To think he's being dramatic?

[DramaInPyjama]

H is sulking because apparently I 'dont care about his kids'

I have had a horrible week of no sleep, not sure why but I can't sleep at the moment. I am so tired.

It got to about 4pm today and I said I had to go and lie down. I asked him not to wake me.

His DC were coming round at around 5:30. He came upstairs at 6, woke me up by turning the light on and started asking me to come downstairs, telling me the kids were here, come say hello, spend time with us and so on...

I was so mad, I was finally asleep and now I was being pestered to get up so when he said 'the kids are here now' I snapped and just replied 'And? I don't care!' and turned the light of to go back to sleep.

I am usually very involved but I just needed this rest and no, I didn't care that the kids had turned up, they are well old enough to be told I'm not feeling great so was asleep (and couldn't give less of a shit if I go and say hello).

Apparently now I don't care about the kids, am rude for not saying hello, don't want to see them etc...

Ohtherewearethen, please don't speak for me

@Flutter12 genuine question but do you honestly believe the OP's step-children will be adversely affected due to one occasion of her not greeting them, due to her being unwell?

@ILoveYou3000 no absolutely not!

@Flutter12 then why do you keep raising children not being greeted as an issue? You've just said yourself this one occasion would have no adverse affect on the stepchildren. But you seem to be basing your argument re: OP being wrong on children not being greeted and the impact it has.

Which one is it?

Well, I hope OP is getting a good afternoon/night's rest today, having been bored to sleep by reading this thread; failing which, that at least it's giving her a good laugh which is probably nearly as good!

@Flutter12 wtf? If you don't think it will harm them for her not to greet them on this occasion, why on earth have you spent all this time saying she must do it?

then why do you keep raising children not being greeted as an issue?

Because as I’ve said the issue is with the timings as well as the various other reasons which is why I don’t think DH was being dramatic or unreasonable.

I have suffered from many bouts of insomnia. I appreciate the need for a nap at 4pm. However, a long one will almost certainly screw up your sleep routine even more.

Yap. Yap. Yap. Yap yap. YAP YAP YAP

@chocolatesaltyballs22 😂😂😂

[quote Ohtherewearethen]@Flutter12 - it's 'you're' not 'your'.
The children were going home to one of their houses. They are not guests in their own house. This is obviously a bit baffling for you.[/quote]
I read the first line of this post then realised it is correcting something that claims to be a fucking teacher.

Jesus christ. No wonder this world is going to shit.

@chocolatesaltyballs22 😆😆😆

I read the first line of this post then realised it is correcting something that claims to be a fucking teacher.

If you carried on reading you would have seen that I’d had less than 4 hours sleep in the previous 3 nights which is why no one else corrected my grammar considering that this thread is about sympathy for lack of sleep.

Also you will see that I’m a teacher as I have not picked anyone else up on their grammar or punctuation - that and the fact I have a life and I’m not a patronising dickhead and recognise people are on their phones using predictive text or may not have English as their first language.

@Flutter12

Is it just me who's own parents wouldn't have both gotten up

My mum would definitely have but my dad couldn’t give a shit if we were there or not 😆

I can't say I blame him. I'm sure he would have been happier if you weren't. I can speak for the majority of posters on this thread when I say I would rather you were somewhere else too.

Maybe somewhere where you can't embarrass yourself.

You were very rude. Your I don’t care that they’ve arrived also sounded like you don’t care about them.
Your user name is very apt!
I don’t normally say this, but I think if this were a man we were talking about, the responses would have been very different. LTB would have been bandied about. He isn’t joining family life. He’s excluding your kids etc blah blah.

Does any of the research say that children will be irreparably damaged by a step parent not greeting them when they arrive, one, single occasion, @Flutter12?

I can't say I blame him. I'm sure he would have been happier if you weren't.

Wow pretty low blow.

The second poster who has used child abuse to try and win a debate on Mumsnet - actually pathetic and embarrassing from apparent grown adults.

@Flutter12

I read the first line of this post then realised it is correcting something that claims to be a fucking teacher.

If you carried on reading you would have seen that I’d had less than 4 hours sleep in the previous 3 nights which is why no one else corrected my grammar considering that this thread is about sympathy for lack of sleep.

Also you will see that I’m a teacher as I have not picked anyone else up on their grammar or punctuation - that and the fact I have a life and I’m not a patronising dickhead and recognise people are on their phones using predictive text or may not have English as their first language.

No, I don't think you're a patronising dickhead. Thick as mince, but not patronising.

Predictive text changes incorrectly spelled words, and doesn't change "you're" to "your". Own your fucking mistake.

How have I used child abuse? I dont know (or believe) that you've been abused.

You were very rude. Your I don’t care that they’ve arrived also sounded like you don’t care about them.
Your user name is very apt!
I don’t normally say this, but I think if this were a man we were talking about, the responses would have been very different. LTB would have been bandied about. He isn’t joining family life. He’s excluding your kids etc blah blah.

Not if he was unwell/exhausted to the point of tears and had asked, for one night, not to be disturbed.

How is going to bed to sleep because you're unwell excluding anyone?

How have I used child abuse? I dont know (or believe) that you've been abused.

WOW!

No, I don't think you're a patronising dickhead. Thick as mince, but not patronising.

I’ll admit I’m thick as mince definitely! But my literacy is pretty good but luckily I’m not an English teacher anyway! I do have a masters degree and I’m a teacher but I’m definitely mot a genius by any means!

@PinkiOcelot

You were very rude. Your I don’t care that they’ve arrived also sounded like you don’t care about them. Your user name is very apt! I don’t normally say this, but I think if this were a man we were talking about, the responses would have been very different. LTB would have been bandied about. He isn’t joining family life. He’s excluding your kids etc blah blah.

No they wouldn't.

Needs comes before wants,regardless of what sex the person in need is.

The thread is about the OP being woken to greet her SDCs

Well, I'm very sorry but it really isn't about that. It's about OP's clearly expressed need (to sleep undisturbed) which was ignored by DP's want for OP to join his DC.

He and he only decided that his want took priority over OP's need.

No one is suggesting that it is ideal in this case, but DP was unreasonable to disturb OP to 'greet the arrival of children who live there'

In other situations, the answer may indeed be different. In the situation under discussion in this thread, however ...

Well, I'm very sorry but it really isn't about that. It's about OP's clearly expressed need (to sleep undisturbed) which was ignored by DP's want for OP to join his DC.

So being woken to greet the SDCs then