Neighbour asked us not to do fireworks?

[lockdownqueen]

I'm in a group chat with girls on our new build estate I've sent out a pre warning as hubby has gone and bought some. Everyone was fine and said they will be in there gardens to watch then one of the girls asked us not too as her dog has severe panic attacks.

don't know what to do? Kids have been looking forward to them.

aibu to go ahead and do them?

Small ones designed for gardens at an early time and for a short amount of time is fine.

But having DS currently squashed under the sofa with ear defenders on I very much get people not liking them especially when they know they cause distress.

leaannb

I have PTSD.

Ex forces.

Just because you think it shouldn’t impact you, doesn’t mean it doesn’t impact others.

If it was for one night, it could possibly be avoided. We all know it isn’t just for one night.

@ZoeTurtle

It's more important to teach your children empathy (and have some yourself) than to set off fireworks.

Can't wait for private firework sales to banned.

Bore off! 😴

Funnily enough, I mentioned doing a street fireworks from our own gardens this year and one neighbour begged us not to as her dog really suffers. So we didn't. I wouldn't want to unnecessarily upset her dog. He's a lovely old thing.
So OP, please be kind and hold off.

Where will the remains of your fireworks be landing...?

I hate fireworks, the noise scares me and I can understand what is going on. feel sorry for animals/young children who cant understand so I have sympathy for your neighbour.

however, i say reluctantly, as long as they remain legal and you are able to buy them then you can do as you wish.

It's 5th November and perfectly acceptable to let fireworks off.

Yes, they go on for weeks but the OP is only letting some off on actual bonfire night when organised displays aren't available.

I couldn’t do it knowing there was a dog around the corner having a panic attack and think my children would understand too.

My cat absolutely loves fireworks. Weirdo😆

Go for it.

It depends how near a neighbour the dog owner is. If you are a fair distance away it won't be too bad but the dog will hear fireworks from various places - we're quiet here but I can hear some now. My cats used to cower indoors but I no longer have any pets and they don't bother me. There's not much you can do other than be warm and cosy indoors with your animals, have telly on, etc. There will be fireworks even if the op doesn't use hers.

For future reference my kids enjoyed the silent fireworks we let off last night just as much as noisy ones.

Those suggesting the lady takes the dog out - the noise would be much louder and scarier outside. Mine isn't bothered by fireworks, but we were walking him two years ago when some idiot set them off at 4pm and he as so scared he peed himself, tucked his tail under his legs and screamed. It was AWFUL. It took a good two hours for him to stop shaking and he wouldn't go back outside that night.

OP - YANBU. It's bonfire night. If it wasn't you setting them off, it would be someone else. I know it's awful or animals and small children or those with PTSD, but the 5th of November is not a surprise. It happens every year and pet owners should be prepared enough to get systems in place to protect their animals.

Fireworks are annoying yes but no they cannot tell you not to. I would still do it. Tell to crank the tv up loud and distract the dog. She should be grateful you’ve warned the neighbours first.

@picklemewalnuts

Thing is being out in the car with fireworks is Terrifying too.

My dog leapt from the boot of the car across the seats and on to my lap while I was driving.

Many of the fireworks sold in supermarkets are not suitable for the majority of houses. I bought a few, read the small print at home and discovered that you needed to be 25m away from any structure. I only knew one person with a suitable garden, bordered by fields. Ridiculous to sell them in city supermarkets.

I'm sorry your dog was scared, but having your dog loose in your car while you're driving is a) hugely irresponsible, b) incredibly dangerous and c) completely illegal.

He could have killed you. Please, please restrain him in the future - it's so dangerous to have a dog loose in the car like that. If you crash and the dog is thrown forward, it could easily break your neck. It will also invalidate your insurance if they find your dog wasn't restrained at the time of the accident.

I know I sound preachy but far too many people leave their dogs loose in the car and seem to have no real idea of how dangerous it is.

I don't know why anyone thinks letting off fireworks in residential areas is a good idea. Fireworks, except those done by licenced professionals who know what they're doing, should be banned, as they are in many sensible countries (NZ, Ireland)

Sorry, but why would you do this to your neighbours.

Is there an open play area anywhere ,that could be an alternate venue. I feel for the pets tbh. My cat can just about cope if I turn the TV up & turn her armchair into a dark hidey hole with a huge throw & then drag it so she's right by me & can see me: my calm reassures her,but she is still scared .

m.facebook.com/BBCScotland/videos/dogs-and-fireworks/1565592720296673/

Watch this video of a dog stressed by fireworks

I can't do anything else

You could, but you don't want to. At least own that.

I totally get people complaining about fireworks when they stretch out for days/weeks. But there's no justification for objecting to fireworks on Bonfire Night itself.

I think you were being kind to give a warning and as long as you’ve told her the time that’s all you can do.

Our dog is quite scared but we just make sure we are in with her.

Our neighbour has warned us they have some big ones for later and I wouldn’t have dreamed of asking them not to as their kids will be excited. Our kids will watch from the window!

If we always stopped doing things that people didn’t like we’d never do anything. We just have to learn to be courteous.

I don’t like fireworks on other days through the year though or too late.

I hate fireworks. This time of year is an absolute nightmare for people with pets, some older people, some people with PTSD or a nervous disposition. Also for wildlife and the emergency services.

I wish they were banned for private use, they’re not allowed at all in France and it’s great.

This dog had a heart attack and died due to fireworks. He was from the same rescue centre as my 3. The staff were utterly heartbroken. The sooner the fucking things are banned the better.

www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/tragic-st-bernard-dog-named-winston-dies-of-heart-attack-after-being-terrified-by-fireworks-a3981956.html

Whilst personally I think explosives do not belong in peoples gardens, only in professional displays...

I think given you are not going to not do it, the best thing is to let your neighbour know the times so they have the chance to take their dog out in the car, and stick to those times rigidly.

Hopefully your neighbour has the ability to take the dog in the car somewhere far away from the noise.

As it's actual bonfire night do it, it's people that let them off for weeks around it so people aren't expecting it that's a shitter.

If you’re in a new build estate chances are the houses are really close together, how are you going to stop debris landing on other people’s property? I bet she wasn’t the only one thinking it’s selfish, at least she said to you.