To worry about my children having the same birthday month?

[lentil88]

Sounds nuts but after some opinions as bit delicate to ask friends...

I had a miscarriage two months ago and obviously very keen to conceive again soon. Last month didn't work for us, so here we are. Problem is, if I conceive this month we would be due in August, which is the same month as my first was born.

Realise this is completely hypothetical as don't even know if I will conceive this month but hopefully the info above will make it a bit clearer about why I'm reluctant to skip a month.

Am I selfish to consider it this month? Do you have children with birthdays close together and how is it?

Thanks for reading x

My 2 nephews, niece and DD all have December birthdays! Granted, 2 of them are twins, but even they have different dates:
14, 15, 17, 22.

DD will turn 1 this year, but so far the kids have only shared 1 party - the twins first.
They're all hyper anyway come December, so it's one manic month of chaos, but we just embrace it and get on with it.

We tried for DD for over a year and I used to joke about avoiding conceiving for a December birthday - so, of course that's when she came!

One of my friends first and second child share the same birthday - born 2 years apart. It is also my friends mums birthday however she passed away when friend was 18. It is what it is. Doesn’t really matter - just that they have 2 birthdays in the same month

I don't think it's ideal, just skip a month.

I skipped a few as I didn't want an August/September/December born baby. But, I got pregnant very easily. It depends if you have the option

A friend of mine has 2 DC born on exactly the same day 3 years apart!

Mine are three weeks apart. Its never been an issue bar making for a slightly hectic month! I really wouldn't worry. Part of having a sibling IS just accepting that you're not undisputed centre if the stage. Its not a bad thing

Me & my sister are 2 days apart & my whole family share a birthday in the same month.

completely unintentionally my two children are 6 days apart. Only thing I'd change is that they weren't born in January!

My DS was born exactly 2 years to the day my DD was.

She was stillborn.

I go to the the cemetery first thing then the rest of the day it is about DS.

You are making a mountain out of a molehill.

I also meant to say that they were both emergency C-sections.

They come when they are ready.

My children have their birthdays in the same month and it doesn't cause any issues at all.

I have 4 children and all 4 birthdays are between the dates 20th July - 22nd August (2 in July, 2 in August) and it has never been an issue at all. The love the fact we have “birthday season” in our house. All birthdays are in summer so we could always buy outside toys for birthdays, parties could be in the garden, as they got older the weather was nice enough to camp outside with friends. I love that their birthdays are close together and it means I have a decent amount of time to save between birthdays and Christmas too.

Also, my sister’s birthday is 2 days after mine, we love doing joint birthday celebrations now and do something together every year.

Both mine are August.. 3 years apart.. someone pointed out to me they will turn 18 & 21 in the same year eeek.

Two of my siblings are two weeks apart. I don’t remember it ever being an issue.

DH and BIL are 3 days apart and share their birthdays with an auntie each. Our dc are 9 days apart. The only problem is you have to approach the birthday presents like Xmas, it has to be scrupulously fair otherwise they will remember the other one got more/less!

Thanks so much for such lovely positive messages! You've completely put my mind at ease - I feel ridiculous for asking 🙈
Some lovely stories and happy families by the sounds of it. Thanks for sharing! Xx

You get to do joint birthday parties!

My eldest two are both same birth month, ten days apart. It's not a problem at all other than all the expense for birthdays comes at once!

My friends 3 DC are all born in January 2 years apart, 11th, 13th and 26th. So straight after Christmas they all have birthdays, very expensive time of year.

SO many people seem to have children with really close birthdays!

Anecdata I know but this goes for my children, DH and sibling, me and sibling, and the majority of my cousins.

It’s like everyone has their own lambing season 😂

2 of my children are March babies.

My 2.5 year old was born on my 35th birthday and my eldest ( 15) has her bday a week later.

I love it, I always think any special bdays could be joint or bday holidays etc.

In 3 years we doing big family holiday as will be my 40th and daughters 18th. Scary lol

Very few families I can think of who's birthdays are evenly spread out through the year

Having a tight 'birthday season' (or lambing season as @yoniandguy puts it) seems to be the norm in majority of families

My kids had the same due date 2 years apart. My youngest was born at 37 weeks so birthdays not quite within days of each other but within 3 weeks. I actually like it, means they both get their days to have a fuss be made of them but don't have to wait too long in between.

Also me and hubby have a birthday within a day of each other thats 4 weeks after my oldest birthday. Only thing I hate is that its close to Christmas lol. Youngest end of September, Eldest start of October and me and hubby start of November.

My two children share the same birthday, 5 years apart in age.
It’s really not a problem, I quite like it actually.

Twins.
Say no more.

I don't think it's a problem but since you don't mention any fertility/age issues that mean each month is vital, just skip it this month.