so much for something that others might view as a waste of money or babyish.

Thank you.

Julz1622 your a brilliant mum.
We had gifts delivered Christmas Eve one year by The Rotary Club Santa, my children are now adults and still giggle about it.
Memory's are what matter.

Thank you. This exactly

I second that the OP is a brilliant mum and your daughter will love every second.