I hate my height

[Purpledolphin223]

I’m 5’8, nearly 5’9 and I absolutely hate my height

Most of my life many of my friends have been shorter than me, dresses don’t cover my bum, cropped shirts are just a nightmare and have only had one relationship (I’m 20)

I just feel so unfeminine sometimes, most guys are my height and pay me no interest as I’m not shorter than them, I think I have a nice personality and I’m kind and friendly, but it feels not enough :((

I just don’t know how to get past this, I’ve always dreamed of being smaller. Even photos make me so embarrassed I stand out ridiculously tall from the others

Obviously heels are not an option

Sorry the rambling, just needed to get this off my chest, my friends say my height is lovely but I don’t feel happy at all

My teenage DD is 5ft 10 and loves it. I have spent her entire life making sure she has clothes that fit as I have tall friends who feel like you. Lots of them had parents who insisted they wore clothes that were ill fitting and so the problem of feeling awkward was exacerbated. It helps that at 5ft7 I'm the shortest person in our house. Tall people on average get paid more as well! Asos tall is your friend :). Your body is you and it is amazing - occupy the space you fit in and stop apologising. I'm sorry you feel like this and realise a load of randoms on the Internet aren't going to stop your negative feelings instantly.

I’m around your height and have always liked it. Like feeling taller even in heels

I’m over 6ft and have been mocked, shouted at, and heard the same rude comments over and over again for the last 40 odd years. Always by shorter men intimidated by my confidence. It’s worn very very thin. A less confident person would’ve been broken by it. It used to upset me more when I was younger. I hope you get to a place like me OP where you can shake it off.

I find this so weird. I'm very nearly 5'10. I LOVE being this tall, literally love it. I really think this comes down to self esteem. I have a lot of self confidence and love the fact that I stand out in a crowd and people know who I am.

You're above average but hardly statuesque. Put it this way, a modelling agency would probably reject you for being too short! Sounds like a lovely height to me. I think height is maybe the one area where women are judged less harshly than men - short women are cute and doll-like, and tall women are elegant and look better in a wider range of clothes. Make the most of it!

I am 5"8 and a half and I love my height.

Get some taller friends

I'm 5'1" and when I first got together with my (by now very long term) 6'2" DP, there were some genuinely meant snide comments from taller women telling me that I should find someone smaller and leave him for them!

Don't understand this at all op. Ds is not especially tall at 5-10 But had dated lots of girls of your height why would he not if they are pleasant people? You are hardly gigantic and taller men would think you were tiny!

Haha I could have written your post when I was 20 but I was 6ft! Had the hatred, the jealousy of shorter friends, the difficulty buying clothes, the hunched shoulders etc.

Now, 10ish years later I have learned to accept it. My DH is taller than me, I have a great figure and more shops are doing tall ranges now. I wish I was more your height as I do like aspects of being tall but always felt 6ft was a little OTT.

What I do love: positive attention, nice figure, harder to put on weight or see extra weight, standing out from the crowd (sometimes).

What I don’t love: the constant ‘do you play basketball/Whats the weather like up there’ comments and that I can’t really wear certain clothes (one piece swimmers, trousers other than skinny jeans)

The one thing that has probably affected me more than anything is how ‘visible’ I feel. Growing up with so many comments on my height I think has made me believe that I am always being looked at and judged - now I’m quite self conscious and am always overthinking what I do/say. I hate anything that may draw attention to my body (dancing, yoga, drama classes at school etc).

I guess that whether you are tall or not is always a matter of perspective. You are advice average for a woman certainly. I am 6'1 with size 11 feet and stopped growing when I was 13 and am also a 20/22 so definitely larger than life. I married a 6'7" beanpole without considering the gene pool we would create and now have 3 teen-agers 5'10 DD. 6'3DS and DD. 6'3" DD is a10/12 and stunning. She has been told for years that she should be a supermodel. You cannot change it so need to embrace it. Both my girls have size 10 feet and my son is a 13/14 and still growing fairly fast. If I was to tell you that I have been looking for months to find a pair of joggers with 30" waist and 38" leg length that he actually likes you will get some idea of how difficult clothes shopping can really be.

I’m 5’9” and have never felt over tall. I would say majority of men are similar or taller than me. I’ve never even noticed that it’s an issue. Quite a few women wear heels to make them taller so I just don’t wear high heels just small ones.

Think sometimes people focus on things too much and make excuses for things not being right in other parts of their life.
Embrace your height! You’ve just not met the right person yet, 20 is still quite young. I’d only had one serious relationship at 20 but wasn’t connected to my height. I’m married and my husband is 5’ 11. My boys are all taller than me as was my dad and brother. Maybe that helps 😂

Stand tall and be proud.
Don't waste you life thinking you are not good enough because of your height.
You are so lucky!! You just don't realise it yet.

