to allow your teenager's boyfriend/girlfriend to sleep over?

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This is not really an AIBU relating to myself, but rather about a conversation I overhead two of my colleagues having last year.

They are both parents of older teenagers.

One of them said that he would never allow his teenagers to have their boyfriend / girlfriend spend the night at his house. He said he found it totally inappropriate.

The other one was adamant that it's better as you know where they are and that they are in a safe environment.

Now in my head I agree with the liberal opinion, it's safer to have them in your house. If they are intimate with each other it's better that they do it at your house rather than in a car or in a park.

But something inside me says, and that might just be my conservative upbringing, that it's inappropriate.

My child is only a few months old and I don't have to worry about that just yet.

I'm just wondering what other mumsnetters with teenagers think of this? How are you handling the situation?

Do you agree with opinion A (don't allow sleepovers - it's inappropriate) or opinion B (allow sleepovers - it's safer)?

I should also point out that your post completely ignores gay relationships. They're a thing. Really.

Point of order, it completely doesn't.

no it doesn't "My dds are 9 and 11, so not relevant yet, but I don't consider it my job to make them comfortable with any future bfs / gfs. "

the last line is about being 16 and already with a boring male. but boys can just as well end up with a boring male as girls. Young males tend to be greedy and lazy (in relationships, and generally) whether they are with other. males, or females. I wouldn't like any of my children to be roped into pandering to one of those too young, whether in a gay or straight relationship.