To worry about my children having the same birthday month?

[lentil88]

Sounds nuts but after some opinions as bit delicate to ask friends...

I had a miscarriage two months ago and obviously very keen to conceive again soon. Last month didn't work for us, so here we are. Problem is, if I conceive this month we would be due in August, which is the same month as my first was born.

Realise this is completely hypothetical as don't even know if I will conceive this month but hopefully the info above will make it a bit clearer about why I'm reluctant to skip a month.

Am I selfish to consider it this month? Do you have children with birthdays close together and how is it?

Thanks for reading x

Three of mine were born within 9 days of the same month. I always feel sorry for the one who was born on the latest date, as by the time his birthday comes I’m all birthdayed out.

I think you should worry about them being the youngest in their year at school! Hold off for a month!

Mine are same month. No problem. Fantastic actually!

Obviously we spent more time in bed as days got shorter in Autumn.Three of our children have summer birthdays close together, within a three week period.

It was never any problem at all.

My little sister and I have exactly the same birthday! It didn't bother me at all when she was born (my Dad loves to tell the story of how when he called up to say she was here I said she was "the best birthday present ever") and it might have bothered me for like a couple of my brattier years when I was little but honestly, I've mostly loved it and really like to look forward to celebrating our birthdays together.

DC are 15 days apart, for the same reason as you. It's a long time really, birthdays are only a day. We had more issues with best friends parties being on the same day as siblings!

My sister's have birthdays on the same day but are two years apart - it doesn't bother them at all.

I've got twins. Never been an issue!

My kids birthdays are within a week of each other and it’s great. Loads of fun when they were little and most of their friends were sibling sets so we just did joint parties, they loved it.

My 2 DCs were born on the same day, 3 years apart. We always had joint (small) parties in primary. Not a problem.

It is what it is. I think there are ideal times to have a birthday, and it'd be great if family birthdays were all nicely spaced out - but ultimately, when you're TTC that's the important thing. You don't want to miss the month it MIGHT have worked, just because you're concerned about when the baby's birthday would be.

It would be fine even if baby was born on the exact same day as your other child! :)

My gynocologist told me that as well as a monthly cycle we have a biannual fertile cycle, that is you have a super fertile cycle six monthly. My siblings and I are born in April or October and our children are too so we have probably inherited our super fertile cycle times from mum.
My niece was born on my birthday and DS was due on my sisters birthday.
So if conception this month would result in next child being born in the same month as your other child I’d go for it as this could be your super fertile month.

As long as its not December i dont see the issue.
We joke in my family that only my neice has a whole month to herself, i don't think anyone else gets a whole week to themselves.

My 2 ds's birthdays are in the same month just 4 days apart.

The month is fairly busy & in previous years they've had birthday parties on consecutive weekends which can be tiring but they love it.

They've never had a joint party (their decision) & we decorate with the appropriate age/theme for each of them.

So the first one gets all the decorations which are mostly displayed around the fireplace & then in the evening before the next birthday all their decorations & cards are moved to the bookcase where they stay for another 4 days then put away & the second birthday decorations & cards are moved over.

It works well for us & everyone gets to be 'special' for those few days etc.

I wouldn't plan trying to conceive though, just let nature decide & make the best of whatever you get.

My DC are two weeks apart. From their end, it's not a problem at all. From my end, it does feel like there's quite an intense period of birthday present buying/wrapping/party organising/cake making!

I'd be thinking of school year, do you want them in closer years, extra year at home with the baby etc.

Apart from having to plan your finances for a potentially expensive month, I think it's absolutely fine! (Mine are 5 weeks apart, but different months)

Yeah my kids are days apart and they don’t care. If anything they work each other up into an excited mess about it looking forward to them together.

3 of my DCs birthdays fall within a week. It's no big deal. Just an expensive month.

I can’t see any problem with birthdays close together. I would though avoid August birthday if possible as the child will be among the youngest in the year. Wait until they are into September and they can have the head start of being the eldest Instead.

The only reason to avoid August is to avoid them being the youngest in the school year, which has quite a knock on effect

I don’t see why it matter. 2 of my kids are 10 days apart but different months. Niece and nephew are both jan. sorry to hear of your miscarriage hope you conceive soon 💐💐

My friend has two with the same birthday, just several years apart. As others say, expensive month (another child is the week before) but the birthdays are still only once a year.

My family like to double up on birthdays, not siblings. I share a birthday with a niece, my dd shares a birthday with my DM. Theres another Bab due on that date next year... Two if you count the fact I bith dhs brothers and his cousin due on that date.

Why would it be a big issue? People have birthdays, not whole birthday months! You'd just have to avoid always doing joint parties

My sister and I are 15 days apart (April). DH’s younger sister and brother are 24 days apart (October). DH and his older sister are 3 days apart (December). It’s never been an issue in terms of sibling rivalry. Both sets of parents may have regretted it when it came to paying for presents and parties, especially in December for PIL.

3 of my 4 have birthdays in Feb. The child who doesn't has to wait 3 weeks until his birthday in March

Apart from the march child moaning about having to wait an extra month there's never been a problem