To worry about my children having the same birthday month?

[lentil88]

Sounds nuts but after some opinions as bit delicate to ask friends...

I had a miscarriage two months ago and obviously very keen to conceive again soon. Last month didn't work for us, so here we are. Problem is, if I conceive this month we would be due in August, which is the same month as my first was born.

Realise this is completely hypothetical as don't even know if I will conceive this month but hopefully the info above will make it a bit clearer about why I'm reluctant to skip a month.

Am I selfish to consider it this month? Do you have children with birthdays close together and how is it?

Thanks for reading x

My children have 3 days difference. Both were born incredibly premature. We couldn’t of predicted it

They love it! It makes life sooooo much easier

It's absolutely fine. Mine are 9 days apart in the same month. Frankly, children's birthday parties are hell ish and it fills me with dread to do them. But it means it one week, I can do both of them, put the house back together after, and be done for another year. The advantage would be that they would be in August, which is much better than trying to come up with ideas for two rainy mid-winter birthdays.

I have 2 four weeks apart so can’t really comment, but wanted to say they shared a due date! (Eldest was late, youngest 3 weeks early)

I don't think you need to worry.
My parents and two siblings have their birthdays in the same month in fact it was me that felt different having a birthday 6 months later.
My dt obviously share a birthday and we have managed to make both feel special by having separate birthday parties then a birthday tea on the actual date. Separate cakes too.
Me and dc1 share a birthday month and it's not a problem either.

I've got 4 with 8 weeks between - twins at the beginning then next 2's birthday are 11 days apart. It just means you're more organised about it.

The three of us in my family are all within two weeks of each other in one month. Never caused any issues for us growing up.

Two of my children have birthdays in the same month, again, never was a problems

My friend's two children have birthdays close together - one is the week before Christmas and one is the week after it. Even having Christmas in the middle doesn't make a difference. Your birthday is your birthday and that's it.

I have a friend whose children have birthdays on consecutive days !
My nephews have ten days between them ...and one of those is Xmas Day !!!
It's fine xxx

My 2 DCs are 12 days apart, one of them shares a birthday with my dad. What makes you think it would be an issue?

Very common in families especially when people had larger families for relatives even siblings to have their birthdays in the same months.

My family - both sides - most of the birthdays are across the same 3 neighbouring months and some people are only a few days apart. There's 2.5 weeks between mine and brothers birthdays in same month, sister is the month after him, various cousins and aunts and uncles are the same too.

Also while supposedly humans should roughly be spreading our births across the year as we don't have a "mating season" as such, we actually do have certain months when more people are born, and this actually varies slightly through the time zones meaning we do actually tend to produce more babies in whatever are the "late summer" months wherever we're living at the time of conception.

So August would fit in with that - Brother and I are July, sister is August.

It's our relatives in NZ and aus that tend to break our "streak" and oddly enough my own dd falls in with their "grouping" as she's Feb.

There are believed to be reasons for this related to optimum climate for newborns etc it's fascinating.

FWIW brother and I never had an issue with having birthdays in same month. What was funny was as his birthday is earlier in the month he'd crack on he was only a year younger when he's actually more like 2 for the weeks until my birthday, something kids do is like to appear older isn't it? Now as an adult I tease him it means he's older than he likes to think

Mine and DB's birthdays 9 days apart. Was never an issue.

It shouldn't be an issue at all as long as you give them separate birthday gifts and parties (if you're going to do parties)

I wouldn’t worry about it at all! My husband’s birthday is the beginning of June, mine is the end, one of my son’s birthday is two days after mine and my other son’s birthday is ten days after that. It’s great actually! We have birthday cake most weeks! And you also get them all over together so it’s a bit like Christmas. Actually, when the boys were young it meant that one of them wasn’t waiting ages for his birthday and party which is another advantage. Go for it!

Dad, me, mum, niece and sister all within 30 days.never been an issue. Nephew had to go spoilt it by being 5 months out - I keep forgetting his!

My brother (not my twin) and I have the same birthday, and it's never really been a problem! We always insisted on two cakes though!

also makes it easy to remember lol!

Me and my sister are about 2 weeks apart. Complete non issue

Seconding and sympathising with all those with birthdays at expensive times! Dd being Feb SEEMS to be not too close to Xmas but it's only 6 weeks after roughly and as I've been on a tight budget most of her life I've had to be organised!

I'm sure the other posters with similar issues are the same. I learned after the first few and so learning the hard way really that I really needed to properly save and be organised. So I budget that I'm saving from jun-Dec for Xmas and her birthday but also things like (you'll be surprised here) I noticed if I got her birthday card, banners, gift wrap etc BEFORE Halloween I had a much wider range of choices. Halloween up to around Valentine's Day is ridiculously overwhelmed with Xmas stuff even after Xmas the shops are selling off the Xmas stuff and so they don't set aside space for "normal" celebration stuff.

So if like me you like to get eg cards that are quite specific (for "daughter" with age on etc) it can be quite tricky at that point in the year.

That might be useful info for those who've JUST had near to Xmas babies?

My brother and I have our birthdays in the same month, about 10 days apart. Never been an issue.
As children we used to have individual separate parties with our friends.
From late teenagers on we always celebrated it together as a family tradition and we still love it now in our 40s. My son was also born half way between mine and my brother's birthday and we have one more reason now to celebrate as a family (but of course he has his own little children party as well).

My brother and me have birthdays two days apart. It's fine as long as you/everyone makes the same fuss over each child. As adults we're less into big yearly birthday parties but when we do have them we call each other first to discuss which weekend we want so we don't clash. We've never had a problem with it because people very consciously treat our birthdays as just as special and not the second one as an afterthought. Some years we might choose to hold a small birthday together with our families (grandads birthday is ten days later as well) to exchange gifts in a restaurant or so.

My SIL both share the same day!(DH siblings) Never been an issue as far as I know!

With 4 of my kids in the same month- one after the other 🤦🏻‍♀️ I'd say I wouldn't plan it like that in hindsight, but it's fine! One very long celebration & that's almost it for the year 😂

I'm a twin and my two DD are 10 days apart. Everyone who knows me knows this event but they wanted to do the elcs 3 days after dd1 but because I'd never gone into active labor with the first, promised I would have someone who could drive with me at all times (breech), because I was a twin and I really wanted a gap as far as possible they let me go another week to get my 10 days.

In didn't plan either of their pregnancies due to being told I was infertile, so I was just grateful to be pregnant until the date dawned on me. So I would say if this is an issue to you and you don't have any known fertility issues then skip the month.

Two of mine are twelve days apart and they love it! #3 birthday is six months later and I always feel bad for them!

I don’t think children having the same birthday month is an issue, but if you could manage to conceive so that your child is a September/October birthday it means they will have the advantage of being among the oldest in their year group at school.

Sits back with and waits for the “my July birthday child got a double first at Oxford and they were only 17” posts.