to think that not having friends isn't that unusual

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AIBU to think that this isn't actually all that unusual in this day and age when people have moved away from their families, have smaller families and work such long hours or have a long commute? At the school gate people (pre covid) seem to stand on their own and not engage with others and children going round to other's houses to play seems to be a rarer thing than it used to be a few years ago? Mine were always in and out of other's houses when they were younger as we lived in a road with a lot of similar aged children but that doesn't seem to happen any more. Obviously that's before this year and covid.

I think personality plays a part. You are either someone that people gravitate to or not. You can’t force friendships. The people who I have seen fail are the ones that try too hard. I think as with most things, the amount of friends you have and who they are etc is a reflection of you.

That's it, it's canine companionship for me in 2021. Much less hassle 😉

Agree with a few others though, personality and luck both a huge part to play in how successful you become at meeting new friends.