To worry about my children having the same birthday month?

[lentil88]

Sounds nuts but after some opinions as bit delicate to ask friends...

I had a miscarriage two months ago and obviously very keen to conceive again soon. Last month didn't work for us, so here we are. Problem is, if I conceive this month we would be due in August, which is the same month as my first was born.

Realise this is completely hypothetical as don't even know if I will conceive this month but hopefully the info above will make it a bit clearer about why I'm reluctant to skip a month.

Am I selfish to consider it this month? Do you have children with birthdays close together and how is it?

Thanks for reading x

Sorry about your miscarriage

OP, don't worry about the birthdays. But can I ask why you're reluctant to skip a month? Sorry if I'm being dim.

Me and my sister are same day 2 years apart. Was never an issue for us or our parents

My DD and DS are born in the same month and they are 3 weeks apart and no issues.

Both my boys have the same birthday 4 years apart, with my DD being 10 days before theirs. It's a crazy couple of weeks like Christmas all over again but other than it's no problem at all

My DC are 3 days apart. 3 weeks after Christmas. It’s also our wedding anniversary inbetween their birthdays. And mine and DH birthdays 4/6 weeks after. Basically we have everything (Christmas/ birthdays / anniversary) within 10 weeks ..!!

Consecutive days here for my 2, not planned, but works beautifully. They share friends anyway so love their joint birthday party.

I meant different years, they're not twins born on different days.

My DC are two weeks apart (and three years) this month. They actually love it.

Granted they are only 8 and 5 this month so it may change in the future but because they get birthday cake twice in two weeks they think its brilliant. I honestly wouldn't stress about it at all.

Plus August is no problem , mine was very bad planning (although ds2 was due a lot later and came very early which was a tad hairy at the time ) on the grounds I get two birthdays the month before Christmas. Not the ideal situation , but nothing to do with them in the same month , just which month it was

Me and my brother are 2 years and 4 days apart and it was always fine. As kids we often shared a birthday party which we both enjoyed.

I'm actually quite surprised people organise 2 birthday parties on separate weekends for birthdays a day or so apart when the DC are small. I really couldn't be arsed and mine have never complained. They might not even get separate cakes every year. Bad mother?

I share my birthday with my sister (we are not twins etc.) no problems here

My children were both due at the end of August. My daughter was 8 days late and my son a week early so we ended up with them having birthdays in different months...just! There’s 11 days between their birthdays. Other than it being an expensive time for us, it doesn’t cause any issues

Me and ds and dd all have birthdays in same month! Think dh feels a bit left out 😂 I actually really like it- it’s also mid year so presents are nicely spaced for summer and winter with birthdays and Christmas, no jealousy because they both think of ideas at same time and enjoy each other’s celebrations! I was relieved that ds wasn’t on same date as my birthday though! I like having my own day... when really little we just had one big party for them both but now they have their own friends they have their own party... this year obviously not so much but still I wouldn’t over think it! (Dd- was actually due 2 months later but came prematurely so not much could do about that!)

It's never been an issue in my family.

Mine are 11 days apart, with DH a few days later. It's actually really handy as they can have a joint big family party in the middle, with individual parties either side.

My two could technically have the same birthday month just one is born toward the end of one month and the other child in the beginning of the next one.

The biannual super fertile sounds legit. I know lots of people who have small gaps between their children's birthdays.

We did do a joint family party but then celebrated their actual birthdays individually. Sometimes they get shared toys but we would have some on the first birthday and some on the second.

The only family I know where it's an issue is where DC2 was born on DC1's first birthday. DC1 has never forgiven DC2, and they now have a terrible relationship as tweens. I think a lot of it has to do with parenting and how it was handled, though; everything has always been joint, so DC1 feels like they've never had anything to call their own on their birthday.

My two children have the actual same birthday (years apart !) it’s fine ! Apart from the ‘funny’ joke about me and DH only having sex once a year on the same day...

Oh and just seen PP - when the older DC was older and had their own friends and interests we’ve always done separate parties - one joint family party (with two cakes and separate presents) but then always two separate friends parties

My nephews have the same birthday, four years apart. It’s a bit expensive for their parents, but there are no issues with the boys.

Me and my brother have 4 days between our birthdays, with Christmas inbetween.

Never was a problem with us, might have caused a lot of financial stress for my parents though!

I wouldn't want an August baby purely because they'd be the youngest in the class.

My daughter is 15 next April, 2 days after that her baby brother turns 1, 2 days after that his dad turns 30......they love it, joint party!! To me it's just expensive 🤣🤣🤣

My DCs have their birthdays within 6 weeks of each other, it's an expensive time of year but that's the only downside and they're teenagers now

I have two with birthdays 3 days apart at the end of January, relatives often say they have to wait until after pay day for their gift.