DH feels belittled by the way I talk

[Whatisthishit]

..because I have a wider vocabulary than he has.

If we are having a debate or disagreement he feels belittled because he doesn't know the meaning of some of the words I use.

AIBU to think that's his problem and I shouldn't change the way I talk?

I would suggest that if debates lead down this road, perhaps you should avoid or keep them to a minimum, especially as you always win...there's really nothing positive to be gained by engaging in these arguments and debates when you know where it's going to end up.

I would suggest that it's an exhausting and thankless task to have to carefully "manage" the conversation so that you can steer it in the direction where it's not going to set someone off.

You can do that in conversations with your company directors. You shouldn't have to do it in your own home.

@ScreamingBeans it seems much more pointless and exhausting to have repeated arguments that won't reach a resolution if the OP can't communicate her side of the issue to her DH.

It's never a deliberate tactic used to win the argument or make myself appear more intelligent than he is, it's just the way I talk.

I've had friends crack jokes in the past, saying I sound 'posh' which couldn't be further from the truth.

If even your friends rib you for sounding like you have followed a dictionary maybe you need to think about who you are talking to every time you open your mouth. It is called knowing your audience. I don't talk to everyone the same way.

I would use different vocabulary when talking to one of the directors at work or a customer to how I would talk to next door's granddaughter for instance.

@FredtheFerret

I'm sorry - but anyone who fired, We can't all be as intelligent as you at me in a disagreement would be binned.

The fact that he's so thick that this is his only comeback would do it for me. Have you tried saying, Nor can we all be as uneducated as you? in response? Because that's what it's asking for.

This.

@SnowyBerries

Tell him you're anaspeptic, frasmotic, even compunctuous to have caused him such pericombobulation.

I went out of my way to learn antidisestablismentarianism as a ten year old after that episode

I would suggest that it's an exhausting and thankless task to have to carefully "manage" the conversation so that you can steer it in the direction where it's not going to set someone off.

Or you can carrying on getting into arguments pointlessly...life's too short to have this as an ongoing issue.

@SandyY2K

I would suggest that it's an exhausting and thankless task to have to carefully "manage" the conversation so that you can steer it in the direction where it's not going to set someone off.

Or you can carrying on getting into arguments pointlessly...life's too short to have this as an ongoing issue.

Or you can LTB and be done with it.

Life's too short to put up with nobs in your house.

If he doesn't know what you mean, he could just ask.

Instead, he's using the fact that he doesn't know what you mean as a stick to beat you with.

Take the stick away from him. Use words of one syllable in your debates with him. Not as a favour to him; as a favour to yourself.

The bigger picture is to work out why he wants sticks to beat you with.