You're actually not that tall anyway.

@ApolloandDaphne

My 23yo DD is 5'9" too. She has learned to just embrace her height and I have to say, clothes look amazing on her. She does have an issue with skirts and dresses being too short so she has decided that midi is a better length for her. She even wears heel sometimes. She isn't an outgoing 'I've got it so I'll flaunt it' type at all. I think she has just learned to love being tall. This about your self esteem rather than your height I think. You can't change your height any more than I can so you will have to find ways to accept it and not dwell on it.

Same with DD - she's just under 6' (her dad is 5'5* and I am 5'3) and had a terrible complex about her height, but seems to have suddenly blossomed into realising that she can wear just about anything and look fabulous - the you are tall, you can't help but look elegant. She's naturally very graceful, too, (unlike me - I trip over "flat things" as my grannie used to say - my mother was even more scathing!) so always looks fantastic.

*fortunately she is the spit of his side of the family . . .

6'2" here. Never had a problem apart from a bit of name calling as a child and the odd 'smart' comment about basketball and head in the clouds etc. I love my height except when trying to buy clothes, but I'm not overly interested in clothes anyway. DH is 6'5" but I've dated shorter men. Really, 5'8" these days is not that tall.

Tall is awesome.

Not wearing heels is good for your feet and they will thank you as you get older and all your friends are bent over and hobbling complaining of bunions. :)

My friend is 6’2. With heels she was 6’5. Her husband is 5’6!

As I'm about 10 inches shorter than Purpledolphin223 I would prefer some of her height.
Taller people look more elegant and stylish, and there seems to be considerable choice in the shops.
Everything I buy the sleeves and length have to be altered, and finding size 2 in shoes is difficult.
Also, I need a ladder when finding something I want at Tesco.

Embrace your height! Tall girls can look very elegant and feminine and in fairness, your height is about average these days. Four or five of my female colleagues are closer to 5 ft 10 than 5 ft 8 and I think they always look great. Forget about cropped tops etc and dress in the clothes that suit your height but would look terrible on shorter people. You’re only 20yrs old-plenty of time to develop new relationships. But you have to have a positive attitude to your body and embrace your height rather than be embarrassed by it. Your discomfort with your height will show, whether you want it or not, so you really need to change your mindset. Have people passed derogatory comments to you as you were growing up? If you are that hung up about your height, I’d seriously consider cognitive behavioural therapy type counselling to change your mindset.

I’m another one 5’9 and I absolutely love it as well!

I really inwardly wanted to be pint-sized and petite but I have pretty much always worn heels as well, because you need to work what you’ve got and what you probably also have is very long legs etc

I used to love wearing heels when I was your age (now 37) as I always loved being able to look most man square in the eye without having to look up to him. (Or even look down 😂) It is a powerful feeling - just own it ♥️

Your height is one of those things you cannot change (without possibly putting yourself in vice/stretching medieval device), so you might as well look accept it and focus only on all the many plus points.

My DD (19) is 6ft 1in, so you'd be quite small next to her, OP! She would definitely prefer to be more your height, but she's got used to being the tallest woman and her legs are quite something to behold, if I say so myself.

I'm only 5ft 6in (she gets her height from DH) and I would say that I have a fair few friends who are about the same height as you, so I'm surprised that you think you stand out.

I'm another one who is 5ft 10 and love being tall & I confess that sometimes I do feel a little smug when I'm standing next to shorter men!

Hmm 5ft 9 isn’t that tall. I was just under 6ft and it was horrendous being a teen in the 80s. I was taller than most men and boys , I was treated like a bloke bird. I ended up moving to a big city and being able to blend in and no one gave a crap. Most men didn’t feel intimidated by my height . Maybe being from a small town was the issue and folks feeling able to humiliate me or try too. I don’t have an issue with my height, it’s great in concerts being able to see other folks heads. I don’t feel scared walking down the street at night and i am not easily intimidated . Embrace your height, accept this is who you are. My best friend is 5ft 2

I am that height and wouldn't consider myself particularly tall, actually it is a height on which clothes look good (long coats, dresses, in particular) while not being as tall not to fit into standard clothing.
It is also as others say quite practical!

Choose the styles that accentuate your shape and longer legs - the trick is to find items in current trends that flatter your shape, and build your style . Don't shy away from heels if you like them.

I’m 177cm, I think that’s about 5’9”, maybe slightly over, and I love my height. Wouldn’t have it any other way.

My Mum was slightly taller than me, and wore her height proudly. I’m passing that onto DD, who I suspect will end up being taller than me (if so, I will once again be the shortie of the family).

She loves being the tallest one of her friends.

Come on - the most beautiful women in the world are also the tallest! You can’t do a thing about it, so own it. I love standing in a lift or a queue and being the tallest one there.