To think this isn't stingy?

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Dp has just got home from work and complained at the "stingy" portions left for him. This consists of 5 (good quality) sausages, carrots, peas, broccoli and a large bowl of mash (3 generous portions). Aibu to think this is not stingy at all?

Fwiw he has already eaten breakfast, a pack up and a bacon and egg sandwich from a food van ( I only know this as h3 messaged me). And I know someone is going to ask if I underfeed him (it isn't my job to feed him) but he is 5ft 9 and at least 20 stone.

does his family kno what he is borrowing momey from them for? Yes

Has anything in his life changed around the time his eating ramped up? Nope.

Could you call the Dr, explain he refuses to see them and see what they suggest as a way of persuading him? I'd feel really violated if someone did that to me but also they wouldn't be able to discuss him with me due to confidentiality.

If we were having sausage and mash, DH would have three sausages, I'd have two, and the kids would have one, just to give an idea of our normal. That's assuming they were decent sized sausages. Up it by one each if they were thin.

@WaterOffADucksCrack What if you were to dish up dinner, but put what you think he would normally eat onto two separate plates? One containing reasonable portions (as recommended by nhs, BUPA, Myfitnesspal, or whatever establishment you think he would take notice of) and the other plate containing the extra. That might be a full-sized dinner plate, or a side plate, or whatever. Tell him that he's absolutely welcome to eat as much as he likes, but be in no doubt, that is two dinners' worth, or 1.5, or whatever. I only suggest this as a one-off, not every dinner time! It might be a visual clue as to how much he's overeating. Possibly if he's finished what's on his plate, and then raided the fridge, and then gone for the biscuits, he's not aware of just how much food he's getting through. Do you think seeing it laid out would have any impact?

Not that I think it is your responsibility to "fix" the issue - just present him with the information, it's up to him what he does with it.

greedy great pig should get hes,own food and stop moaning dont pander to it If he wants bigger meals he should do it himself maybe

Could you call the Dr, explain he refuses to see them and see what they suggest as a way of persuading him?

I'd feel really violated if someone did that to me but also they wouldn't be able to discuss him with me due to confidentiality.

I didn't mean to discuss him personally OP, which you're right they wouldn't do, more about asking if they have any techniques or ideas on how you could persuade someone to visit.

Eating chocolates you were given as a gift! That is so out of order. I’d be telling him about that too.

Get him one of these. My mate got one for her greedy DH, it went down a treat

She persevered though, and pointed out he was welcome to shop and cook for himself.

I am considering getting myself a lockable food cupboard/safe/fridge. Does one exist with a remote combi lock? Or an app where I can video food thieves?

I would absolutely have a lockable cupboard in the OPs case. If that doesn't shame him, the fact that the rest of the family need to lock away their share of food, then nothing will.

He might go on the attack and tell OP that it's her who's greedy /selfish/has an eating disorder if she's hiding food. (Obviously untrue nonsense)

I speak as someone who also has to hide certain foods that I've bought for the DC to make sure they don't disappear down DHs throat. He does the same at his mother's house. Goes to the fridge and starts eating sweets with DMIL telling him to stop, she's bought them for the GC. Disgusting behaviour IMO.