Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

I hate fireworks with a passion.
Give your neighbour a time frame to warn her and stick to that time.
Let her know in future you won’t be buying any as don’t want to upset anyone in the neighbourhood.

My lab-cross (many years ago) used to go nuts when fireworks were let off, barking, running around, shaking ... But only if we were with him. If we went outside to watch and left him asleep on the sofa, he was happy as anything* - slept, occasionally raised his head, slept again. It was as though his panic was in trying to protect us from the bangs, rather than being disturbed in himself.

*Yes, we do know this for sure, we peered back through the windows at him

It's bonfire night.
There are no public displays this year.
It is entirely to be expected that people will have fireworks.

Growing up, we had to tranquilise the dog on 5th November. C'est la vie. It's the people spreading it out for weeks that's the issue (not Diwalli or nearest weekend either).

She needs to manage her dog's needs, not expect everyone else to do it for her.

Then as a good dog owner it is on her to train her dog and desensitize it to the sound

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Agree rhey are deemed very socially unacceptable now by many people . Most Understand the risk but also the impact on many animals and just aren’t willing to do that to them

The sooner they ban them the better.

Yanbu she can take the dog for a drive to the middle of nowhere. It’s bonfire night!

I've had to buy Xanax from the vet for my dogs who react badly to fireworks. The kind that sound like fucking Beirut kicking off in a suburban back garden at any rate. The kind that are pretty quiet and just whizz and pop aren't too bad and can be dealt with my having TV and radio on loud, all curtains closed and lights on.

Can't see the fun in having the sort of fireworks that make the bloody windows rattle - they make me anxious let alone pets.

I wouldn't do it knowing I was causing distress to an animal. I'm sorry your children may be disappointed and your DH has spent money but I would feel dreadful going ahead with this personally.

Fireworks really should only be for public displays imo.

They've been going off every night for the past week here, my dog has been shivering with fear and it's heartbreaking.

IMO they should only be allowed on bonfire night and that's it. Or better yet, only sold to professionals. It's just not worth it.

I wouldn’t - poor dogs. Terrifying for them for a few minutes of bright flashes.

@picklemewalnuts oh dear that's not great is it. It is one of the reasons dogs should be restrained in cars though.

You won't be the only one having fireworks on bonfire night so she's being a little unrealistic to expect you cancelling your fireworks to make a big difference to her dog's evening.

Yanbu, she can take the dog out in the car for half an hour surely?

This is quite unfair on your neighbour and you should have asked well in advance.

Give the kids sparklers or something that is not going to annoy and upset your neighbours.

She needs to manage her dog's needs, not expect everyone else to do it for her.

I guess when people like this exist, who think “drug your dog so I can have my ten mins of fun” then there will always be a demand for these things

For me, I wouldn’t purposefully do this if it meant dogs had to be sedated to avoid the distress it will cause them, I guess we are all different,

Wow, some shitty people out there. It's not just pets but wildlife that suffers too.

With all the publicity about the harm fireworks cause to pets, livestock and wildlife every year I truly can't understand why people don't at least buy quiet fireworks. Do we have to willfully cause distruction and fear through our pleasure? Anyone else seen that FB post about how it affects people with some forms of PTSD?

Classic FM are doing this - might help? radiotoday.co.uk/2020/10/classic-fms-to-air-programmes-for-pets-and-owners-during-fireworks/

Its not just dogs that suffer because of fireworks. Why didn't you just buy some quiet ones?

I’ve seen how badly animals can be affected by fireworks. Personally I wouldn’t let them off after your neighbours request, but it’s entirely up to you.

i think the clue was in the op

HUBBY has bought them....op kids would likely not want them if animals will be scared.....op herself is unsure and is wavering.....HUBBY wants them it seems

People who set off fireworks in their gardens are a total PITA.

I agree with other powers that these back-garden firework displays are antisocial. And if it's a new estate I imagine you are all crammed in cheek by jowl. There's be no escape from it.

You should still do them.
You won't be the only one doing fireworks tonight so it's a bit unreasonable to ask someone to not do them IMO.
I wouldn't have asked to be honest as now it's a bit awkward.
I imagine more than a few houses on your estate will be doing them.
They're none stop outside now where I live I assume because people aren't mixing there will be a lot more home fireworks this year.