To worry about my children having the same birthday month?

[lentil88]

Sounds nuts but after some opinions as bit delicate to ask friends...

I had a miscarriage two months ago and obviously very keen to conceive again soon. Last month didn't work for us, so here we are. Problem is, if I conceive this month we would be due in August, which is the same month as my first was born.

Realise this is completely hypothetical as don't even know if I will conceive this month but hopefully the info above will make it a bit clearer about why I'm reluctant to skip a month.

Am I selfish to consider it this month? Do you have children with birthdays close together and how is it?

Thanks for reading x

Non issue I think. Speaking as a mother of twins! My good friends ds2 was about to be booked in for Elcs and the doctors suggested her ds1s first birthday but she requested a few days before so they are 3 days apart... Not a problem she says.

My sibling and i ha e birthdays 6 days apart. Its never been an issue.

Me and my two brothers birthdays are all on the same day - all different ages - I think it was just quite an expensive month, although when we were children we’d share birthday parties.

I was due my daughter on my nieces birthday they are now 1 day apart and my second is 6 days after my nephews birthday witch is funny cause my niece and nephew are brother and sister and my 2 share there same birthday months days apart! X

DSis and I have birthdays 2 days apart. Whatever you do do NOT do joint parties (not at all resentful, oh no)

My brother and I are 2 weeks apart but different months. Should have been more but I was premature. I have twins in August and that’s not an issue other than they always want different cakes and I like making them.

It’s a birthDAY nor birth month. It’s fine to have children in the same month. Sorry for your loss OP.

My sibling and I are a couple of weeks apart and has never been the slightest issue.

My 2 have 3 days between their birthdays.

The only plan we had was "let's try in the new year" and both occasions we ended up conceiving first try.

Do the kids mind that their birthdays are so close. Not at all. They love getting a weeks worth of fun and parties between them.

Both my brothers in same month. Self and DD3 are the same month 4 days apart. Never crossed my mind .

Just think there are far more things to worry about... and certainly not a reason to put of ttc if it's proving tricky.

It’s definitely for me rather than them but personally I like the distinctiveness of different birth months, birthstones and birth flowers, etc. I love the significance of different months and seasons, though.

DD was due on DS birthday, she came 2 days early, with the best will in the world sometimes you can’t plan, I would just get on with it. DS was 6 years in the making and was to be our only, DD was the lovely surprise.

My brother's is the 5th. Mine is the 20th.
My son's is the 7th. His dad's the 22nd.
My sister's the 22nd. Her son's the 13th.

(Each pair the same month, but three different months)

Never given it a second thought. Crack on.

I would avoid august because of school years, birthdays being close together i wouldn't have a problem with though

I have twins so obviously they share a birthday 🥳 it’s expensive especially as it’s a few days before Christmas! I won’t lie, it’s a crazy time of year for us but it’s so wonderful too of course.

But! On top of that our youngest was born on DH’s birthday she was due the day after but I couldn’t hold her in though I tried! It makes it feel so so special and I always say it’s like she chose to be born on that day. They are so close it’s wonderful.

I never planned any of their births like that because I had no idea how long it would take. The twins came early and were meant to be born after Christmas and we conceived quickly with our youngest. I don’t think you ever know what day they will be born anyway, my eldest was due in March and came in January, 12 weeks early! Children are so very hard to plan, they can be inconvenient sometimes

My second was born at 35 weeks, so a month earlier then should have been.

You really can’t plan these things that meticulously.

You have no idea how long it will take either. I wouldn’t give it a second thought.

My aunt and uncle have three with the same birthday. Twins and a younger one. They aren’t strapped for cash so it’s not a problem and I think they all enjoy having the same birthday.

Myself and two siblings all have birthdays in the same month. There are also a couple of nieces squeezed in the same month too. never caused anyone of a problem, in our house birthday cakes were a real treat...we loved getting 3 in the same month!

@viques

I don’t think children having the same birthday month is an issue, but if you could manage to conceive so that your child is a September/October birthday it means they will have the advantage of being among the oldest in their year group at school.

Sits back with and waits for the “my July birthday child got a double first at Oxford and they were only 17” posts.

I was about to post the same thing!

@lucifersam

That's such a lovely story! I love reading such nice things on mn. It's so rare!

I have two kids born within a week of Christmas, one has a girlfriend born on Christmas day!
When I was small my brother tormented me because he was born in a month with 31 days, my month had thirty. All my kids have 31 days in their birth months, dh is highly amused. He has no idea when his siblings' birthdays are.

*viques
I don’t think children having the same birthday month is an issue, but if you could manage to conceive so that your child is a September/October birthday it means they will have the advantage of being among the oldest in their year group at school.

Sits back with and waits for the “my July birthday child got a double first at Oxford and they were only 17” posts.*

You're assuming you know where the op lives

#2 son was born on 9/11, the girl was born on 9/10. It's never been an issue. I know a woman whose kids were born on the same day, 3 years apart. Also not an issue.

Two of mine have birthdays 8 years and 8 days apart. It makes that part of the relevant month a little stressful, but it's fine. Of course them being such different ages makes things easier, although it's still two parties to organise (and sometimes there are issues with dates), two cakes to bake, etc.

@viques

I don’t think children having the same birthday month is an issue, but if you could manage to conceive so that your child is a September/October birthday it means they will have the advantage of being among the oldest in their year group at school.

Sits back with and waits for the “my July birthday child got a double first at Oxford and they were only 17” posts.

I have to agree with you. My children are both summer born. Both were also really premature. So should have both been a school year later. Both find it hard to compete with their peers. It takes a lot of work from home to kee up. It's hard